Sex inventory instructions
Begin our sex inventory by listing all the people you’ve had relations with over the years. Once you have listed all the names in column 1 of our Sex Worksheet
In column 2 list the harm done to the person in column one. In column 3 list where you were at fault; where you had been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness? Where were we at fault? In column 4 list what we should have done instead. We are going to use this fourth column as part of our ideal for the future.
Please be sure to review the bottom of page 68 and pages 69 and 70 with your sponsor and complete this inventory as well as the rest of the resentment and fear inventories before the next meeting.
Lets point out a couple other things in the sex conduct inventory.
“We asked God to mold our ideals and help us to live up to them.”
The last full paragraph on page 69 reads:
“Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it. We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing. In other words, we treat sex as we would any other problem.”
“In meditation, we ask God what we should do about each specific matter.”
Page 69 continues
“The right answer will come, if we want it.”
In the middle of page 70 there’s more prayer:
To sum up about sex:
“We earnestly pray for the right ideal, for guidance in each questionable situation, for sanity, and for the strength to do the right thing.”
“If sex is very troublesome, we throw ourselves the harder into helping others. We think of their needs and work for them. This takes us out of ourselves. It quiets the imperious urge, when to yield would mean heartache.”
After writing your sex inventory use what you have learned to write a sex ideal that you believe is how God wants you to behave.