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by A. Orange
Agent-Orange, Thanks so much for the effort you put into your papers and web site. I have been through the 12-Step treatment programs and feel these are one of the most criminal institutions in the world. I could hop on my soap box for days about this. There are very few people who stand up and tell the truth about this politically correct and taboo 'Recovery' industry. I wish to leave you with nothing more than a thanks. The thought of a group of people trying to help each other with a common problem is great... this is not what these 12-Step programs are about. They consist of sick twisted individuals that live AA every waking moment (and have no clue about life outside of AA) and dictate or humiliate others. I have been out of AA for 3 months and have not been happier. I still have some work to do, but it is my work and not the work of a depressed psychotic sponsor. AA has no accountabity but has a LOT of money. Very sad how the courts toss people there. I have seen to many people kill themselves in AA, but never once had a diehard drinking buddy kill themself. I VERY MUCH believe that it is AA that kills people!!!!! Including very famous people that I have known.
AA Sucks!!! And should be investigated,
Hi Jeff,
Thanks for the letter, and I couldn't agree more.
Have a good day.
== Orange
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I appreciate that you put so much time and thought into this persuasive work, and I'm glad you are standing up for your beliefs. Still, I'm a member of A.A. and I believe in Heaven and Hell, so I think I'll keep working the program, even if it is a cult, as you are convinced it is.
Hello Jonathan,
In section #80 you wrote that the promises never come true because you never get half way through step ten, which would be true if the promises were said to come halfway through step ten, but aren't they said to come half way through step nine? (p.83) And, if I'm reading that correctly, we certainly can get halfway through our amends. You know, you are right. He begins the Promises on page 83 and continues into page 84, and then starts on Step 10 in the next sentence immediately after declaring, "Are these extravagant promises? We think not." and then making yet another promise: "They will always materialize if we work for them." I'll have to correct that. Also, in section #31, about the alleged misrepresentation of A.A. history, you said that A.A. does not talk about Dr. Buchman and his supposed sympathy for the Nazis, but "Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers" (the A.A. conference approved book) reveals all of that.
I don't remember that as having been anything more than a mild gloss-over and cover-up. I'll have to
get my hands on that book again and re-read that section.
And the historical truth is that
it really was not a case of "Dr. Buchman and his supposed sympathy for the Nazis".
There was nothing "supposed" about it.
That's the kind of gloss-over and minimization and denial that I object to. The truth is that
Dr. Frank Buchman was in Nuremberg at the Nazi Party rallies year after year,
Sieg-Heiling Hitler with the rest of them.
Check out the "Partying with the Nazi Party"
chapter of the new expanded history of the Oxford Group that I just uploaded.
And Frank Buchman was very chummy with Heinrich Himmler, and
was Himmler's personal guest at the 1936 Berlin Olympics.
A contemporary journalist, Robert Byron, wrote in his diary that
"Himmler apparently dotes on the Oxford Group and writes to its English members discussing
their troubles with them."
And above all, Frank Buchman was a Nazi apologist who never criticized
Adolf Hitler, no matter how many people Hitler killed. Buchman actually
managed to
"patriotically" wave the flag
all through World War II
without ever criticizing Hitler or the Nazis.
In addition, Frank Buchman was not the only fascist in the Oxford Group. It was full of them.
Peter Howard, who took over the leadership of the organization when Buchman died, was an old
fascist who was a member of Sir Oswald Mosley's New Party, which morphed into the B.U.F. --
the British Union of Fascists, and Peter Howard was the leader of the New Youth Movement,
Sir Oswald Mosley's copy of the Hitlerjugend.
Reinhold Niebuhr, the eminent theologian who wrote the Serenity Prayer,
strongly criticized Frank Buchman for pro-Hitler and pro-Nazi sympathies.
Niebuhr wrote an article called "Hitler and Buchman" for The Christian Century
magazine in 1936, in which he declared,
"In other words, a
Nazi social philosophy has been a covert presumption of the whole Oxford
group enterprise from the very beginning."
There just isn't any doubt about the fascist sympathies of the whole
Oxford Group. It is well-established documented facts and verified history, but the A.A.
leaders and propagandists are still doing the
Minimization and Denial
tap-dance about the whole thing, and won't be "rigorously honest".
To say "Dr. Buchman and his supposed sympathy" is grossly dishonest.
It's just like how
in PASS IT ON,
the AAWS staff deceptively wrote
(page 170), Also, no reasonable A.A. is very shaken upon learning that the founders did terrible things. They preached "progress not perfection" and they seemed to have progessed as much as any human in their situation could have been expected to progress. There is still a strong tendency among the true believers to declare that Bill and Dr. Bob were saints who brought a New Message From God. They weren't, and somebody had better tell the truth about all of that. Also, p. 212 of "Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers" says, "Some think... Dr. Bob was a bit of an autocrat..." and on p.288 Joe was quoted as having said that, "Doc was extremely democratic..." In any case, if untruths improve people's lives, and there's no downside, then what's so wrong with that?
Now you have just hit on one of the worst characteristics of Alcoholics Anonymous:
"the end justifies the means".
They falsely claim that
they have a great success rate
and have saved millions of alcoholics, and then they claim that despicable practices
like
deceptive recruiting,
coercive recruiting,
lying about the success rate,
and
rewriting history
are all okay because A.A. saves so many millions of alcoholics --
"it helps them" -- "it's for their own good".
That is simply all a lie,
the Big Lie of Alcoholics Anonymous.
Oh, by the way, the true-believer A.A. authors of "Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers" used the
Minimization and Denial trick when they
declared that
"Some think... Dr. Bob was a bit of an autocrat...".
As if, well, a few stupid jerks think it, but what do they know?....
Actually,
Dr. Bob's daughter Susan wrote
that he was an autocratic authoritarian sadistic fool
who whittled a wooden paddle with which to beat his children, modifying it so that it would hurt more.
That is a lot more serious than it being a case of "just a few
uninformed people think that maybe Dr. Bob was a bit of an autocrat."
God either is, or he isn't, and I choose to believe he is. By believing, you lose nothing, and if you're right, you gain something that is infinitely good and valuable. You would probably take up bets any day in which you risked much more than nothing, and would stand to gain much, much, less than something infinitely good and infinitely valuable. I have no objections to you believing in God. In fact, I do too. I also believe in something that I would call general morality, or everyday ethics, and I see A.A. as an organization violating such moral, ethical, and spiritual principles all of the time. I hope to see you at meetings. Until then, if you can stay sober and relatively happy and productive, my hat is off to you.
Thank you. Yeh, I'm staying clean and sober. I am only
2 weeks away from my 5th anniversary. I also have 5 years off of tobacco,
thank God for small favors.
But I don't know if you'll see me at a meeting, not even to pick up my 5-Year coin.
I still haven't bothered to go to an A.A. meeting to pick up coins for years 2, 3, or 4.
(sorry for the spelling and grammatical errors, but it's one a.m.) That's all right. I have that problem too. (I just get a lot of second and third chances to run spell-checkers and re-read and finally catch all of those things.) P.S. I take a mood stabilizer and an anti-psychotic for bipolar, and I have been clean and sober for a little over fourteen months, and as far as I can tell from all of the A.A. literature, and the pertinent pamphlets, everything is as it should be. The Big Book says, "Try to remember that though God has wrought miracles among us, we should never belittle a good doctor or psychiatrist. Their services are often indispensable in treating a necomer and in following his case afterward," (p.133 The Family Afterward). (PLEASE make sure that the friend you wrote about who has a mental illness knows about both this last quote, and the A.A. pamphlet about medications. I pray and hope that he will take his meds regularly.
