Has SMART UK become an AA recruiting ground?

I thought I'd start this blog as we were starting to overrun JR's Scotland minimum price blog - sorry about that JR.

This seems a good place to gather information. I hope all you US based peeps will bear with us folks over here, SMART is a real danger to AA because it is based on recognised scientific methods. Certain AAs in certain areas are very quick to catch onto anything that may threaten their little worlds. I think it would be a good idea to see if we can identify a) if there is a problem and b) how big the problem is.

The only SMART meeting I've had any contact with was in Torquay in Devon. It seemed to be pretty well established and was run by the local Drug and Alcohol Advice Service. I met with the facilitator after the meeting and she was ex-AA and fairly anti. The general feel of the meeting was "I've tried AA and it didn't work".

If anyone has any information about any other SMART UK meetings it would be useful to know. Anyone wanting to leave AA doesn't want to get out of the frying pan and into the fire.

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btnben's picture

You brought it up - just page up and read. What is wrong with you? Can't you take any responsibility for your own posts?

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Clara's picture

I will always say that AA has never said it was the only game in town.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

And you will always be wrong.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Clara's picture

Not true, Gigi.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

About this-AA has always said it is not the only way to get sober-you will always be wrong. Saying that it is "sprinkled throughout" the literature is not good enough. Prove your point with factual, concrete evidence and I will write you a heartfelt letter of apology for doubting your superior knowledge of the BB. Remember that you already pointed me to the page of the BB where it supposedly says this. Remember too that I quoted the page and it says no such thing. Remember that you said that 'well, that is how it speaks to me.' Not good enough.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Clara's picture

Gigi, no amount of proof will ever be good enough for people that don't want to see it. AA wasn't the only way to get sober in its day and never said it was. AA wasn't for you and never will be. That's fine.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

No, no, no, Clara. I want to see the proof. I really do. I searched high and low to find proof and I couldn't find it. Help a sister out.
If you had the proof you'd show it. You've got nothing.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Clara's picture

Keep looking, Gigi. I have shown you before and it wasn't acceptable to you. No reason to keep going on about it other than you don't have anything to do on a Friday night.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

You're right Clara. It's not acceptable to me because it's not true. AA taught me that I need to be rigorously honest. It's a good policy. You enjoy your Friday night too.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Clara's picture

It is a good policy and I am glad that people realize that you don't have to be in AA to see the wisdom of it. I follow it, too, but I am not going to go through it again about where it says that AA isn't the only way or how AA tells you that you can't pursue any kind of other help, etc. To me, you are locking yourself into a way of thinking that supports a victim position of being lied to when so much of it seems clear to me.

There were other ways to get sober. Bill W. even employed some of them. He couldn't find permanent sobriety through anything but AA, but we know there were other ways and that he discussed them. We also know that if YOU think you can do it another way than in AA, that's fine, too, and everyone is happy for you. If you need professional help, you are encouraged to go get it. AA isn't a cure-all and doesn't claim to be. What people wanted from me at one time was where were the options listed in the literature where AA included SMART and the others. Those didn't even exist when most of the literature was written. The posters felt that AA lied to them by not telling them while not taking responsibility that some research of their own would have been in order. Look at how many things have existed since 1948 when Alcholics Victorious was created, Hazelden and others. Yet AA is somehow remiss for someone else's lack of interest or ability in simply doing some research. AA doesn't owe that to anyone, but it has always taken the posture that the organization isn't the only strategy for sobriety.

Sorry, Gigi, if you were taught differently than I was. It's obvious that you and others on this forum had some pretty interesting experiences. Their cases might be different from mine. My sponsor isn't an AA bogeyman, telling me that death is right around the corner. It was pretty obvious that jail was probably around the corner if I didn't grow up. I don't know about institutions, but jail just seemed like a fact. For some, perhaps fear is a useful emotion. But eventually I would think that you would recover and see that those things don't have to be a factor in your life with some changes. I don't think that takes 35 years.

None of this is good enough for you, but that doesn't matter. At the end of the day, the sole sobriety that is of concern to me is mine. You found another path, and that is fine. Any AA would be glad for you.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

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lol, that really is a laugh and a standard answer. You have never shown proof, you always just claim to. If you are always going to maintain it then I too think you should provide us the courtesy of where/how you learned it. Also, what does the following mean: "Unless each A.A. member follows to the best of his ability our suggested Twelve Steps to recovery, he almost certainly signs his own death warrant". If Bill W. or AA sprinkled what you claim throughout they literature it would certainly be killing alcoholics.

