I always hear the same people on here talking about picketing, protesting courthouses, speaking up in meetings and writing letters about the dangers of AA. So what do they want? A disclaimer printed into the AA literature? Armed guards in mtgs? Electing some poor AA sap to take the 13 step/fraud/murder/ embezzlement commitment? What do they want? The courts to stop mandating? What do they want? What will make it safe enough for these people?
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JR Harris
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 14:08
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I think the big thing is for people to quit minimizing
The major problem that I see is the minimizing tactics that the AA zealots use to avoid talking about the problems in AA. They just claim that these problems don't exist and usually use the same old slogans and excuses of "take what you want and leave the rest", "it's your choice and you can leave at any time", "it doesn't happen in my group", "I have never heard of that happening ever (especially when we show them multiple articles on it)", "It is AA because it is conference approved", "they are only suggestions", "millions of people", etc....
All of these slogans and statements are just minimization techniques because the AA zealots do not want to face that there are problems that can be fixed. They just pretend they aren't there and tell newcomers the glossed over story leaving out these problems, so no one tries. As for the court mandating thing, that is the biggest joke because AAWS/GSO promotes it as can be seen in AA Pamphlet SMF-176. I don't care that they have numerous disclaimers point to the different entities inside "AA" that when you get to them they just disclaim it also. It is called a "loophole" to avoid being held accountable.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
alkieanon
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 15:48
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I think the big thing is for people to quit maximizing
The major problem that I see is the maximizing tactics that the AA haters use to blow out of proportion the problems in AA. They just claim that massive problems exist and usually use the same old slogans and excuses of "AA kills people", etc...
All of these slogans and statements are just maximization techniques because the AA haters do not want to face that there are problems that do not need to be fixed. They just exaggerate they are there and tell newcomers the horror story singling out these problems, so no one listens. As for the court mandating thing, that is the biggest red herring because AAWS/GSO does not promote it as can be seen in AA Pamphlet SMF-176. I don't care that they have numerous disclaimers point to the different entities outside of "AA" that when you get to them they just disclaim it also. It is called a "truthful" to prove you're being held accountable and responsible.
Polar opposites. No middle ground.
JR Harris
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 15:41
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So you just want to claim that this doesn't happen?
Despite the fact that there are numerous articles written about it in trustworthy sources? There will be no changes until people try to change things, just claiming it doesn't happen or can't be fixed are just deflection techniques used by people that do not want to fix problems, they just want to pray to some "Higher Power" for a miracle. Very illogical....
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
alkieanon
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 18:45
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So you just want to claim that this happens only in AA?
Despite the fact that there are numerous articles written about other incidents in every day life in trustworthy sources? There will be changes when people try to change things, just claiming it always happens in AA or must be fixed by AA are just accusation techniques used by people that want to pin the blame for problems on AA, they just want to ignore personal responsibility and accountability for a reason. Very illogical....
Polar opposites. No middle ground.
JR Harris
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:10
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No actually i want to discuss the issue, logically
AA faithful like to examine apples and oranges as being the same thing. I never said that the incidents we are discussing don't happen in other venues, but you need the inputs, outputs, population size and time period of any equation to come up with a logical answer.
The biggest example of the incorrect using of logic is to say that you are safer in AA than in a McDonalds, School, Malls, etc..... When making these statements, you have to take into account that AA only has 1.5 million members and they maybe have 250,000 people attending one hour meetings every day. With McDonalds serving 68 million customers a day, Schools serving 70 million people a day and over 47,000 malls with many more million people than both of these combined, the numbers just do not support the thought that AA is safer. Also McDonalds, School, Malls, etc..... don't have you chant the concept of "anonymity" each time you go into them.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
alkieanon
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 18:58
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No actually I want to discuss the issue, logically
AA haters like to examine apples and oranges as being the same thing. Jonestown, etc. You never said that the incidents we are discussing don't happen in other venues, but you cite single, isolated incidents as a broader systemic issue to come up with an illogical answer.