Yes, that is the contradiction
(or bait-and-switch stunt).
In the Big Book, Bill Wilson very clearly
told people to go to doctors and get treated, and yet so many fanatics today are
harming sponsees with
this no-medications nonsense,
even killing people.
And that has been going on for
so many years. I hear that, around 1990 or so, the A.A. headquarters sent out a
memo telling the sponsors to stop instructing their sponsees not to take their
doctor-prescribed medications,
but the sponsors just ignored that request and kept on doing it anyway.
(I'd love to get a copy of that memo; maybe somebody has one.)
Heck, Carolyn See, who was the step-daughter of Wynn Corum,
who was the authoress of the Big Book story "Freedom From Bondage",
reported that during her childhood, she heard the early A.A. members bickering over whether
taking aspirin for a headache was a slip from pure sobriety.
This seems to be one of those cases where there is a big difference between what is written
on paper and what the real traditions are.
Take Care,
Yes, I will, thank you, and you take care too. And have a good day.
== Orange
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Hello Orange, Very nice and extensive and easy to explore site. I really am impressed with the documentation of source info. I also like the ease of clicking on a word linked to another page. Very Coool and very helpful. Have you ever published a formal book for store's? And what's with the anonymity? I'm sure you are familiar with support groups like LSR; lifering secular recovery. Personally I think it would add to credibility if you did and did away with that Orange Secret... whatever when I went to the main page. If I saw that before looking at the other stuff, I might have gone no further. Thinking that it was just crap and not of quality. Your site is of quality. I think you should reconsider and drop that part and put a real name up there. Rich C.
Hi Rich,
Thanks for the letter, and thanks for all of the complements.
Yes, I get a few requests now and then for a printed book. Alas, I can't
help but feel like paper is obsolete. The links don't work.
It would take so much surgery to prepare a book for the printing press that
I don't know if it's work the effort. It would be a very low-volume book.
What I do is suggest that people download all of the archive files so that they
will have the entire website, and then burn CDs. (The archive files are listed on
the main menu page.)
About the "Secret Agent Orange" thing:
Yes, I have thought of abandoning it, and I will someday.
Part of my reason for remaining anonymous is that I am in the heart of
the beast right now, in a "recovery community", and I don't need rabid Steppers gunning
for me, thanks anyway.
(And I'm not just being paranoid, either.
Charles Bufe, who wrote one of the first good exposés
of A.A.,
Alcoholics Anonymous: Cult or Cure?,
had his garage torched by an arsonist last year.
The fire destroyed most of his files on A.A.. Gee, what a coincidence.)
I don't know a lot about LSR. I have heard good things about them, but have no experience.
I have poked in there a few times, and shall again.
I need to wrack up a lot more Internet cruising time.
Up until a few weeks ago, I was extremely limited in my connectivity to the Internet,
and didn't have much browsing time. Now I have a WiFi card and am able to connect to
a free server that is very unreliable, but at least it still lets me get in there
and get some stuff done now and then.
Have a good day.
== Orange
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can you provide me with direct linkage between Bill, or Bob, with Bachman. I'm in AA, I'm considered a heretic by many, and I find we share many of the same concerns. I don't believe in sacred cows and a Mother Theresa is not hiding behind every bush waiting to jump out and save us. Cheers Ric O.
Hi Ric,
The simplest and most obvious linkage is that Bill Wilson and Dr. Robert Smith both
joined Frank Buchman's cult religion, and they liked it so much that they stole it and
made it their own cult. Alcoholics Anonymous is just the Oxford Group dressed up in
a shabbier suit of clothes.
See
the history of A.A. and the Oxford Group, here.
I get the feeling that you might be thinking of face-to-face contact.
That was rare. The story I hear is that Frank Buchman and Bill Wilson may have met
a few times, and shook hands once. When Frank Buchman was in New York City, Bill
Wilson served as an usher at one of Frank's affairs.
But in general, Buchman and Wilson lived in two different worlds. Frank Buchman
liked to hang out with millionaires, kings, queens, and princes, and he had little
use for poor alcoholics.
The person who did have a lot of contact with Bill Wilson was Rev. Sam Shoemaker, the
number two man in the Oxford Group.
Sam Shoemaker was a very different sort of man than Frank Buchman. Shoemaker ran a
rescue mission for down-and-out alcoholics in New York City, Calvary House, as well
as running his own Episcopal church,
Calvary Church at Fourth Ave and 21st St.,
and also managing the American branch of the Oxford
Group. Bill Wilson and Sam Shoemaker knew each other well, and Bill and his wife Lois
went to services and Oxford Group meetings at Sam's church. That is well-documented history.
I hope that answers your question.
have a good day.
== Orange
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Wow! I have been resistant to AA/NA for the kind of reasons you discuss in your article. I quit using cocaine without therapy or a support group when I was hooked on it in the Big 80's. Later I developed a dependency on sleeping meds and also quit those on my own. Nevertheless, I have AA members in my life who insist I will relapse without using the twelve steps and going to meetings. What is your own background? What are the Orange Papers? I'd like to know more.
Thanks,
Hi Heather,
Thanks for the letter.
I'm glad to hear that you are doing well and keeping your head above water.
And of course you can continue to abstain from drugs without joining a cult.
You didn't need them when you quit, and you don't need them now.
My background? That's complicated, because I am so many things. That is,
no one label says it all. I am, among other things, the
son of an alcoholic military sergeant, also an old hippie, also an old computer programmer,
also an alcoholic or ex-alcoholic, depending on which wording you prefer.
And I'm also somebody who saw through the hoax and got sober without A.A. or any
such "program".
I have been asked who or what I am many times, so I have a bunch of fragments
here and there.
What are the Orange Papers? Just my writings, my take on the whole subject.
The name is a take-off of 'white papers',
with a twist on
mixing apples and oranges.
Have a good day.
== Orange
[2nd letter from Heather:]
Date: Sat, November 12, 2005 http://www.salon.com/weekly/shrink1.html A wonderful interview with an author and psychologist who speaks out about the culture of victimhood and how to transcend it... Right on! Heather G.
Hi Heather,
Thanks for the tip.
The *only* disagreement I have with her is the line,
"Alcoholics Anonymous has been good to some people."
I would reword that and say, "Some people have recovered while
going to A.A. meetings, but there is no evidence that they recovered
*because of* the A.A. meetings or the 12-Step program."
Well, thanks again for the tip. Have a good day.
== Orange
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Hey Orange! I was looking through your site for any references to what you do at meetings, and could not see any headings like that. I am beginning to state some facts that I discovered in researching your site at meetings I go to, and so far have been called an asshole, lol. Also, that person told me to keep coming back, presumably because more would be revealed (by god through AA/NA people) and I would see the light. I have been going to meetings for 12 years and have some years of sobriety too, so I found myself a little resentful at being treated as a newbie! To be fair, I called Bill Wilson a lying, cheating, stealing, carousing asshole at an NA meeting, so I suppose I can expect some harsh words directed at me. But I was wondering what you do and say when you go to meetings. It is not my intent to hurt anyone, they are mostly ignorant of what they have accepted as gospel, so must be treated more gently than those who are truly self-appointed gurus, in my opinion. My intent is to tell the truth so that less people get more hurt by AA/NA. Burton H.
