Just for fun lets share what used to irk us the most while sitting in a meeting. Just off the top of my head I used to get annoyed at the barbie doll who would walk in the mtg late (all the time) and sit down and raise her hand and say 'sorry im late' but I just wanted to share' lol. She would share then walk out the door to smoke. Or the 1 person who would always raise their hand first, every time the speaker finished he would be flailing his hand like pick me please. Or the person who goes to multiple groups to celebrate their anniversary. In NY the group buys you a ice cream cake and the whole mtg is about the celebrant. Some of these self absorbed fuckers would go to 2 or 3 groups ahead of time to put their sober date on the list. So they can celebrate all over the place. What are some of the things that used to piss you off?
dandammit
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 14:14
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comments about my appearance
comments about my appearance used to bother me a lot. One guy said to me one time, in front of everyone, that my eyes were red and I had a puffy face. (assuming I relapsed)
not knowing I had mowed the grass that morning.
I didn't bother to explain to the rude jerkoff.
dorak nob
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 14:28
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having an oldtimer look at me
having an oldtimer look at me and say some are sicker then others after my share
jonnijoy
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 14:58
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Dan when somebody would say
Dan when somebody would say something stupid like that to me I was right back at them I would not ever start anything with anybody but once slighted I would comeback way below the belt
Clara
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 15:06
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We had a Barbie like that.
We had a Barbie like that. Always late, walked the the furtherest seat in the room, sat down, waited for about 20 minutes and got up to leave. Her name is Renee. Constantly talked about her ex molesting her son, which was always found to be untrue by SC, and how she needed a new daddy for her children. Never a word about drinking.
Why would anyone have to come back way below the belt? Something commensurate with what they've said should suffice.
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live_free_or_die
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 18:37
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Was she a redhead CLar
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Brett
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 01:23
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Barbie doll
6 pak swizzerling, crab soup swilling, lexus driving ???/
Brett
Clara
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 13:26
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Actually, she was. Not
Actually, she was. Not naturally, of course.
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live_free_or_die
Fri, 06/08/2012 - 07:03
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Natural redheads
If you know of any natural redheads that I can 13 step let me know.
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gigi
Fri, 06/08/2012 - 09:54
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It's a good thing you decided
It's a good thing you decided not to hang around 'the rooms.' You would have been a real menace. I'm sure a lot of young women are grateful.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Pennywise
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 17:07
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1) When it is almost the last
1) When it is almost the last share and then someone walks in late to join.
2) When we are ready to say the closing prayer and someone reminds the group that we forgot to read the last two paragraphs of "A Vision for You."
3) When the leader asks, for example, if anyone is celebrating 90 days, and someone responds "I'll have 90 days next week."
I could go on here...
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Pennywise
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:37
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4) When the leader forgets
4) When the leader forgets the laminated cards and has to go find them before starting the meeting, even though we've all heard the same readings at least 500 times.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Pennywise
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:40
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Whenever someone says "my
5) Whenever someone says "my higher power, who I choose to call God/Jesus."
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
gigi
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:52
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LOL
If it wasn't for the grace and wisdom my higher power, who I choose to call Big Tony, I'd still be living under that bridge.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Pennywise
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 20:24
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6). Whenever the leader ask
6). Whenever the leader ask whether we should break off into smaller groups and someone suggest we stay in one group, thereby (roughly) doubling the length of the meeting.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
gigi
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 18:56
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The Serenity Prayer, reading
The Serenity Prayer, reading the steps, how it works, what is AA? The secretary's report, the treasurer's report, the AA related announcements, the angry guy demanding someone take over the coffee committment, the shrew complaining that the coffee guy forgot to buy milk, the old timer talking about his dogs for 10 minutes, the knitters, the lady with 5 plus years sober complaining that she can't go to a wedding alone because she doesn't want to be around the alcohol, they gasps when someone mentions drugs, the dead look in the eyes of 1/2 the people, the crazy look in the eyes of the other 1/2, the newcomer who shares his pain and begs for help only to be told "keep comin'! It gets better!" The thumpers quoting chapter and verse of the BB-never offering an original thought, the same old drunkalogues from the same old people, The Lord's Prayer.
And that's only the list of things I hated in the meeting I liked.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Pennywise
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:35
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So bascically the whole
So bascically the whole meeting, Gigi? Lol!
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causeandeffect
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:01
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The main thing for me was
The main thing for me was when people talked like they knew what gawd's will was. It's always been my opinion that people who know what gawd's will is, are at best off their rockers, and at worst, dangerous.
