AA suicides

I was just looking around anti AA sites and found out that over at leaving AA.com they had made an ex stepper named Ryan, who committed suicide another casualty of AA. It just blows my mind how someone who spent 2 years in AA but was out of the program longer took his life because of his involvement with AA. She also let everybody know that his sister committed suicide also, before him and had no affiliation with AA. This is really sick, coming from somebody who admittedly has 36 years in AA and is currently married to a stepper. How can you possibly blame someone like this who obviously had a serious problem with depression on AA, so many years later? Thoughts

"grammar isn't necessary in my life or occupation. its unimportant in today's world & it along with handwriting is being eliminated from grammar school curriculum"

Now this is just crazy talk. You can't walk around saying horrible shit like this!

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Gigi,
I know I can't walk around saying crazy shit like this. Instead I should walk around parroting Wilson & pray I do not harm or damage any addict or their children or families. Somehow my grammar is the issue when discussing that AA besides being ineffective & a failure contributes to depressed addicts suicides.

patti

becket's picture

So we're back to either/or, black/white. Do you understand that there are more than two topics to discuss in one's entire lifetime? It really does broaden out between AA hatred and advocating choice. Your grammar is the issue because you won't take the time to express what you really mean.

As a sidebar, I suggest that an addict is by nature and circumstance depressed and might commit suicide without AA's or NA's involvement. Can you envision a world where that's possible, patti?

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Clara's picture

That's right. Only people in AA commit suicide.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

No one on this forum has ever written that only AA members commit suicide. Becket you are just being combative again. Why do you think you can just write/bark orders & every one has to comply with your demands & orders? My grammar is an issue because you pick people apart & attack them personally. Its no biggie just typical stepper stuff. You are still trying to tell me what I can & cannot do on this forum & how to conduct myself & what is or isn't an issue & on & on & on with the control freak show. Have a good night & tomorrow is another day when you can pick me or someone else on this forum apart & attempt to control what we think, feel, write or do. You could just go back to the rooms you will fit right in.

patti

becket's picture

patti, holy god, how did you ever get through school? I didn't write that only AA members commit suicide. That's ludicrous. I would not say such a thing.

What you do, patti, is when the going gets a little rugged and your back is up against a wall and you can't give a definitive answer to a question, you start up with the "barking orders" bullshit. I haven't barked at you. I've asked questions. If that's a problem then go play on the nicey nice forums with all the other psychology wannabes. You would fit right in.

I don't give one fuck what you do on this forum or how you do it. But if you write something that is utterly without foundation I'm gonna call you on it. If you can't stand the heat on this little forum, how do you get through your day in the big, bad world? Do you accuse everyone who questions your viewpoint of being combative? That's hilarious. Good luck getting through life with that weak shit.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

steve cochrane's picture

bad luck. Weak shit,strong shit. In fact who gives a shit? You see Becket, this forum was created by Orange. In case you haven't noticed YET. This entire site is anti AA. You and the others who in some ways favor AA have got all too comfortable on this site. Regardless of what is said by the anti AA people who come to an anti AA site to say whatever they choose to say. At least they respect the space of others who by participating on say a pro AA site are pretty much left alone. I check in and here you are acting like some sort of . Shit I can't even come up with a word that describes you anymore. It really doesn't matter what I think or whatever anyone else thinks right? I mean you never worry about how your posts are "perceived" do you? You are still holding the mirror up to everyones elses face eh Becket? Oh and by the way Becket. I want to let you know that every post that I have directed to you or other pro AA people has had a turd planted in it for you guys to step in. You have never never failed to step in it it either. I just sit back and watch. And there is a very simple reason for that. One that you will probably never get,you almost avoid them sometimes Becket but you always backtrack and step in it again and again. The other ones,their easy. Good luck with your 'filibuster' your just one keystroke away from VICTORY!! Yeah right!! You want definitive answers about what? Regarding what? Who the fuck are you ask anybody for anything on an ANTI AA forum? You push your way into these discussions Becket and then demand answers? Fuck off. I would never go on to a pro AA site and tell them that I feel that using a HP for the treatment of alcohol abuse is. It would be disrespectful. I respect their right to feel this way, but I just don't bother them. Thats their business. My views about AA are only directed at others out there who,like myself did not find AA helpful at all. Nor would I tell them that AA kills people because it fails to treat anything, Pile on a heaping portion of character defects, a little spiritual malady thrown in there for added flavor. Lets not forget the secret ingredient that really spices up this up POWERLESSNESS!! Pour all these things into a bowl (your brain) mix 'em up reeeaal goood and bring it to the head chef (sponsor) to taste. "Nope son there something missing here". "I think that whats REALLY needed here son is for you to throw in all of your resentments and your most private thoughts too. "Yah Yah that will do the trick". "Now this recipe takes awhile to cook son. " In fact most of the time it takes at least 90 days for these ingredients to even begin to meld and develop flavor". So I 'suggest' that you bring it in to a meeting everyday at least for the
first 90 days to see how everything is cooking. Give everybody a taste (share) so we can see how the flavor is coming along. Ok son? One last thing I need to tell you is that you must take this mixture with you everywhere. You can never leave it unattended otherwise it will go bad (relapse). So happily "trudge" along now son enjoy your life. Oh and if your mixture starts to taste a little funny ask God for some help He is an excellent chef.
So, an exagerrated example of the program? Don't know. It just came out this way today. But to a very sick person,who is desperate for help he/she will buy just about anything. Including this absurd stuff that I just wrote. Thats because 'The Program' is absurd to many people. It just doesn't make any sense .After all they are more than likely already depressed,upset,anxious. Self image, just a steaming pile of shit. Is that how one gets "better"? By kickin the shit out yourself some more? I think NOT!! It can make a person feel worse,much worse. So what I am saying is that if a person is already feeling down and the methods that are "suggested" do not work (non treatment) Coupled with all the stuff that I mentioned above (piling on) more negatives,then yes AA can have a part in a persons choice
to take their own life. In the end "Only you can help you". Peace