Hi Burton,
Good for you. It's fun to hear of somebody telling the truth now and then.
Your problem sounds so familiar. I have pretty much decided not to go to A.A. meetings
any more, simply because I can't really tell the truth there.
Oh, I could cause a scene, but what's the point?
There is just such a huge gulf between what they believe is true and what I believe or know is true
that there is little common ground to talk about.
My approach to sobriety is a 180 degree reversal of most everything that they believe.
We could spend hours and days and months or years arguing, but would that help anyone?
I am more than willing to tell the truth to anyone who wants to hear it,
so I do this web site.
The basic problem is just that a lot of people really don't want to hear the truth.
They just want their favorite beliefs repeated. That is not just a problem with A.A.;
it is actually a very common problem with humanity in general.
It just shows up more strongly in some kinds of groups, particularly in cult religions
and extremist political parties, but it is everywhere to some extent.
My favorite book on that subject is
The Wrong Way Home, Uncovering the Patterns of
Cult Behavior in American Society, by
Arthur J. Deikman, M.D..
Dr. Deikman was on a Congressional committee that studied cults after
the Jonestown mass suicide and the murder of Congressman Leo J. Ryan,
and one of the disturbing facts that he
noticed was that cultish behavior was not restricted to cult religions. It was
present to some degree in many of our institutions -- even government agencies
and the White House. He did post-mortems on both Kennedy's Bay of Pigs fiasco
and Ronald Reagan's Iran-Contra Arms For Hostages and Contra Cocaine for Guns disasters.
In both cases he found cultish behavior leading people down the primrose path.
In both administrations there was suppression of dissent, devaluing the outsider,
dependence on a charismatic leader, and demands for compliance with the group.
The result was that people just believed that what they were doing was right,
and nothing could go wrong.
So anyway, what is my solution to the problem? Either go to a SMART meeting, or just don't
go to any meetings at all. They aren't really necessary.
Have a good day.
== Orange
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I dont understand. Why so much hostillity towards AA? This site really made me think...........If AA is a cult, then I am a proud member!!
Sincerely
Hi John,
Do you really have to ask why?
Have a good day anyway.
== Orange
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(Note: I just sent a similar version of this to another website, Positive Atheist, I confused the two of you! Hope thats OK to resend here? I just want to add my two cents wherever I can on this cult). Sure, no problem.
Dear A. Orange: I love your website! THANK YOU! To qualify myself: I'm 48 and I have been in AA for 14 and ½ years. I've been an active female member and I've been a key member in founding meetings and even helped found an entire fellowship that is still on -- going for over ten years now. Having said all that: When I first came into AA in 1991 I was immediately struck by its patriarchal oppressive nature and its overt "christian" tone. I never agreed with the concept that I should suppress all forms of (my) anger and other strong emotion. (Like you, I think anger can be a healthy form of expression. AA makes it a crime!) And did not agree that every time I was victimized that I always had "a part in it". Neither did I let my first sponsor insist I be "on my knees to God" as the "best way" -- pagans stand and face the directions. All the same, I stuck around, desperate to stay sober -- but an outspoken member who announced herself as "pagan", read "He" as "She" (or "he/she") at meeting level and amused members by chanting a feminized version of the Lords Prayer at the end of every meeting. I think one reason I survived in AA this long has something to do with the fact I went long periods in between sponsors and have only ever had two. (Being independent minded, I thought it absurd to consult someone else on every little detail of how to live my life, once I quit drinking.) I did pretty well following my own instincts. Both women proved, ultimately to be a let down; and one was down right disturbing. It has been my observation, as a woman in AA, that turning my thoughts and life over to the care of another female addict who is usually sicker than I could ever hope to be... and allowing her to run my life, is not healthy for me -- or any woman, or anyone! Most of these women in 12step have never confronted their own "slave mentality" as it has been cultivated in our male-dominated culture. My observation is they all still adhere (albeit perhaps often unconsciously) to the culturally imposed misogynistic parameters -- which AA reinforces via its religiosity! (YES, it is religious -- not just spiritual!) Knowing that, how could I trust any of them with running MY life? I think sponsorship should really be called The Sick Puppet Master Syndrome. (As written, AA dogma makes it conducive for sponsors to meddle in all aspects of one's life, you can't get around that if it says drinking is a "moral issue" that pervades the addict's entire life. That's a "green light" for bullying on the sponsor's part, right there. They're compelled then to look at everything you do because your alcoholic stinking thinking tainted it, all of it. Supposedly.) My first sponsor, an elder statesman of many years (well over twenty years sober) tried to pressure me into staying in an ill-matched relationship with a "nice guy" via her dismissive comments. The depression caused from following her advice almost "did me in". (I had revealed to her I still had feelings for another who had "left the fold".) When I finally insisted I was breaking up with this (more respectable/approved) member and did not believe in having regrets over that decision (she kept hinting I would have regrets if I acted rashly, "you're not getting any younger, you know") she cried out in astonishment "Have no regrets?? You can't say that! You're not GOD!!" She then informed me -- get this! -- that:"Well, if you're going to break up with him, you need to sit down and figure out what took you so long! Ask yourself why this relationship went on as long as it did!" I was only in this relationship a little over 18 months, I had begun to have doubts several months prior to the break up -- SHE was the reason "it took me so long!" (And besides: How many times do I have to over-analyze a breakup?? Obviously I'd already given it heavy thought! What? Now I have to analyze the analysis?? I'm sorry, I'm not that obsessive.) By the way, I have NEVER regretted the break up and while I remain single I'm happy to report this (indeed, decent) man whom I remained on good terms with, having let him down as gently as possible, is now in the happiest relationship of his life, a much better match for him. MY instincts were correct -- and with way less "sobriety" under my belt than my sponsor. My second sponsor many years later, proved to be the Sponsor from Hell. Initially nurturing and sweet (I bonded with her so well, I was going to her house once a week) she turned on me when I was laid off from my job along with 35 other people. It was the first time I had ever been laid off in 31 years of employment, having worked since I was sixteen to put food on the table for my family way back when. (I say that to illustrate my level of responsibility, even into my drinking years.) Twelve days into my unemployment, I had hit the ground running! Was attending resume seminars, had my resume up on websites, dry cleaned the interview clothes and was "upping" my meetings and remaining positive. This sponsor having witnessed my chirpy progress. proceeded to go ballistic on me all in one day -- making repeated harassing/growling phone calls and making up, out of her own head, frightening "facts" about how I was "in danger", responsible for my own job loss, "letting my anger keep me from working on my resume"(??), lazy, incapable of finding a job on my own and behaving like a "sixteen year old." (An interesting comment, considering how responsible I had been AS a sixteen year old!) I couldn't believe what I was hearing. Good thing I wasn't a newcomer or she could have done major damage turning on me like that when I was "down". As with the first sponsor, she applied a "one size fits all" addict profile to me without knowing my history and disregarding what she did know. It broke my heart but I had enough self respect this time to bellow back at the old biddy, when she wouldn't let up, "Enough! YOU'RE FIRED!" This woman, like so many others I know, is a member of numerous Step groups: OA, Al-Anon and Couples in Recovery. And, I've come to realize, like most Steppers -- is HIGHLY DISTURBED. It is now my deeply held belief sponsorship is dangerously crippling to the vulnerable addict and just a case of The Confused Dominating the Soon-to-be More Confused. Deranged minds should not be handed that kind of power over others. 