The biggest example of the incorrect using of logic is to say that you are safer in a McDonalds, School, Malls, etc. than in an AA meeting. When making these statements, you fail to take into account that the total number of AA incidents are less than the total number of McDonalds, Schools, and Malls incidents combined, the numbers do support the thought that AA is not dangerous. Also McDonalds, School, Malls, etc..... don't have you give your "name" each time you go into them.
Polar opposites. No middle ground.
JR Harris
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:15
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McDonalds 68 million a day, AA less that 250k a day
It's not rocket science. If they were the same then during the same time period of one year you would have 272 more incidents in McDonalds for every one in AA (68,000,000/250,000= 272). The numbers do not substantiate your claim. You are using Bill Wilson Math in your argument.
Prove me wrong using any statistical model.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Ironic
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 12:09
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For the thousandth fucking time
It doesn't only happen in AA.
The problem is that AA does not have any safety controls in place to curtail 13th steppers and molesters.
becket
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 12:38
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It doesn't matter where crime
It doesn't matter where crime happens. What matters is that it is a crime. If a victim does not want to press charges, that's up to him or her, and that person may have reasons to which no one else is privy. Anything that can happen in the world at large can happen in an AA meeting, including rape, including achieving sobriety.
Although we all take a risk every time we walk out of our homes, it just seems sensible not to mandate criminals to 12-step meetings or any other meetings in lieu of dumping their asses in jail. Meetings can be a landfill for perpetrators, placing others' health, well-being and personal safety at risk. Deleting this practice across the board would give proper perspective to the crimes in relation to the health of any given group, and it would hold the criminal solely responsible for his crime. It would not completely ensure the safety of those attending the group but it would certainly reduce the number of crimes committed within the 12-step environment.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Clara
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:21
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Even when you point out the
Even when you point out the disclaimers that do exist, you get a blank stare and a response along the line of "well, how many people do you think SEE this pamphlet?" Probably as many as see these massive protests that have the media clamoring in the streets. I think if htye looked, they'd find these things exists, just as disclaimers in clubhouses that tell parents to watch their children and they cannot leave them unattended.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:35
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"how many people do you think SEE this pamphlet?"
Clara, even when people do see the pamphlets, they are told they are "only suggestions" and are not rules, "take what you want and leave the rest", etc... those pamphlets are useless the way they are set up.
I mean look at your own disclaimer of "My comments on OPF represent my views only and do not represent those of AA" that means everything you are saying are only "suggestions" and can not be relied upon to reflect what actually happens in AA. It is a word game, nothing more and it really is annoying because on one hand you are saying what AA is and is not, but then you claim that you don't have the authority to do that and this is what causes tension on this forum and I am sure in the meetings you go to (Please don't give me the stock answer of "it doesn't happen in my group").
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Clara
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:18
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I don't understand all of
I don't understand all of these "band aids" for something they claim doesn't work. I don't get the energy involved in it or how comfortable it must be for one of the loudest to walk into a meeting with her husband while all eyes roll. If you don't want to be in it or get nothing out of it, walk away.
But you'll notice we never hear how many people participated in this protests, all the cameras or anything else. Waste of time and energy.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:27
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"get nothing out of it, walk away"
Clara, you know as well as I do that that is just part of the slogan "take what you want and leave the rest" and that some people do walk away. You should realize that sometimes when people try and walk away they get the AA zealots pulling the ego driven slogan fest on them talking about denial, giving away secrets learned in shares, etc....
When the AA zealots attack, is when the incidents we are talking about happen in AA for the most part.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Trisha K.
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 13:23
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So what, JR, you keep making this point like it has some....
power over people. It doesn't. Peer pressure is everywhere in our lives. Whenever someone goes against public opinion some one from the group will always have something to say.
AA is all about creating independence in our lives. Most of us who are still in AA or support it from the outside, had to leave much of our old life behind. Some of the people I left behind had some very unkind comments for me.