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Free
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:25
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The old-timer
who argued that AA's abysmal success rate could be rectified by returning to the original Oxford Group template, the 4 absolutes. Wait a second - that's what led me to the Orange Papers! Yes, my tenuous belief in a hp (of my own choosing), was so fragile that that any talk of a quasi-Christian god threatened it. So I started investigating ... and here I am. Thankyou old-timer.
patti
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:52
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the whining & complaining
the whining & complaining members, crying & bitching about every day little inconveniences. the dirtballs looking me over, sizing me up as prey, strutting around in their cut off t-shirts & showing all their ink & actually thinking they were hot, when they were disgusting. then they would find out who my siblings were & back off. the know it all's, with no education or qualifications whatsoever who knew everything about anything. the way no one ever responds directly to the person who just shared & the person sharing just doesn't know when to stop talking, they lack any confidence or poise or the ability to express themselves articulately. then the scumbag who would put them down passive aggressively a share or two later, instead of communicating like an adult & speaking directly to the person they were belittling. the worst, absolute worse was people who were in serious trouble not being advised to get to a hospital, an ER, get medical or psychiatric attention immediately, leave this meeting now & go get qualified help, no instead they would be outright ignored or told to "go with the women". the members who someone should have called a cop on or should have done something about their anger & rage, were just thanked for sharing & no one dared said a passive aggressive put down to the dangerously angry members. the whole thing just made me sick, I can't think of one redeeming quality about AA or Anon.
patti
becket
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 04:06
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Gee, patti, it's a good thing
Gee, patti, it's a good thing you don't ever have to think about that awful stuff ever again for as long as you live. Unless you choose to.
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Free
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 19:59
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The blokes
The blokes that would lurch forward, arms outstretched, in hope of getting the only contact that they could ever possibly get with a female body (that they didn't have to pay for), who would be visibly offended when you pushed them back with your left hand and offered them your right hand for a hand shake instead. Or the extended handshake - again, contact with a female where payment was not required.
Free
Wed, 06/06/2012 - 20:25
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The humorous domestic violence anecdotes.
Yep, the domestic violence drunkalogues that were met with laughter in the rooms.
jonnijoy
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:08
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LOL pennywise I also could
LOL pennywise I also could not stand the person who would raise their hand at burning desire and share nothing important until 10 minutes after the mtg was over
Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:37
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Yeah, it's like when someone
Yeah, it's like when someone comes late and we are already in break-off groups. My mind is silently thinking "please don't come to my group, please don't come to my group, please don't come to my group." And then the person sits down in my group, and I'm like "fuck."
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:40
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7) When someone comes to the
7) When someone comes to the meeting drunk and I'm thinking, "well, at least there will be some entertainment," and then the leader cuts him off and won't let him share because he's drunk.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:47
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8) Whenever someone takes
8) Whenever someone takes his or her time doing the readings. I am somewhat understanding if the person sucks at reading, but many people take their time on purpose, emphasising certain parts and adding side commentary. For example, after reading "were entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character," the reader might add "I sure got lots of those." Just regurgitate the lines as efficiently as possible so we can hurry up and go home.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:50
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9) People who celebrate
9) People who celebrate their sobriety birthday as if they are getting an Oscar, often reciting a long list of the names of people they want to thank. This time adds up.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
becket
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 04:03
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What in the world is a "break
What in the world is a "break-off group"? I've never heard of this.
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Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 04:12
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After the readings and before
After the readings and before the smoke break, people number off. For example, the leader will say "I'll be a 1." The next person will say "2," the next person "3," and so on. Then after the smoke break, you go to your smaller group for the sharing ritual.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
gigi
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 13:16
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"A Vision for You" group? On
"A Vision for You" group? On the edge of uber-culty?
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
becket
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 13:32
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How strange. Wonder who
How strange. Wonder who cooked that up?
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Pennywise
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 03:53
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10) People announce their
10) People who announce their sobriety birthday more than a week afterwards. For instance, "I had 18 months two weeks ago." See 3) in my above post.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
jonnijoy
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 06:21
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LOL pennywise. I've never
LOL pennywise. I've never seen a breakoff group
jonnijoy
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 06:23
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When people used to come in
When people used to come in drunk a lot of people got scared
Trisha K.
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 13:25
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I think this is where Penny got this name (slang) when....
@becket and Jj,
groups break off into smaller ones. Typically because the original group at the start of the meeting is to large.
Penny wrote:
6). Whenever the leader ask whether we should break off into smaller groups and someone suggest we stay in one group, thereby (roughly) doubling the length of the meeting.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
Trisha K.
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 13:36
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The meeting is over and an old timer wants to share,
instead of saying no the meeting is over they would let him share. He would go on for another 10 minutes. I don't know about anyone else here but there were times I had to get going, I had other commitments. I hated getting up while someone was sharing.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
SandyB
Thu, 06/07/2012 - 16:16
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The old timer
Who shares about how they didn't come here to hear this crap, They came because they needed a reason not to drink today
Fucking loser. 20 years later and you need a reason to not drink, you're a dry drunk.