12Step does just that, shame on it! I could go on and on -- and maybe I will. Like the author Elayne Rapping, I began to observe at a more and more alarming rate, how many women around me, including two best friends, were trading in their sense of self for a "more regressive worldview". These ladies were allowing the diplomas they studied for in sobriety (one in law and one in child psychology) to gather dust while they made the Circuit of 12step. (AA-OA-Al-Alon. -- start over.) It began to dawn on me as my political activism took off, and they, among many, pulled away from me in flustered embarrassment -- that women like these two were living for the applause of the group and its vacuous vicious cycle of Narcissistic Navel Gazing. Their own private lives might have been a mess -- but if they could attend OA and lose weight, suppress all signs of anger and submit to the elder statesman alpha white males in AA -- whether they truly agreed with their pontificating or not! -- then they "looked good" to the group, received the group's approval and admiration -- and that was enough, apparently. They were slim and smiling -- what more could society ask of them? (I begin to wonder at Ira Levin's choice in naming that fictitious town STEPford! Seriously, could there be a connection? I now wonder). In looking back on my relationship with these two and others, I now realize in the dozen plus years I've known them I have never seen change. They are still the same high-maintenance, self-absorbed, plastic souls they always were! All they learned how to do was wear "the mask" society and AA asked of them. So much for that "Spiritual Awakening"! I've started to lose touch with them but near as I can see all they've ever added to their lives is more and more 12Step groups. For all I know they're now in CODA, GA and SLA as well. (Well maybe its just as well the one doesn't practice law and the other is not in charge of a child's well-being...) These last 2 to 3 years in the fellowship have been hell. Sheer hell, that I mistakenly was duped into thinking I needed to endure for "my sobriety's" sake! Hah! The war (and other issues like gay marriage) brought out the racist, see-no-evil side of AA big time! I never brought up politics at meeting level. But just a hint of my progressive leanings at casual "gatherings after the meetings" would cause the alpha male Steppers to verbally circle and attack me like sharks, taking chunks out of me, while others -- meek betas and omegas in the pack -- looked on passively and looked away -- my so-called friends, leaving me to my fate!) I have gone from an entire fellowship of so-called "close" friends down to 3 or 4 trusted friends in sobriety, while seeking support and refuge in the Peace and Humanist movements. I got sick of hearing that, regarding the war, "this too shall pass" from silk sheet drunks who have never had a bomb dropped on them. One idiot tried to tell me he was not in a war zone because "that's not God's lesson for me today." !!?! (And it's a lesson for the Iraqis and their children??) AA has literally raised up a hidden army of "Conformist Zombies for God" that is right up there with the rest of the Religious Right. They are VERY DANGEROUS in their complacent citizenry -- probably as dangerous as any "born again" zealot, in their own way -- and as Kevin Russell observed in his article in American Atheist ("A State religion: AA and NA" 2003) "If democracy is a casualty, they won't know it." SAD BUT TRUE! And of course, once I began announcing at meeting level, "AA -- you people! -- have turned me into an atheist." the anger of the "alphas" became even more palpable and threatening. (And keep in mind: I am writing this from liberal northern California!). I have nothing to do with most of those former close friends -- I don't "want what they have!" -- and with only 3 exceptions I have NEVER seen ANY of these pious fools at peace vigils or peace demonstrations. In fact, they are made highly uncomfortable by even the mention of war. (Its as if, to admit the war's very existence would refute the existence of their absurd Micro-Managing God -- as well it logically should!!!) One close friend -- whom I've known since way before 12step! -- once remarked defensively concerning my stance on the war (and we weren't even in a meeting at the time!) that: "We have no opinions on outside issues!" What she really mean't was "We have no opinions." Or, more to the point: "We have no Outside!" (By the way, I loved what you said under "Random Thoughts"! Its true. The women check whats left of their spines at the door and I refer to most of the men who aren't bellicose alphas... as AA GELDINGS.) By the way its interesting to note that some of the most revered "patriarchs" in my neck of AA have interesting "backgrounds" and affiliations. Whether they're bible toting, born again evangelicals, members of The Activity (another cult!) -- or sporting criminal records of spousal abuse and/or pedophilia. I've never seen anyone shut these men up, or attempt to -- which is odd, because they all try to stop me from talking or sticking up for myself. No, gurus like that (both the bellicose biker types and the pseudo-serene ghandi types) amass followers within AA and even get standing ovations when they speak. The common thread, with some, seems to be their ability to wear a persona of emotion-less serenity. Lack of emotion being a trait AA'ers are taught to admire without question. I have watched men fawn in admiration over the COLD remote member who brags he did not "have to" cry at his own child's funeral!! It's CHILLING what gets admired and touted as "spiritual" in the rooms of AA! I have seen and heard it all. PS: This email would be another two pages if I commented on the Sexual Predatory aspect of AA and the harm that's done that I've seen, but others on your website have covered that nicely. I would however like to point out that: in keeping with the country its founded in, isn't it "funny" that AAer's are often called on to do a separate "sexual inventory" -- as if that is the HEIGHT of importance and needs additional examination beyond the ordinary? -- but not a separate "violence inventory"? (Considering we're in a country that would rather look at a president's sex life as opposed to where he's waging war... I guess that would figure, huh? sigh. Again, the religious overtones of "sex equals sin".) At this point in time I keep most of these thoughts to myself as I "edge along the wall and make my way towards the EXIT sign." I have one "secular format" AA meeting in my county (believe it or not, we have one and it's Central office "approved") I still attend at this time, but I have no sponsor, I do no more "service" or attendance in other rooms, mouth no prayers and I am slowly burning all my twelve step material (I can't give it away, its too corrupting, I'd feel guilty!) I keep only the 6 Steps of S.O.S. (changed to the first person, since there are no meetings in my area) on my refrigerator door. Let's face it, I've been sober by my own hard work this whole time, anyway. God didn't do it, I did. Once I leave this area -- and I am planning to move, eventually -- I will leave AA behind as well, for good, all of it. I acknowledge I have met SOME genuinely kind well-meaning souls in AA's rooms... However, for the most part: It is a disturbed cult and on the whole: full of disturbed narcissistic, spiritually-stunted CREEPY people that I wish no further connection with! (Living among them is tantamount to being Darryl Hannah's character in "Clan of the Cave Bear"! And frankly, I'm guessing that cavemen probably had a broader, healthier worldview!) PS: I completely understand why people bury their affiliation with AA. Its not really embarrassment so much as it is: like being in "full flight" from a cult! Because it doesn't even pay to admit you are a former member -- even if you wanted to acknowledge out of courtesy that you received some help from this direction. Because, alas, only full lifelong allegiance is acceptable to them! Anything less is a blasphemy in AA's eyes! Any member you run into will view you with suspicion and condemn you as "dry" instead of "sober" once they discover you have pulled away from the fold -- as if they have the right to re-define Webster's definition! Such arrogance. (And frankly I'm tired of these idiots walking up into my face and talking to me slowly as if *I* were the insane one! In the 12Step Asylum the inmates are jangling the keys, no question!) Again, thank you for this website! Keep on getting the word out, keep up the good work! It has helped me get through a difficult and painful "awakening". Thanks too, for having Kasl's book on your Top Ten list! Her book is also getting me through this transition period, she's amazing. Love what a lot of other former AA'ers have said on your site. (As for the naysayers: they're still brainwashed, here's they wake up!) Nice to know I'm in good company.