I would imagine there are some folks in AA that have a few screws loose and feel everyone should be doing it there way.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
gigi
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 13:28
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"AA is all about creating
"AA is all about creating independence in our lives."
Wrong. Just wrong, Trisha.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Trisha K.
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 13:51
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gigi, that is your experience.
I am so sorry that your experience with AA was, "just wrong".
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
becket
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 16:21
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How can you discuss anything
How can you discuss anything "logically" when you are thoroughly intolerant of any opinion that does not mirror your own, JR Harris? What you mean is you want to lecture and scold and pontificate and berate.
Try to remember, JR, this is a site for AA haters. No one here wants to "fix" AA. That's not the purpose of the site, as I understand it.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
massive
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 12:20
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one of the first things we used when I was in the AA cult
“Making AA Safe” for the AA Member
SEXUAL & FINANCIAL PREDATORS
ARE A REAL PROBLEM IN AA.
We can’t afford to ignore it any longer.
In accordance with Tradition One;
Our “Common welfare” should come first. Personal recovery depends upon AA Unity.
Read this before every meeting:
We of Alcoholics Anonymous feel that
NO MEMBER should be sexually or financially harassed in any way,
especially Newcomers.
It is up to us, individuals in the rooms and in our groups
to protect the minor, the new person, young and old from predators
of any kind. It’s up to us to keep AA a safe place.
Massive
alkieanon
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 19:08
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Why?
massive says: "Read this before every meeting:" Okay, if there has been a problem. So far, none.
massive says: "General Service in NY is saying it’s up to me and you." Okay, common sense prevails. So no grandstanding.
massive says: "AA in Great Britain and Australia (see attached Literature) and NA in America have had
literature & policy in place for years regarding predators." Beg to differ, but privacy laws pretty much trump everything.
Difficult to report bad behavior if none has been observed.
Polar opposites. No middle ground.
massive
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 00:17
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why should there be any
why should there be any middle ground for these people who have been raping women in AA since the beginning. quote from AA Board member!
Covering it up for decades. Let it go on every day in every city all over the country. Along with sponsor abuse.
Massive
Clara
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:04
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Where is that quote, Massive?
Where is that quote, Massive?
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:08
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When was the term "13 Stepping" started and why?
Can you answer this, even though you don't speak for AA?
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
becket
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:17
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There should be no middle
There should be no middle ground for rapists, whether the crimes occur within AA or outside of AA. But it is up to the victim to press charges, not you. If you cannot teach women that they deserve to be treated with respect and dignity your battle is long lost. It appears that starting with crimes that have already been committed is not the answer.
The quote from the AA Board member: who was it, when was it, and would you mind documenting it? Otherwise it's just hearsay and has no value.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Trisha K.
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 13:25
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Massive Relax!!!!!!
Massive, please take a Valium and lie down. You just don't know when to stop.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 18:50
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Bad Behaviour Is Not Unique To AA
Bad behaviour is not unique to AA.
Since the beginning? Of time? Caveman? Not buying your blanket accusations.
JR Harris
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 18:58
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No, AA just recruits heavily from jails and prisons
No need to think that just because the AA coven headquarters at the Interchurch Center works with the court system to expand their membership base. No reason to think that there will be many more criminals in the sample population, than say a McDonalds or even Family Dollar.
http://aa.org/en_pdfs/smf-176_en.pdf
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:11
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AA Goes To Jails And Prisons Because They Can
AA goes to jails and prisons because they can. Been checking on the requirements. AA members have filled out the paperwork, attended the training, paid the fees, and jumped through any other hoops required.
Membership has its privileges. LOL!
"More than 5.6 million Americans are in prison or have served time there, according to a new report by the Justice Department released Sunday [2003]. That's 1 in 37 adults living in the United States, the highest incarceration level in the world."
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:17
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The Odds of Dying
The more specific figures are based on 2001, the most recent year for which complete data are available. Other odds, indicated with an asterisk (*) are based on long-term data.
All figures below are for U.S. residents.