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causeandeffect's picture

gigi, this is a pointless discussion. I've tried it before and hit the same brick wall, where she claimed she answered this question, when clearly she hasn't. clara's merely saying whatever she can to defend AA an just hoping she can convince someone who hasn't already read the big book and doesn't know any better. Hell, even becket admitted this wasn't in the big book.

I've seen them go to any lengths to defend AA. One even said that to not try to 13th step newcomer women was disrespectful to them and called me a misogynist for speaking out against 13th stepping. It's right out of the twilight zone.

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Gigi, the idea of it sprinkled throughout the literature means that she interprets statements like "MOST OF US will surely die unless we commit to the steps" (paraphrase). Most means that AA isn't the only way, in Clara speak. If you are of the same illness as Bill W. (which many of us are crippled into believing) then we have to become a stepper. Clara was willing from day one, hence there was no reason for anyone to lure her in with ultimatums. Those that question or hesitate get the onslaught of pressure by way of instilling intense fear.

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Trisha K.'s picture

Or is this just another in a long list of knee jerk reactions to statements Clara makes.
Question was directed to, Gigi.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

Did that a month ago-she brought the topic up again. She is stating something as a fact, so it is up to her to prove that she is right. She can't do it.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Clara's picture

I am very comfortable with what the BB says, Gigi. And I will always say what AA says about itself and always has. It isn't the only way. It obviously wasn't the way for you.

Now, you just keep this going, Gigi. I know that you need to.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

NoAAUK's picture

Hi again Clara

"I am very comfortable with what the BB says, Gigi. And I will always say what AA says about itself and always has"

I know I'm new here but Ive sussed you out. You're just winding people up, gettin them to bite. You can't seriously tell me you really believe in that silly book?

Come on.... I'd didn't fall off the top of the christmass tree....admit you're just 'avin a laugh:-) (Same as Trisha)

Then everbody can be friends

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

causeandeffect's picture

You've sussed correctly. And when people bite, she plays the victim. They all do.

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Clara's picture

NoAAUK, I don't have to wind anyone up to get them to bite. All you need to be is someone that doesn't hate AA and perhaps found some good in it, and they will find fault with anything you present. What we have to do is just agree to disagree, and let it be that. They disagree with me, and that is fine. Ben will do ten days on a typo in a post of an AA. One poster was so weird about sources, you'd think we were writing treatises instead of blog posts. But again, only about AAs. They don't need any help biting anyone.

Yes, I believe in some of the BB. I believe that stepwork can be good and useful. I also believe that they are but suggestions. I know people that have done them and benefitted. I know people that didn't do them at all but still stayed sober. I took what worked for me. There are times when what I need changes, too. I had a great time in AA in MB, SC, but I have also disclosed on the board that if I came to AA for the first time here in El Paso, I don't think I would have considered it.

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Pennywise's picture

Well, in Chapter 7, Wilson advises those doing 12th Step work to "[r]emind the prospect that his recovery is not dependent upon people. It is dependent upon his relationship with God." BB p.100-101. However, Wilson admits that "[w]e have no monopoly on God; we merely have an approach that worked with us" BB p.95. Moreover, Forward to Second Edition states "[u]pon therapy for the alcoholic himself, we surely have no monopoly." BB xxi. Taken together, I am inclined to concede that the Big Book acknowledges that there might be other ways for some alcoholics to get sober.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Thank you, Pennywise. As sobriety in AA is dependent upon a higher power/God and the quote from chapter 7 says that recovery is dependent upon a relationship with God...AA is not the only way but God is. The quote from BB p. 95 just claims that people can find God in places other than AA. God is the way to sobriety.
"Upon therapy for the alcoholic, we surely have no monopoly." Taken as a stand alone comment, I would agree that AA says there are other ways to achieve sobriety. The other ways all lead back to God, however.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Pennywise's picture

I think that is right, Gigi. Of course, this allows AA to say that people who get sober without God were never "real" alcoholics to begin with.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Clara's picture

That discounts the atheists that get sober in AA. I know a few of them.

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Pennywise's picture

The atheists in AA are viewed as second class members and the common perception is that it is only a matter of time before they either relapse or learn to call God by name.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

causeandeffect's picture

Or they are simply token atheists trotted out as an example of how "open minded" AA is to non-believers when the actual literature is scathing about non-belief.

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causeandeffect's picture

Actually, Pennywise, the big book is clear that mere faith in God is insufficient for sobriety. It has to be AA style faith in God or it's completely useless, so none of that is an admission of other ways.