Don't post my email address, but just sign me CURED.
Okay, Madame,
Thanks for a great story, and have a good day. -- Oh, and yes, isn't
Charlotte Kasl
just such a joy to read?
== Orange
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Hi, Just stumbled on your web page. I thought it was extraordinary. I'm an atheist in AA (with 15 yrs. sobriety) and have always hated the 'God stuff.' I really think you put it all quite well. Obviously well researched too. Thanks a lot? Doug
Hi Doug,
Thanks for the thanks, and have a good day.
== Orange
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To Mr or Mrs A.Orange, enjoyed your pages on Bill Wilson "Our" Beloved Founder & Saviour, I like one of "his" quotes from the 12x12 book, don't take life to seriously, its the classic story of human nature, don't do as i do, but do as i say (a bit of a control freak), AA has helped many human beings, but as in Life where there is a positive, there is also a negative, I think AA is a CULT, and Cults the World Over have 2 things In Common, they Rule With FEAR & CONTROL........ Life Is For Living & Enjoying, It's Too Short........ *Alan.... Scotland I wear the same Halo as Bill Wilson(Not).....*
Hi Alan,
Yes, I agree. Wouldn't it be nice if that "Don't take life so
seriously" remark was read out loud at the start
of every meeting, instead of that stuff about "NEVER have we seen
a person fail... constitutionally incapable of being honest..."
And in the interests of not being too serious, let's all go read
The Jokes Page. (I added a few new ones.)
And have a good day.
== Orange
[2nd letter from Alan:]
Date: Thu, October 13, 2005 Hi Orange, had a wee look @ your site on A.A., it will appeal to some A.A.'s and it will "upset" other A.A.'s, and as in LIFE the vast Majority will just get on with Life, +/- ying yang, I stay sober, and get on with Life, Why ? Because thats what the Rest of The HUMAN Family Does, Capitalism, Politicians, War, Hate & Global Warming Etc Etc Etc are Killing Our World & The Human Family, But "every" thing is O.K. in the A.A. Bubble, as long as Alkies don't drink...... Talk about Bury your Head in the Sand ...... *Alan.... Scotland.... p.s. my Real Name Is Secret Agent Banana... (Honest) *
Hi again, Alan, and thanks for the comments and the laugh.
Have a good day.
== Orange
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If AA doesn't work, what does?
Hi Carl,
The answer is so simple that lots of people miss it:
If you want to quit drinking, then quit drinking.
Just quit drinking.
Just don't put any more alcohol in your mouth.
Just stop drinking alcohol.
You don't need any program or organization for that.
Quitting drinking basically happens in about 5 seconds.
That's about how long it takes to really make the big decision.
For me the magic moment was when a friend took me out for pizza. I had already sort of decided to quit drinking,
had resigned myself to quitting, knew that I had to quit. My doctor had told me, "Quit drinking or die. Choose one."
And I knew that he wasn't joking.
I had also ended up homeless. I was just so sick that I couldn't work, so I got way behind on the bills and got
evicted. Cloudy as my mind was, I could see that things weren't working out right. So I decided to quit drinking.
Out on the streets, I
had tapered off and pretty much drank nothing for the previous week, but had taken a few sips when people
offered me hits off of their drinks.
Then my status as a veteran got me a place in a homeless shelter and I
was slated to start an alcoholism treatment program in a few weeks.
Then a friend showed up and offered to take me out for pizza.
At the pizza parlor, I ordered pizza and a beer.
I sort of figured that just one wouldn't hurt, or some such thinking.
Then a little voice inside me said, "If you are really going to do
this thing, if you are really going to quit, then let's not be fucking around."
I changed that order for a beer to a lemonaid. And that was it.
That was 5 years ago, and I haven't had a drink since.
Now I suspect that what you are looking for is something that will help you to develop the resolve to quit drinking.
Perhaps you need something to help you to break out of old habits and strengthen your will power and clarify your
thinking.
That is a different issue.
I recommend two things for that: SMART and Rational Recovery.
SMART teaches mental techniques like Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, which is really just a high-falutin way
of saying that you should practice weighing the benefits and costs of some course of action (like drinking or doping),
and also examining your beliefs and ripping out by the roots old irrational beliefs.
SMART meetings are good things. Going to a bunch of them can help.
You can also read these books:
Also check out the other 20 or 30 books on that "Top 10" list.
Rational Recover is no longer an organization or a meeting; it is a book.
The heart of it is the realization that we have a primitive old reptilian brain inside our heads
that is so stupid that it will never
stop believing that smoking, drinking and drugging are fun and feel great, just as good as food and sex.
And old lizard brain will never stop yammering about how we should just have a little one now.
See Trimpey's book
Rational Recovery,
and also read my web page on
The Lizard Brain Addiction Monster.
Not allowing that
little monster to seduce me back into smoking and drinking is a BIG part of my recovery.
Good luck, and have a good day. Don't hesitate to write back if you have any further questions or issues.
== Orange
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Hey Mr. Orange: Why have you got such a hate on for Bill W.? Sure, he was an egoist and belonged to a 50's paradigm or modality of thought. But surely the program of AA has helped more people than it has harmed. And the spirit if the Big Book, although it does have its moments of odd sounding logic and ideology, is one of generosity, of wanting to help others. Whereas the spirit of your papers seems to me to be one of vitriol and passive-aggressive self-righteousness. I hate to say it, but I think you have a RESENTMENT. Why, exactly? What's your story? Please tell me, what were your intentions here? Are you yourself a recovered alcoholic? I don't believe Bill was a Saint, but I do find his writings nonetheless helpful in my own struggle to understand addictions and how to overcome them. Would you recommend a different approach, another philosophy, a better book perhaps?
Curious,
Hi Robyn,
Thanks for the letter.
You asked, "Why such 'hatred' for Bill W.?"
I think it is a really low despicable crime to lie to sick people about what might cure them.
It is also the lowest of the low to use religion to deceive and manipulate people.
As Mahatma Ghandi said,
You parrot the standard A.A. malarkey about "having a resentment".
I really can't count how many times I've heard that, but I'll try.
Look
But just for fun, for giggles and grins, just for a different approach,
let's say that
*I do* "have a resentment",
a really big fat healthy monster of a resentment.
So what?
What then? What happens? Does the sky fall? Does my head explode? Do I instantly relapse?
That can't be true, because I have 5 years of sobriety now, and my resentment against Bill Wilson has grown
stronger, not weaker, over the years, as I have read more and more of his books and learned more of the real truth about him,
and learned more of the real truth about Alcoholics Anonymous.
Then you asked,
"Why, exactly? What's your story? Please tell me, what
were your intentions here? Are you yourself a recovered alcoholic?"
Obviously, you haven't read a lot of my pages if you don't know whether I'm a recovered alcoholic.
Start with
You asked, "Why?" I've answered that question so many times that I'll just point you to the answers
here, and
here, and
here.
Just a few minutes ago, I answered the question about what else might help, so I'll point you to that answer
here.
Have a good day, and a good life.