Cause of Death Lifetime Odds
Heart Disease
1-in-5
Cancer
1-in-7
Stroke
1-in-23
Accidental Injury
1-in-36
Motor Vehicle Accident*
1-in-100
Intentional Self-harm (suicide)
1-in-121
Falling Down
1-in-246
Assault by Firearm
1-in-325
Fire or Smoke
1-in-1,116
Natural Forces (heat, cold, storms, quakes, etc.)
1-in-3,357
Electrocution*
1-in-5,000
Drowning
1-in-8,942
Air Travel Accident*
1-in-20,000
Flood* (included also in Natural Forces above)
1-in-30,000
Legal Execution
1-in-58,618
Tornado* (included also in Natural Forces above)
1-in-60,000
Lightning Strike (included also in Natural Forces above)
1-in-83,930
Snake, Bee or other Venomous Bite or Sting*
1-in-100,000
Earthquake (included also in Natural Forces above)
1-in-131,890
Dog Attack
1-in-147,717
Asteroid Impact*
1-in-200,000**
Tsunami*
1-in-500,000
Fireworks Discharge
1-in-615,488
** Perhaps 1-in-500,000
SOURCES: National Center for Health Statistics, CDC; American Cancer Society; National Safety Council; International Federation of Red Cross and Red Crescent Societies; World Health Organization; USGS; Clark Chapman, SwRI; David Morrison, NASA; Michael Paine, Planetary Society Australian Volunteers.
JR Harris
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:16
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Does AA at the Interchurch practice "attraction, not promotion?"
Of does it actively promote the practice of prospect hunting in jails and prisons? Try to be rigorously honest please.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:19
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AA Members Go Where They Are Wanted and/or Needed
AA members go where they are wanted and/or needed. And more importantly, where AA members are welcomed.
causeandeffect
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:20
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LOL, that's the funniest joke
LOL, that's the funniest joke I've heard in weeks!
Troll free AA critical forum
http://www.expaa.org/
"The good thing about science is that it's true whether or not you believe in it." ~ Neil deGrasse Tyson
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:27
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Yeah, Who In Their Right Mind Would Submit To A Strip Search
Yeah, who in their right mind would voluntarily submit to a possible strip search on their free weeknight or weekend? LOL!
becket
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 09:23
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Massive declares, "WHAT ARE
Massive declares, "WHAT ARE WE WAITING FOR? HOW CAN YOU BE OF SERVICE????"
Who on this forum is supposed to pick up this ball and run with it? Those who despise AA and would prefer to see it implode, or those who attend AA and find that these problems are minimal at worst?
Your message, massive, may be appropriate for your radio show or other media that you use, but it seems oddly out of place here, where some people would lobby for AA's total demise and other people have no such experience with pyramid schemes and rapes at meetings and have little interest in such things except from an academic point of view. You have chosen a fallow field in which to plant your seeds of activism.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
massive
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 00:16
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How To Fix Predator Problem in AA/NA -I wrote this.
1. Have a safety statement read at beginning of every meeting.
For example: No one should be sexually or financially harassed in any way. We want you to feel safe. If you don’t feel safe please tell the secretary or a trusted friend.
lost
cause
Massive
alkieanon
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 19:20
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Why?
massive says: "At the start of every meeting do this and or that, read this and or that, etc." After every single one the announcements are all said and done, there would be no time for an actual meeting.
massive says: "All General Service Employee's and Board members and Delegates must go through training and workshops." Where did the mandate or requirement come from for these new rules an regulations?
Polar opposites. No middle ground.
massive
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 00:15
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No this is just a plan. A
A beginning. Some solution. Groups can pick what they like. It s just a matter of time before someone forces them to do some of this.
Already 75 groups or more ( I have lost count) They do not report to me LOL....are reading the beginning safety statement.
Massive
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 19:15
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Forced, Mandated, and/or Coerced
As Michael Bloomberg says: "'We're Simply Forcing You to ...."