"Your prospect may belong to a religious denomination. His religious education and training may be far superior to yours. In that case he is going to wonder how you can add anything to what he already knows. But he well be curious to learn why his own convictions have not worked and why yours seem to work so well. He may be an example of the truth that faith alone is insufficient. To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action. Let him see that you are not there to instruct him in religion. Admit that he probably knows more about it than you do, but call to his attention the fact that however deep his faith and knowledge, he could not have applied it or he would not drink, Perhaps your story will help him see where he has failed to practice the very precepts he knows so well. We represent no particular faith or denomination. We are dealing only with general principles common to most denominations.

Outline the program of action, explaining how you made a self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past and why you are now endeavoring to be helpful to him. It is important for him to realize that your attempt to pass this on to him plays a vital part in your recovery."
BB. Working With Others, p 93

All those quotes concede is that one can find God or other kinds of therapy elsewhere, but is not an admission that one can get sober elsewhere.

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Clara's picture

Thank you, Penny. For some, this isn't going to be acceptable, but it is to me. Sometimes people just have to hear it from a different mouth.

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btnben's picture

You want proof of a negative Danny?...lol OK - I've read the BB front to back many, many times and nowhere does it say that AA is not the only way. That is the proof of a negative. Care to come back with a page number that disproves my proof?...lol

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NoAAUK's picture

Clara "I was always told that AA wasn't the only way to get sober. I was never held hostage or "lied to..." That whine gets pretty old."

Well I was and it appears from the OP and the other Anti AA websites and videos than many many others where also indoctrinated the same when they were at their most vulnerable. Most people aren't physically held hostage (Though it would appear some are) its the scaremongering "jails, institutions or death" which keeps them prisoner in the cult (thats the sole purpose of the fraudulent claim)

AA is seen as beyond reproach and a totally wonderful organisation and the worlds greatest experts on so called Alcoholism (problem drinking). Is it any wonder that vulnerable confused people will believe them when they say you will die if you leave. Incidentally I still have contact from time to time with 3 members of my original home group from 1980. We all left more or less 30 years ago, and far from being dead or in prison or the asylum we are practicing controlled drinking. One of us (not me) killed his partner whilst drunk (went to jail before AA for manslaughter) and when drying out saw giant spiders that kept growing...is that 'real Alcoholic enough.

Anyway obviously you love AA. When we started the Mansfield England group in 1980 Rita came over from Nottingham to help. She was 9 years sober (which was a lot those days and was guru status). Rita was all AA, she didn't work (don't think she ever had) she just went to AA meetings all over Nottingham and the two outside the city. She went to conventions, the lot AA was her life.

When she was drinking she drank alone, she was what they called a 'bottle woman' those days here. She had no friends, social life or anything really, just the booze. When she found AA she found a social life (albiet it a macabre one in my opinion) and eventually she found status. In AA she was somebody. she was a old timer guru. Outside of AA she was nothing (just a religious crackpot). Inside AA she would have doctors lawyers and other professional people listening to her advice (cult indoctrination). Outside AA people would doubtless laugh if she started talking about higher powers, character defects etc. Rita eventually died of old age sober in AA. AA worked for Rita and she loved it.

Of the original members of Mansfield AA about about 9 regulars, one I don't know what happen to, 6 drank again some never actually stopped, 2 died one a suicide.

Yes AA worked for Rita and she wasn't a bad person, deluded, but not bad. Anyway AA worked for Rita, but at what cost to others. I didn't go to AA to provide a social life and status for Rita, neither did those who died, nor anyone else that attended as far as I know. Wouldn't it have been better for all concerned if Rita had found a better social life and status fulfilling occupation than stepism?
And the rest of us had found an alternative to AA

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

Clara's picture

Why be concerned about Rita and how she lived her life? She was apparently happy with it. There are probably some that think Rita contributed well to their lives through compassion and understanding.

I don't find people outside of AA laugh at higher powers or character defects. Many of them have Gods and a good spiritual life. One thing I forget is that OPF seems to also attract people that have no belief if a god of any kind. Surely Rita knew other people that believe in gods or that felt work on personal development to be a good thing.