== Orange
[2nd letter from Robyn:]
Date: Mon, October 31, 2005 Dear Mr. Orange, Here is just one of your innumerable failures at a fair treatment of your subject (occurring one after the other on every page): "Then Step Twelve tells you to go recruiting, to draft more alcoholics into this madness." Wrong. If you've been around AA even a few weeks you'll surely hear one of the AA sayings, repeated ad nauseum: "Attraction rather than promotion." Or the responsibility pledge: "When anyone anywhere, reaches out for help, I want the hand of AA always to be there. And for that I am responsible." In other words, there is no recruiting in AA. In fact, the opposite approach is practiced. Your ignorance on this point alone disqualifies you from making any judgments regarding AA that are of any value. It is obvious you are coming from an extremely biased point of view, and that you are not a scholar, although you poorly pretend to be.
Hello again, Robyn,
I am not ignorant on that point. I know all of the facts, which you seem
to be pointedly ignoring.
When A.A. declares that it is a program of attraction, not promotion, that
is just a hypocritical lie. A.A. has always been a program of coercion and promotion, not attraction.
Alcoholics Anonymous has been practicing coercive recruiting since
Day One. The book Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers describes how Dr. Bob
and Bill Wilson shoved their
Oxford Group cult religion
"treatment" on A.A. Number Three, Bill Dotson, when he was in
the hospital:
Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob actually felt entitled to shove their own
cult religion on other alcoholics regardless of the patient's wishes or
beliefs -- "for his own good" -- the patient didn't get any
say in the matter. (That is still the attitude of many so-called counselors
and therapists today.)
By the way, The book Dr. Bob and the Good Oldtimers is official
"council-approved" A.A. history.
And nothing has changed in the following 65 years.
In the November 2002 issue of Grapevine, A.A. pundits summarized the
results from the most recent official A.A. Triennial Survey.
It revealed that 61% of the current A.A. membership was coerced,
pressured, or shoved into A.A. by the criminal justice system or
health care systems. That is not a program of attraction.
Furthermore, "if you've been around AA even a few weeks" (to use your phrase),
then you have undoubtedly seen people handing in those slips of paper to get signatures for
the court or some program or other. Those people are forced to be at those meetings,
OR ELSE. That is coercion and promotion, not attraction. And you know that. You can't NOT know it.
You have eyes that work. You can see what is going on.
So you are in denial of what is in front of your face.
Denial isn't just a river in Egypt.
Read these two items for the rest of the details about A.A. recruiting: From The Orange papers I only see how unabashedly prejudiced you are in your views against AA. The statistics you site are unreliable to say the least and of course statistics in studies like these mean little to nothing. Your ''arguments' are skewed in a manner akin to bad sophomoric rhetoric. This is not a rigorous criticism of AA, this is a blatant rant of a small intellect and a big resentment. I could pick your 'papers' apart as easily as plucking the wings off of a dead fly, but I'm not so sadistic as that, nor do I have the time. Again, I ask you, why have you put so much effort into such nay-saying speechifying? You seem like a very damaged person who is pointing the finger at AA--admittedly, not a perfect organization, which yes, does have some of the /superficial /trappings of a cult--as the cause of your damage. But hey, if you actually did the steps thoroughly yourself then you might begin to look at the true culprit, which is you. Don't be afraid. You can do it! Really, physician, heal thy self. Love Robyn
Well Robyn, the reason that I put so much effort into it is because somebody
has to tell the truth to counter the river of lies that comes out of the A.A.
propaganda machine to promote 12-Step quack medicine. You should ask why
so many people expend
so much effort to promote a program
that has
a zero-percent success rate,
about normal spontaneous remission. (Besides to make money...)
Oh well, have a good day anyway.
== Orange
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Dear Mr. Orange, I have been frequenting your web site for over a year now. I feel it's about time to write and let you know how important the information contained on your site is. You certainly have done a lot of research. Your site has confirmed a lot of the things I have witnessed and encountered the last several years. I will sometimes have to stop reading an article because my emotions get the best of me. I would consider myself a victim of the 12 step industry but we both know it does me no good now. The important thing is that I have finally gotten out of the 12 step "mentality" and am beginning to know peace. It's ironic and sad that the people/institutions I turned to made things worse. I am now recovering from an addition and the abuses doled out by a dysfunctional religious cult. I know... as if there was any other type of cult. Like you I hope to use my anger (outrage) to help others so they don't have to experience what I went through. I believe that I belong to the category of alcoholics that don't get sober through 12 step indoctrination and don't have the sense to get off the merry-go-round in time. I know there are others... some of them people I care about. It's sad to see them go in and out of the "hallowed" rooms of AA and endure the disillusionment, lies, deceit, condescension... all of the bullshit. It's so cruel. Anyway, I remember when your site was out of order for a period. I was devastated to say the least. Your hard work and diligence has resulted in a "one stop" source of information. I feel I should at least ask if I can help in some way... maybe a donation or something. It's very important to me that you remain online. As a health care provider I have also been mandated to rehab and 12 step attendance. I hope to avoid any type of " treatment" in the future. Of course staying sober will undoubtably help. I'm still concerned about being in "compliance" and forced into attending meetings or lying about it. It's truly an absurd situation. The addiction industry/recovery group movement (per Jack Trimpey) is in my experience a juggernaut of sorts. There is just too much money/job security at stake for people in the field to do anything but the status quo. It is as one author wrote a "great American tragedy". More of a travesty really. Ok well keep up the good work. I hope to begin writing (journaling) some of my experiences, observations and feelings. Who knows, it may someday make a good book. I also wanted to say that it's funny to read some of the "hate mail" that you receive. It doesn't surprise me that most of it is written by morons who can never argue a point or engage in any type of intelligent /logical discussion or debate. Thanks again.
Sincerely,
Wow, Chris, thanks for all of the complements. That kind of stuff really brightens my day,
and makes me feel like I might be on the right track after all.
You have a good day too.
== Orange
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Hi there, My name is Alan S. and I need some information from you about alcoholics anonymous. I really don't have all the time in the world at this very moment, but I am in the middle of a long term debate which is starting to look as if it may get a bit nasty. The debate is with my ex-drug and alcohol counselors who insist that AA works, and more ridiculous than that, insist that AA works substantially better than non-treatment. The arguement started to get nasty on one counselors part when I was told more than once that I was talking out of my ass. I brought in all 115 pages of your webpage bound together as proof to my claims, but this was, of course, not enough. So, what I am in search of are statistics which can be traced. I need to find statistics on the recovery of individuals without treatment programs, and also through the use of Rational Recovery, SMART etc. They are under the impression that although I hold documented research and statistics in my hands I can not judge the validity of AA's claims without having participated in the program myself. That "if you have not eaten spinach how can you say that spinach is gross?" We both know, and I told him, that such logic is, well, illogical. I was told that "we deal with intangibles here." It got absurd. I was laughed at, literally laughed at, by this counselor who sounds nothing short of a hyenna when I called what they're doing to people sad and ridiculous. If you have a phone number where I could reach you then I would gladly pay the cost of the call. Speaking as the closest person to a pacifist who I know personally, I find it somewhat regrettable to say that I felt a great urge to slap these men upside their heads with your essay towards the end of the conversation. My name is Alan S. and my phone number is xxx-xxx-xxxx I live on the west coast and I am home only in the evenings any given day of the week. This means a lot to me especially considering that I was told upon asking if I could come in and tell each meeting that they were not required to attend Alcoholics Anonymous that "fine you can do that, but when these people die of alcoholism then their deaths are on your head." I was once again told that I was speaking from ignorance as well as out of my ass. There is one other counselor who is, although no more logical or rational, a bit more reasonable to speak with. I am, of course, speaking of the counselor addicted to cigarettes and not coffee. I can jokingly say that it was fate and an act of divine intervention which brought me to your website! Never could it have been by my own doing! Nothing could ever be! Thanks again, Alan S. !!!Captian Ggooins
Hi Alan,
Thanks for the letter. Boy do I have something to say.