becket's picture

Yikes! You're full of shit too. Haven't you noticed that only a few of the original bitching team remain on this site? They've all pulled an exodus to recoveringfromrecovery.com Why don't you go over there and spew.

P.S.: you can fuck off too, steve. Thanks, man!

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

steve cochrane's picture

when I say FUCK OFF Becket. You should know that by now. I mean you no harm. Not anyone. Cursing is a way to get someones attention. Primitive but effective sometimes. This place IS a place for anti AA people to spew. Did you not read what I said. YOU are the interloper not me!! YOU belong somewhere else not me!! But park your ass wherever you want. Free country right? How about I park my ass right outside your mag brain Becket? Would you like it? It might be fun for you for a little while. Well maybe not, since I am no match for your intellect. You might get bored. After all us anti AA people are 'lower' forms. Did you not say that? I think that you did. I read it. How mighty white of you Becket. Again this an anti AA site. You are a guest here,act accordingly. Or you will be tarred and feathered,drawn and quartered,boiled in oil All at once!!! LOL Just kidding Becket, Have a great day.

becket's picture

"Lower forms"? Nope.
"Mighty white"? That's right offensive, but it's your mouth.

I don't really care where you park it, steve.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Becket,
you always do this. You seem to think that people on this forum consider communicating with you to be something that is real & that we have to comply with the actions you decree are necessary.

"What you do, patti, is when the going gets a little rugged and your back is up against a wall and you can't give a definitive answer to a question, you start up with the "barking orders" bullshit"

Becket somehow in your mind you think the going gets a little rugged & my back is up against a wall on this forum? You actually think that this is a real fight or debate & that I get backed up against a wall on this forum? You actually think that the going gets a little rugged on this forum? You actually think this is a real thing here that one has real life reactions to? It may mean those things in your mind but you are on your own thinking that this forum means those things & situations to me or anyone else? You are stone cold crazy. It is in your mind that me or any one else on this forum has to abide by you or responding to you calling us on what we write, think or feel. Its in your mind that anyone has to comply with your decrees. Or that complying with your rules of debate means anything to anyone but you. This interaction with you on this forum & your rules mean a whole lot to you but not to anyone else including me. You are just an annoying pro AA gnat, that's it.

It's in your mind that anyone has to prove, research or investigate cause you say so. AA is a said so world. So is Becket world. You actually believe that anyone complies with the cause Becket said so rules of engagement that do not exist anywhere but in your head. You actually think that Becket said so rules exist in my real life & that according to you I can't get through life cause you say so. You are stone cold crazy. As crazy as Wilson.