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NoAAUK's picture

Clara "Why be concerned about Rita"

The first 2 years of AA Mansfield 1980 - 1982 abridged statisics read AA success 1: Dead 2 (I suicide)

Cause for concern?....you betya

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

Oh Clara,
Please don't say that about OPF people, you have no idea if people here have a belief in a God of any kind. This is one of the bad's of AA, the way the AA member begins to believe & think that they know, just know what any one or any body is about, how they think, feel, what they do, etc. I know that you did not mean to offend & I am not offended, this is just one of the many dangers of AA thought & behaviors. A really sad thing about AA is Wilson's "character defects" theory & philosophy, addiction is not caused by character defects, a person does not become addicted to an addictive substance due to character defects, it is an absurd concept. Addiction has nothing, absolutely nothing to do with immorality or character defects. Addiction is a bad problem that happens to good people, an addict is not a selfish, immoral being with character defects. From my experience AA does not create any personal development, how can any one develop personally when they are told over & over who they are & how they react & what is wrong with them, & the solution is the steps. It isn't a personal development, it is following the suggestions of a seriously mentally ill dude, the lunatics are running the asylum. Personal, being your own person is not part of the AA or any of the anons agenda. You are not your own person, do not keep your own counsel, do not trust your self, stay stuck in the same rut, think, speak & live AA, how can any one genuinely personally develop? I think any one stays stuck on stupid in AA & then passes that stupidity on & beats up one addict with it after another.

patti

Clara's picture

People here identify with being atheist, Patti. No one is assuming anything about anyone but you.

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NoAAUK's picture

Hi Anti, yes I see where you are coming from and considered both SMART and MM censorship of AA critics was just to be politically correct. The concept of freedom of speech is most definitely not to be applied to wonderful, beyond reproach AA, which has obviously saved all our lives and billions and billions of others throughout the universe and has been proved over and over again to be Gods great plan for the salvation of Creation........but does extreme political correctness really solve any issues?
To me all Tom Horvarth is really doing is giving Steppers the green light to infiltrate SMART and they seem to be doing that in the UK to the point of physically locking out Smart facilitators and taking over in the case of Turning Point Westminster.....well they've done the SMART facilitator course after all (In my view you could possibly train a Chimp or a dolphin to pass that course, it would take some effort to fail it. It is meaningless in reality, its just reading a book or bits of one, anyone can easily do it…….. and then continue to preach stepism and/or engage in Sexual predation etc).

In theory it should be a different scenario in the UK anyway. While the US is considered to be the most Christian country in the developed world , England is considered to be the least (the Crusades finished sometime in the early middle ages)

Sorry I'm not digging at you, the whole Treatment issue is such a farce, both sides of the pond because of wilson and smith and their crazy followers trying to save their own skins (or souls or both) with no regard for others and I appreciate you feel the same as me. But it is different over here. For a start is far far smaller.

I was actually trying to get a Moderation/Harm Reduction network started in the UK my involvement with SMART was just to assist them a little. The dream would have been an MM UK working in cooperation with SMART UK and the Treatment Sector. The reality is that the Treatment Sector definitely and I think probably SMART UK, are too polluted with Stepism for that to work. I eventually came to the conclusion that the Treatment Sector/Centres have to be completely out flanked.
A UK Moderation/Harm Reduction Network could advertise at Point of Sale ie in Pubs Clubs Supermarkets etc it would also be beneficial to the UK drinks industry showing they are trying to clean up their act. The network is not promoting abstinence rather responsible drinking which should have no conflict of interests with the UK drinks industry and should be beneficial to them long term. A Cheap Hand book could be produced similar in kind to the SMART UK members hand book, which could be emailed to all GP’s (we are much much smaller than the US as I said ) An online community could be set up which again could be advertised at Point of Sale and directly with GP’s. NHS endorsement could be gotten and NHS logo on all literature and Posters etc. Drinkaware .co.uk could finance the formation of face to face meetings. It could be very economical not involving the Treatment Centres and the inherent waste of communal funds . This Network could be set up and run without any involvement with the Treatment Centres and could easily be blatantly anti AA, it should be totally acceptable for a Harm Reduction network anyway. You could even have links to the OP for those who need deprogramming from stepism before attempting Moderation like I did. I would glady give up my Saturdays to start meetings up and down the UK. I could run my own pilot scheme, again without any Treatment Centre involvement. It would be real peer support.
Ive recently discussed these ideas with somebody of prominence over here and they agree it can work. It even could be done in conjunction with a large scale anti AA campaign, involving the OP and other deprograming sites and videos being emailed to MP’s doctors etc. TV Programs such as Panorama and Dispatches which like to expose things on a national scale finally exposing Stepism. In fact any opposition from Steppers and their supporters/enablers could actually be advantageous opening up large scale debate about stepism at last in the UK media. The whole British public could finally get to know AA and its clones are just religious cults.