First off, those counselors who are promoting the 12-Step program are pulling the
propaganda trick of
Shift the Burden of Proof Onto Your Opponent.
They are insisting that you prove that A.A. doesn't work.
And of course no evidence of the inefficacy of 12-Step treatment that
you supply to those counselors will satisfy them.
They would have no jobs if they admitted that their
big cure was just selling ineffective cult religion to the suckers.
There is no valid proof that A.A. works, or that treatment programs based on A.A. work.
What you must demand -- constantly demand, and don't back down on this point -- is: What that means is:
Have such tests ever been done? Oh yes, for sure, yes. And the results were that A.A. was a total failure. In some cases it was *far worse* than getting no help or treatment of any kind.
That brings up another question to ask those counselors: "What is the normal rate of spontaneous remission in alcoholics?" If they say zero, they are lying, and trying to claim all of the cases of spontaneous remission as their own success stories. The most realistic answer is about 5% per year. Also look at what Dr. Sheldon Zimberg wrote about spontaneous remission. That spontaneous remission number creates big problems for those counselors, because it reveals that all they are doing is taking credit for those people who were going to quit anyway, or who did just quit a week or two before starting treatment. (Like I did.) You said that you printed the web site, and it was 115 pages. I suspect that you must be looking at a very old version of the web site, somewhere. When I last printed it out, about 4 years ago, it was about that size, and it has gotten *much* larger. (So large that I wouldn't consider printing it on paper again. I tell people to burn CDs from the archive files.) Make sure that you are looking at www.orange-papers.org, and especially look at the web page on The Effectiveness of the 12-Step Treatment. You will find references to all of the valid studies of the efficacy of 12-Step treatment that I've been able to find in the last 5 years. And there isn't a single test that shows that A.A. is anything like a successful treatment program. Every single time that A.A. was put to the test, it failed. If you hear of talk about other kinds of studies than Randomized Longitudinal Controlled Studies, be very wary. They are usually invalid and faked. One of the most outrageous terms is "anecdotal study". That is what the Big Book is. An anecdotal study means that somebody just collects a bunch of stories that say what he wants the audience to hear:
"Hurry! Hurry! Hurry! Step right up. This wonderful snake oil cures whatever ails you. Why Joe Blow here was sick as a dog and talking about what he wanted on his headstone, until he drank 5 bottles of Dr. Phineas T. Farnsworth's Magic Snake Oil Elixir and now he's up and chasing the pretty girls around the block. Hurry! Hurry! Get it while it lasts!" A "survey of the professional literature" is another faked study. That means that they collect pro-A.A. articles written by other A.A. boosters and conclude that everybody agrees that A.A. works great. (That's the propaganda trick of Everybody Knows, as in "Everybody knows that the world is flat. There is no question about it.") Also watch out for phony "studies" that find that the treatment program's "graduates" are much more sober than some other group of alcoholics. That is comparing apples to oranges, and it is also pulling a switcheroo. As mentioned above, the "graduates" are a cherry-picked minority of the people who started the program. The real question to ask is, "How many of the incoming clients actually 'graduate'?" Usually the answer is only about 10%. If you compare ALL of the patients who start the program to a similar group of alcoholics who didn't get the treatment, then you see that the program isn't all that good. And then there is the big question of how long the improvement lasts. They usually get a temporary improvement, just a little boost caused by encouragement in the treatment program, but it wears off quickly and most of the graduates relapse. Treatment centers seem to usually get about a 10% success rate, but it gradually drops to 5% as the graduates relapse. 5% is just the normal rate of spontaneous remission, which leaves the treatment centers with a real success rate of zero percent. That's why the treatment centers really don't want to do long-term studies and see how many graduates are still sober 1, 3, or 5 years later. I recently ran into a counselor from the housing I was in during my treatment, and she told me that, after 4 years, I was *the only one* who still had not relapsed, out of more than 100 people going through the program then. And I'm the one who actually quit drinking two weeks before the program started. That brings up another item: motivation. The people who are seeking treatment are a very different population from the other alcoholics who don't want to quit drinking. Comparing a bunch of willing patients who want to quit drinking to a bunch of hard-core, committed street drunks will always make the treatment program look good. But the treatment program isn't actually doing anything beneficial there. The differences between the two groups have nothing whatsoever to do with the treatment program. Somebody did a study that I would like to find where they not only studied a treatment program's patients, they also studied another group of people who wanted to get into the treatment program but who could not, for one reason or another. Perhaps they didn't have the money, or their health insurance wouldn't cover it, or something. Nevertheless, later, like at the 1-year point, those who got the treatment and those who only wanted to get it were equally sober. Those people who wanted treatment but who couldn't get it just went out and quit drinking anyway, all by themselves, without any treatment. Obviously, what is really being measured in a lot of invalid studies is the motivation of the patients, not the efficacy of the treatment program. Another false comparison to watch out for is Upscale/Downscale comparisons. Some expensive clinic that charges $10,000 or $15,000 (in advance) for a 28-day-long A.A. meeting will compare their graduates to "alcoholics in general", and find that their graduates are much more successful in staying sober. Yeh, and their patients are also much more successful in scrounging up 15,000 dollars than the street drunks are. Rich people usually fare better because they haven't lost everything like the real down-and-out alcoholics have. Somebody did another study that found that the upscale people always did better, because they still had a lot to loose. They were highly motived to get their act together and keep from losing it all. The street drunks had little left to lose, other than their lives (which they tended to feel weren't worth much). Also watch out for programs that cherry-pick the patients going into the program. There is a drug treatment program in this town that recruits at the local city detox center, and only picks those addicts whom they feel sure won't relapse (and pull down their averages). That program won't even take their own graduates who have relapsed. And they have a bad habit of erasing failures from the books. ("Joe? Joe who? Joe didn't relapse. He was never in our program in the first place.") That is classic Enron-style accounting, which is something that some treatment programs are also good at. After all of that, the treatment program proudly proclaims that their clients commit a whole lot fewer crimes than the other addicts who are out stealing to get a fix. The "counselors" carefully cherry-pick those people who will commit fewer crimes, and then they claim that they have reduced the crime rate of their clients, and they proudly crow "Treatment works!" And they take city, state, and federal tax dollars to run that scam. A lot of this so-called "treatment industry" is little more than organized crime. Oh well, have a good day anyway. == Orange
[2nd letter from Alan:]
Date: Thu, December 15, 2005 3:38 You have no idea what this reply has set into motion. Thank you so much.
Cool, and you are welcome.
Have a good day and a Merry Christmas.