I can't believe that you would compare writing on this forum to real life or the big bad world? Do you really think that people in the real world act like you & question others viewpoints all day long like you do? Do you really believe that people in the real world act like you act & are combative & attack people with childish name calling & immature sarcasm like you do? Your behavior flies on a forum such as this. People don't act like you act in the real world unless they are mentally ill or unstable emotionally or mentally. Do you really believe that I ever have to interact with anyone that behaves as you do on this forum?

I don't need good luck getting through life because of dealing with people like you. You live in Becket world I don't & neither does anyone else. I can't believe you think that me or anyone else has to deal with someone like you on a day to day basis or ever. We rolled from AA remember. And people don't go around acting like you in any other environments than a crazy cult or in an internet environment.

You truly live in Becket world. And I of course don't but you seem to think that I somehow do.

patti

becket's picture

Wait a minute. Isn't there a post above this one from patti addressed specifically to becket? And within that post doesn't patti say, "You seem to think that people on this forum consider communicating with you to be something that is real & that we have to comply with the actions you decree are necessary"? Doesn't patti go on to say, "This interaction with you on this forum & your rules mean a whole lot to you but not to anyone else including me"? Doesn't patti repeat herself by asking, "Do you really believe that I ever have to interact with anyone that behaves as you do on this forum?"

In other words, isn't patti protesting just a little - or a lot - too much about doing something she does not have to do but seems compelled to do over and over and over?

patti first says, "Do you really believe that people in the real world act like you act & are combative & attack people with childish name calling & immature sarcasm like you do?", and then she goes on to say, "People don't act like you act in the real world unless they are mentally ill or unstable emotionally or mentally." Excuse me, doesn't that nibble around the edges of "name-calling"?

patti, if you were to vanish within the next eight minutes I wouldn't miss you. I don't control you - you claim to control yourself. If that is the case, simply STOP WRITING to becket. Stop mentioning becket. Stop responding to becket. Stop trying to get in the last word about becket. Show a little discipline and back away from the table, because this is becket's table.

By the way, the rules of engagement are not mine, they were constructed by Ironic and others on OPF who have made it a practice to demand verification of allegations on this forum.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Clara's picture

Well, you are right, Becket. I mean, who makes anyone respond to someone on the board?

Say, anyone know much about environmental breast cancer?

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

JR Harris's picture

Becket, this thread is on AA suicides, why are you talking about all of this other stuff. Did you and Clara go out and have some sherry and crab bisque soup and relapse?

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

For heaven's sake, JR Harris, I'm trying to get patti to quit mouthing off on these off-topic subjects. Take it to her if you're upset about derailing.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

JR Harris's picture

Really Becket, if you must drink, please don't drink and post. Now you can either go to a voodoo Bill Wilson chanting ritual or get real help. Just stay away from the bottle, your angry and it shows. Just quit, it's easy.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

No problem.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

You have nothing but words. And you just have to feel like you win. Knock your self out

patti

You have nothing but words. And you just have to feel like you win. Knock your self out

patti

You have nothing but words. And you just have to feel like you win. Knock your self out

patti

becket's picture

Words are enough, particularly when they are used correctly.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

JR Harris's picture

I'm thinking about writing this book, here is a preview:

This is the story of a low bottom drunk named Bill Wilson, who fueled by Atropa Belladonna and LSD was able to build the cult of Alcoholics Anonymous from a small apartment given to him by his wife Lois who he lost to foreclosure because Lois could not make enough money. This is the story of the meteoric rise of the cult of Alcoholics Anonymous and the mistress that made it all possible, Helen Wynn with whom Bill would have failed. Find the inside story of why she was given 10% of the revenue of Alcoholics Anonymous at Bill Wilson's death.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Again you live in Becket & AA said so world. How many times have you dictated on this forum that members should take action instead of written words? Multiple. There you can again doing that AA contradiction thing.

patti

becket's picture

Hating AA is not my fight, it's not my objective, it's not my cross to bear, patti: it's yours. You are the one who needs to take action, not me. I've got no dog in this race.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

steve cochrane's picture

that Patti hates AA? Oh just to clue you in. You ARE the dog and you ARE the race. I do Luuvv me some bacon. UMM UMM UMM !

Oh Becket,
you are so petty!

patti

becket's picture

Thanks, patti, I just had my hair cut and my nails done.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Becket,
instead of dictating to me what I should or shouldn't do you may want to consider looking @ self. Just saying.

patti

becket's picture

patti, I have considered your suggestion and have ceremoniously placed it in the circular file. Thanks ever so much for your touching concern.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

live_free_or_die's picture

he finally admitted to AA suicides. About time he admitted the obvious.

beclit, please advise jj, the mcdonalds boy. Thanks.