You would really need to work in conjunction with a total abstinence network, SMART UK would not be applicable, perhaps future members who found Moderation was NOT and option for them, could get in touch and form a UK Rational Recovery Network (I’m happy with Jack) or SOS or some real total abstinence total alternative to stepism.
As the British Army’s elite soldiers the SAS claim in their motto “Who Dares Wins” It could work with out censorship of AA criticism. Problem drinkers attempting habit change could finally say what they wanted to. It could be done with the right motivated people….certainly in the UK, possibly both sides of the Atlantic

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

Trisha K.'s picture

......about what you are talking about. Just because you can intellectually theorize about AA, treatment centers, Smart,MM, and how the could possibly interface with one another or not doesn't actually mean you are going to do anything. Aye!!!!
I have a question, "why is it every time someone from England talks with someone else from England about AA, Smart or MM", they are of "PROMINENCE". Jeesh, did you all talk with the, Queen?

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

NoAAUK's picture

Hi Trisha, You sound very serene and at one with the universe you obviously did not leave before the miricle

I meant some one of prominence in addictions treament.

I know exactly what i'm talking about and it could hopefully hasten the demise of your death cult.

Somebody once said that "I was using MM to get back at AA" Not true, But if I could seriously put the boot into AA on a large scale by becoming involved in a Moderation/Harm Reduction Network, promoted by the UK drinks industry, thereby getting the problem drinkers before you steppers and the Treatment centres quacks, that could really hasten the end of the AA death cult in the UK.

"Just because you can intellectually theorize about AA, treatment centers, Smart,MM,"

Ive been in AA , Treatment Centres and SMART, I don't need to theorise. I wish I could just theorise about AA maybe then it could work and people wouldn't die (in my imagination) Don't you people ever read anything but the BB or ever deal in facts

You really must start to 'engage brain before opening mouth' Sorry I forgot, you leave your brains at the door xxx

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

Trisha K.'s picture

Just about every Anti-AA member on this site bashes AA and....wait for it...have either attended a Smart meeting in person or on-line, they also actively promote Smart here. So please Anti, Smart does bash AA.
The members/advocates = Smart.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

massive's picture

Are u kidding ?????Orange Papers is an anti AA site ...WTF!

Massive

massive's picture

Interesting stuff. I hope we can effect change.

Massive

Many people will go to smart and AA. They often go to smart for a more rational approach but go to AA because it has many meetings and they can be around people who are not drinking for a hour or so. Many will not know which is the best course to follow at the start - I went to AA which I realise with hindsight was not for me but found one on one help was the best. It is important that people realise that this is about supporting people and saving lives and not some competition about numbers and religious beliefs. Unfortunately the attitude of many AA members is to push anyone into the 12 steps without encouraging them to look around and find what is a good solution for them and this results in far too many running away from recovery.
I have been to AA in Victoria in he building that was mentioned and that was a pretty crazy bunch so if they were turning up at smart I can quite believe it was useless. That AA meeting got closed down even though it was a big one and I really did not like it because it was quite seedy. I don't think that amateur, voluntary groups are the way foward because of the nature of people that you find in the recovery movement . There needs to be more safety and some accountability as well as a rational assessment of any newcomer . It is not good enough to tell somebody to read the big book and go and pray.

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I am not a believer that reading the BB and praying is all there is to it anymore than I think you can watch a few RR videos after you've been "invited" to the program through a professional and "get it." I am a firm believer that the support is what does it for me, and that wouldn't change be it AA or any of its clones.

I still think the was to create real change is for people that believe it is necessary or desireable to become SMART facilitators.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

Trisha K.'s picture

Support that accompanies these programs is essential or should I say critical to your success.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

NoAAUK's picture

Its critical to a cult

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

Clara's picture

I am not a believer that reading the BB and praying is all there is to it anymore than I think you can watch a few RR videos after you've been "invited" to the program through a professional and "get it." I am a firm believer that the support is what does it for me, and that wouldn't change be it AA or any of its clones.

I still think the was to create real change is for people that believe it is necessary or desireable to become SMART facilitators so that it is actually available. Anything less is just mental masturbation.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

I am a firm believer that the support is what does it for me, and that wouldn't change be it AA or any of its clones.
Cool.

"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."