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Dear Agent Orange, I would not write this, but I keep coming across your work every time I look up anything pertaining to AA. I try hard to keep an open mind when it doesn't come naturally. I admit your papers contain many valid points, but I am curious as to why you have put forth so much effort to undermine the efforts of this group. I know hypocrites both in and out of AA -- sure -- it bothers me when someone is at the podium and I know they are not a good example of AA principles at work. I've even been screwed over by someone as such and have to know they are speaking at conferences -- hard for anyone to deal with. But I've come to some conclusions: I look at my own spiritual growth and without going into too much detail, see that even the worst examples in AA have brought some of my greatest spiritual lessons. And I have had the pleasure and the pain of being a bad example myself. In other words, there is a greater picture at work and sometimes it is the Angel in Devil's clothing (or visa versa) that simply delivered the message. That is what I benefit from paying attention to -- not the messenger. So why dissect the messengers??? I would hold the facts and opinions you weave up to a far better light were they not drenched in scorn and bias oozing and seething through every exposed thread. In other words I actually enjoy reading some of your work but get really turned off by what appears to me to be ulterior motives based on grudges. Why?
Hello Injoyon,
Thanks for the letter.
You are mixing apples and oranges.
I am talking about the total failure of A.A. as a treatment program
for alcoholics, and you are talking about how spiritual it makes you feel.
Those two things have little or nothing to do with each other.
Is A.A. supposed to be a quit-drinking program, or is it a religion?
It seems to be more of a religion for you, because I notice that you did not
mention alcohol, sobriety, or quitting drinking even once.
It's all about "spirituality".
I think that it is horribly unspiritual to lie to sick people and
tell them that A.A. works great
when it doesn't.
Do you think that is "spiritual"?
I think that it is horribly unspiritual to
deceive sick people to get them to join
Alcoholics Anonymous.
What do you think about that?
And I don't think it is very spiritual to promote a religion that is as bizarre and
heretical as Alcoholics Anonymous. Have you read the file on
The Heresy of the Twelve Steps?
What do you think about that?
Oh well, have a good day anyway.
== Orange
[2nd letter from Injoyon:]
Date: Fri, October 14, 2005 I have had personal experience with Narcissistic Personality Disorder -- It's not something you should throw around lightly. These people are shells of people -- they are incapable of admitting any fault. To actually look at their part would cause a puncture to their NP that is too great to withstand. They would never see a specialist or psychologist. (FYI -- the NPD I know stands at the podium of AA -- it drives me crazy. I've concluded he is not at fault -- he seems to have been born that way -- he is genuinely wired differently -- it is all he knows -- it is his very nature.)
Hello again, Injoyon.
I do not throw that NPD term around lightly. In fact, I did not even use it for
the first few years that I was writing about Bill Wilson. I spoke more about
delusions of grandeur. I only gradually transitioned over to concluding that
NPD was a very good diagnosis of Bill's behavior after reading a good many books
about both Bill and NPD.
Do you know that when Bill officially handed over the fellowship his depression lifted? Do you suppose it was an overwhelming burden he carried for reasons unknown to even him? (Like can you imagine it could be possible that even for Bill, there WAS a power bigger than him at work??)
Yes, I know that Bill officially handed over the leadership, and I also know that
he didn't mean to do it. Bill wanted to appear to be noble and selfless, and
he was under the misimpression that the Board of Trustees
would just rubber-stamp his dictates. But they didn't.
When Bill wanted A.A.W.S. to pay his mistress Helen Wynn out of his royalty income,
they concluded that it would be very unwise to mix Bill's sexual affairs with the
finances of the Alcoholic Foundation, and told Bill to pay his mistresses himself.
Bill was furious at their effrontery.
After the Trustees voted against Bill on another issue, Bill wrote a sarcastic self-pitying
letter to the Board of Trustees, saying that he hoped that they would still see fit
to allow him to have an office in the A.A. headquarters.
Nan Robertson wrote that Bill Wilson would vacation in Vermont, and then,
The original group of alcoholics had sought out the best and wisest men
that they could find to be the Trustees of the Alcoholic Foundation, but
all that Bill Wilson could do was constantly "do battle" with them
and fight to get his own way about everything.
In the end, Bill Wilson simply tired of the combat and moved out to the country and spent
most of his time at his home Stepping Stones. He didn't go to A.A. meetings and he
had very little to do with A.A. any more, other than cashing the royalty checks.
Francis Hartigan, Lois Wilson's private secretary,
wrote that the other A.A. members were having a hard time accepting the fact that the
founder of A.A. was not actually in A.A. any more.
You stated that,
"They [NPD cases] would never see a specialist or psychologist."
The psychiatrist Dr. Alexander Lowen described the behavior of a narcissistic patient named Erich:
Bill Wilson's own psychiatrist,
Dr. Tiebout,
criticized Bill Wilson by saying that he had been trying to live
out the infantilely grandiose demands of "His Majesty the Baby".
That sounds very close to infantile narcissism.
I think you take many things out of context. Why so much effort to biasly expose detail after detail in order to back your personal opinions/motives?? No, I do not take things out of context. I am very careful not to change or distort the meaning of things that I quote. We have been over this before. Look here. Why not remain objective -- your points would be far better met then.
Actually, I try very hard to be objective, like when I insist on Randomized Longitudinal Controlled Studies
to support claims of success in treating alcoholics. And everybody, including A.A., Rational Recovery, SMART, and
any other treatment program must meet the same strict standards of proof before they claim success.
And
I don't even credit SMART with anything more than a two percent success rate, above normal spontaneous
remission (which is 5%, so SMART gets a total success rate of maybe 7%).
That is being objective.
Perhaps you meant something other than "objective". Perhaps you meant non-critical or unemotional,
like that I am not supposed to feel contempt for people who calmly lie to sick people about what
will cure them.
If you are looking for that kind of emotional deadness, well, you won't find it here.
Have a good day anyway.
== Orange
[3rd letter from Injoyon:]
Dear Agent Orange, Orange: So Injoyon's original letter was in black, my responses were in blue, her responses are in red, and my responses to those responses are in green. (I think we are going to run out of colors pretty soon.)
Date: Fri, October 14, 2005
Hello Injoyon,
Date: Fri, October 14, 2005 I have had personal experience with Narcissistic Personality Disorder -- It's not something you should throw around lightly. These people are shells of people -- they are incapable of admitting any fault. To actually look at their part would cause a puncture to their NP that is too great to withstand. They would never see a specialist or psychologist. (FYI -- the NPD I know stands at the podium of AA -- it drives me crazy. I've concluded he is not at fault -- he seems to have been born that way -- he is genuinely wired differently -- it is all he knows -- it is his very nature.)
Hello again, Injoyon. Do you know that when Bill officially handed over the fellowship his depression lifted? Do you suppose it was an overwhelming burden he carried for reasons unknown to even him? (Like can you imagine it could be possible that even for Bill, there WAS a power bigger than him at work??)
Yes, I know that Bill officially handed over the leadership, and I also know that he didn't mean to do it. Bill wanted to appear to be noble and selfless, and he was under the misimpression that the Board of Trustees would just rubber-stamp his dictates. But they didn't. I think you take many things out of context. Why so much effort to biasly expose detail after detail in order to back your personal opinions/motives??
No, I do not take things out of context. I am very careful not to change or distort the meaning of things that I quote. We have been over this before. Look here. Why not remain objective -- your points would be far better met then.
Actually, I try very hard to be objective, like when I insist on Randomized Longitudinal Controlled Studies to support claims of success in treating alcoholics. |