Alcoholics Anonymous: MyNotGodHasItCovered®
http://www.expaa.org/
http://bereanresearch.com/
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
NOT AA:
Rational Recovery, SOS, HAMS
http://alcoholabusesolutions.com/

Clara's picture

I don't think that anyone disputes that there are AAs that find the only solution to their problems to be a final one. I don't see where Becket has ever said that AA is responsible for them, nor would I agree with that.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

JR Harris's picture

AA is predominantly white and middle class. This is fine, until you go to someplace like El Paso AA after being in Myrtle Beach AA, then the racial makeup changes dramatically. This causes tension between the groups, especially when uppity "higher class" AA members go to these meetings and then tell all of their previous friends that it is full of scum bags. Why did you say that El Paso AA was full of low class people again and you didn't like it?

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

You lie with impunity. I would never, and will never, postulate that AA kills.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

becket's picture

AA does not kill people. Suicidal people who do commit suicide do so by their own hand, not by what you people call Ouija board, seance, spirit-seeking bullshit. Listen to yourselves. And quit lying, lfop. If you continue, then nothing you post will be believable because it will be widely understood that you're a liar.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

JR Harris's picture

When you get a bunch of unlicensed, unprofessional people recruited from jails and prisons (44% per the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University ) giving out advice and trying to con every one in sight, they are the ones that kill people. AA is just a front at the Interchurch Center in New York to spread the disease called "Alcoholics Anonymous"

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

JR Harris
Tue, 06/26/2012 - 16:34

"AA doesn't kill people"

Glad to see you're finally coming around.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

JR Harris's picture

"AA doesn't kill people, AA members "push" people to do it"
http://orange-papers.org/forum/comment/44087#comment-44087

Try to stay of the bottle, your drunk posting is starting to show.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

I forgot nothing. Part one of the phrase is true; part two is your opinion.

Haven't had a drink for 11,853 days, JR Harris, and I don't plan to drink over your insipid remarks.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

JR Harris's picture

Now put down that drink, get up from behind the computer and go to a Bill Wilson chanting meeting if you must, just stop drunk posting.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

becket's picture

You have a long way to go before you become even marginally amusing, JR Harris.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Clara's picture

you are having so much fun, Beckett, that I almost wish I could read his post.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

JR Harris's picture

Anyway, i just sent an email to the DCM in El Paso Area 66 District 10, explaining you need more cultural diversity training in that area, you shouldn't feel so "isolated" in the group. He suggested that you take Spanish as a 2nd language and attend a few of these meeting. I gave him your name that Danny gave us when he was trying to get access to the "secret Orange papers forum." I'll be down July 4th, maybe we cam meet for coffee?

You should be going to these AA meetings in the mean time: http://nwta66.org/schedules/citiessp/

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Oh Clara,
how can a post regarding suicide be fun?

patti

Clara's picture

Becket, why do they say that a bottle on a shelf is an object that has no power over a person yet a book does?

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

becket's picture

It's CultSpeak, Clara. It has to do with moving targets and a willingness to briefly accept any explanation to shore up a debate point, only to discard it and deny it later. Go figure.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

I love when you represent yourself as a group. Its so AA!

"If you continue, then nothing you post will be believable because it will be widely understood that you're a liar."

Widely understood? Really? Sometimes Becket world is a group of people! LOL

patti

becket's picture

I say this completely devoid of surprise: you have misconstrued the meaning of my post yet again, patti. I don't represent myself as anything but becket. The CultSpeak is on the part of the AA haters on this forum who have adapted treatmentese, turned it inside out as an object of ridicule, and implemented it as their own contaminated language. It would be amusing if it were not so unimaginative.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Now your imagination in addition to your intelligence is superior to others also! You got a bad case of the AA special & chosen itis! How does belonging to a cult make any one superior to others? How does buying into the billshit of a dirtball manipulator like Wilson make any one superior in any capacity to any one?

patti

becket's picture

Yeah, that's right: I'm smarter than you, I'm richer than you, I'm more eloquent than you, I have a better job than you, I have more love in my life than you, I drive a better car than you, I enjoy more opportunity than you, I am better-read than you . . . the list goes on and on and on.

Why not just hang it up, patti?

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

You are losing it! I know you are really something! That is why you are on this forum all the time because life & you are so awesome!

patti

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