Right, reading the BB & praying isn't all there is to it. Making your mind up to quit is all there is to it! Going through any difficult situation it's nice to have support, but I didn't consider being told what to do, who I was, how I felt or should feel, how to think or that my feelings & thoughts were wrong over & over, support. That was not a supportive environment for me. Never, ever heard the words, "I know what you mean", "I know how you feel", or "yeah your right, that is a bitch", etc. etc. All I was told, was see the problem is your thinking, the problem is what your feeling, it is wrong, you are wrong, you are "sick" & that's why you feel & think the way you do, over & over. That's not support. Some people are comfortable in a controlling & bossy environment, dependent personality types, that isn't most people, most people want & need to believe in them self's.

patti

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Mcf66 I believe Bamford may well have ran that AA meeting at Turning Point and a now finished NA group as well. She high jacked the SMART meeting from me because she can't run a stepper meeting there anymore. Shes just a control freak, any meeting will do as long as SHE'S in charge

The intention was for me to eventually hand over the meeting (and the MM one) to a suitable local SMART facilitator, not a dethroned stepper control freak.

They realy ought to close that whole Turning Point Centre down at Westminster its a bad place in my opinon and warrents and investigation by Turning Point Head Office

......and many false prophets will appear and deceive many people. Matthew 24:11

massive's picture

mfc66uk-you said ...I don't think that amateur, voluntary groups are the way foward because of the nature of people that you find in the recovery movement . There needs to be more safety and some accountability as well as a rational assessment of any newcomer . It is not good enough to tell somebody to read the big book and go and pray.

This is a very valid point and whY I liked Smart so much at first. But at two separate meetings I saw too much just letting people actually dominate a Smart Meeting . It was weird and I wont go into it here. It had nothing to do with me these particular times. But I felt like the leader just acted like it was an AA meeting letting one person go on and on for 20 minutes. One young girl was talking about being homicidal and suicidal and we all were looking at the leader to tell the young girl to go to UCLA right away to get help. I think you are right. Some safety and accountability and professional facilitation is better.

Im tired of the blind leading the blind and the stupid AA way.

Massive

I feel it is very important for people to have some personal guidance in the early days. They may need help getting housing, health care or clothing etc. I feel that if there were properly run schemes to help people in an organised way then volantary organisations could offer support. The rehab then go to AA does not work for many. There are too few places and not enough time is spent with individual care. Many get a detox and are then let out. The whole cultural side of srinking needs to change here. We were driving through a run down area last night on the way to see Jimmy Cliff and my partner asked what I would say to people who lived there who were trying to stop? She could see exactly why people would want to blot out life and that is something that needs to change. Once an area is rundown it is hard to change it.when you go to meetings in that type of area you hear so many horror stories that they become normal after a while and you don't pay the attention you should. People accept that as part of life and that is sad.

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I saw this so many times over many years in AA. There is a basic social level below which anyone with a substance abuse problem has virtually zero chance of stopping. The real misery of reality is too much to cope with. The AA line of stop the drinking and everything else will follow is just not enough. People truly need additional help in those early days - I know I did. AA refuses to provide that help - they call it "enabling". They seem to have a very Old Testament view of "suffer to sobriety". Or maybe some of them are just sadists.

I've mentioned (many times...lol) that I've got connections to a local homelessness charity. They helped me when I was really bad - I honestly don't think I would have got through the first 6 weeks without them. Maybe that's a bit dramatic, but the outcome wouldn't have been anywhere near as good as it was without their help. They do not actually provide housing but take people, individually, through the maze of bureaucracy that is involved when you have nothing. When council's etc find people housing, they do so and then leave them there. This charity then works with people once they are in housing to ensure they are coping - utilities, benefits, medical care etc. They do this for as long and as often as they need.

Homelessness, like substance abuse, can be a merry-go-round. The reasons for the initial homelessness often have to be addressed or it will just keep repeating itself. Ask any council housing department. Breaking the cycle with homelessness is just the same as breaking it with addiction - they often go hand in hand. The charity I work with have been at the forefront of local addiction for 30 years (one of their contracts is dealing with rough sleepers). Even so, until recently when I started rocking the boat, they were woefully unaware of a) Just how bad AA was (No checks for sponsors was immediately deemed inappropriate) and b) that there were alternatives .

I was in contact with the Director yesterday (I sent him massive's "Letter to Professionals") and I've got a meeting with him and others soon. My thoughts are that if this charity is unaware of what's going on, then similar charities in other towns/cities must be in the same boat. The guy in charge here is very anti-AA and I'm sure he would be willing to put his name to anything, provided he agreed with it of course. Often the best way to get in is to have the right person to open the door for you.

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

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