As a Stanton Peele proponent, am opposed to any sort of forced, mandated, and/or coerced actions.
massive
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 00:14
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alkie- there would be no time
EVERY COMPANY in America that has had serious sexual harassment has to eventually have this training for all employees. This includes the church.
The insurance companies were the ones that required the priests to have this training or they would not insure them. This is a FACT.
Massive
Clara
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:10
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AA isn't a company, though.
AA isn't a company, though. It is a fellowship of men and women. It isn't a corporation. I've still been trying to get one former AA to let me in on what circumstances AA meetings would ever have insurance, and they've yet to say anything other than "sue them because they have insurance." Groups do not have insurance. Area and District do not have insurances. Why would they? We tried to have a picnic in MB on the old air force base, but couldn't because we couldn't get insurance because AA is a non-enitity without even someone that would serve as a signature. They had it was the state park, which didn't require insurance. I have heard of having to get a rider to another's insurance if a special event were held, but that was a rider on an existing policy, and only because it was a condition of that policy, not because it was an AA function. Any other group would have to do the same thing.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
alkieanon
Fri, 06/01/2012 - 18:57
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Lawyers And Lawsuits
'Nuff said.
Again forced, mandated, and/or coerced.
Pennywise
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 03:31
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At the start of every meeting
At the start of every meeting a liability announcement is made that no member may give ANY advice on any medications of any kind. From a single aspirin for a headache, a pain medicine for after surgery or a psych med for mental illness or depression. It is a legal liability and any member could be sued and AA in NY may be held liable.
Massive, do you think the First Amendment to the United States Constitution protects a private citizen's right to express his lay opinion on medications to fellow citizens?
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Clara
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:12
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I know that your question is
I know that your question is posed to Massive, but the FA probably DOES. The point for me, though, is that AA has an anti-meds stance that is similar to that of any other recovery group, and that is don't use it if it isn't medically necessary and medically supervised. This information is free and easily available to anyone coming into the fellowship. If someone is saying something tot he contrary, that person should be careful to say that it is his/her opinion.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:18
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"that it is his/her opinion"
Correct Clara, and you don't speak for AA either, so your comment is moot and of absolutely no value.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
becket
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 11:22
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"Correct Clara, and you don't
"Correct Clara, and you don't speak for AA either, so your comment is moot and of absolutely no value."
If Clara's upright and breathing, her opinion has value. It may have no value to you, but since you are not the "boss of everyone", step aside and allow her to have her say.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
massive
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 12:25
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No, they could be sued for
No, they could be sued for this as well.
Massive
Clara
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 12:36
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Could be sued for what,
Could be sued for what, Massive? AA isn't responsible for a private person's actions.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Pennywise
Thu, 05/31/2012 - 14:16
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Law in the grocery store
Massive:
If a fellow customer at a grocery store grabs your ass, the store is not going to be liable like it might be if you slipped in the isle. This is probably so even if the store knew sex offenders sometimes shopped there.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Clara
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 17:51
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Naw... Chicken Little is
Naw... Chicken Little is at it again.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Clara
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 18:10
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Do you really think that
Do you really think that groups will accept these? Do you think that it is AAWS that sets up meetings? don't you remember me telling Anti that it isn't AAWS that sets up meetings when I told her that women can and do go to ladies meetings? She said that not everyone had one to go to, and that is when I explained to her that is how meetings get started in the first place. People see a need and fill it.
To you, everyone is a predator first and an AA member second. I doubt that most people view their groups that way.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
msafrany
Wed, 05/30/2012 - 19:03
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Trash The Trash
Keep the Preamble, dump the rest. Remove faith healing as a "recovery" method. Let members be themselves within the fellowship. Free of sick "spiritual leaders", peer coersion (or suggestions), and the depressing, personality destroying, Clara Creating, 12 steps. When people spend too much time at recovery clubs or on websites, they are frowned upon as losers that are failing in the real world, not worshiped as wise gurus.
Burn all Hazeldon literature, bonfires throughtout the country.
Some shit like that....would be a start- Tools, Tards, Dolts...DOPES!!!
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