The Serenity Prayer (Long Form) and its History with Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

The Serenity Prayer is chanted at Alcoholics Anonymous meetings often at the end of the ceremony in the place of the Lords Prayer. The short form of the Serenity Prayer contains 4 lines and is the one most often chanted in these rituals, the long form adds 11 lines to it for a total of 15 lines. I mention this because the Serenity Prayer most often quoted and sometimes even permanently inked (tattooed/branded) on an AA prospects skin is roughly only 1/3 of the total prayer.

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
{--- The often forgotten part begins here ---}
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
Amen.

--Reinhold Niebuh

Source:http://www.cptryon.org/prayer/special/serenity.html

The Serenity Prayer was first penned and used by pastor Reinhold Niebuhr in 1943, at the height of World War II and was not meant to be used as a prayer for recovery from Alcoholism. The first use of the prayer was at the very small and rural Union Church in Heath, Massachusetts. It was meant as a prayer to help those whose lives, families and communities had been ravaged by war to cope with their losses.

Niebuh's daughter, Elisabeth Sifton has written a book about the prayer called,"The Serenity Prayer, Faith and Politics in Times of Peace and War" (ISBN-10: 0393057461) in which she explains the history of the prayer which by 1944 appeared in the "Book of Prayers and Services for the Armed Forces."

Like most of Bill Wilson's work, the prayer was "borrowed" for use by the fellowship when Ruth Hock, Wilson's first secretary saw it used at the bottom of an obituary and asked a printer named Henry S. to print the prayer on some cards which were handed out to various groups in AA to be included in the chanting rituals. It was not until the mid 1950's at a time when Bill Wilson was experimenting with the mind altering drug LSD as a way to enhance Spirituality and his adulterous liaison with a young Grapevine editor named Helen Wynn, that the Serenity Prayer actually caught on and was widely adopted.

Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/03/the-serenity-prayer_n_1473196.html

btnben's picture

The version you've quoted JR is the Bill W edited version. He changed the original and, if I remember rightly, rather pissed off Niebuhr.

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

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God, give us grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as Jesus did,
This sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that You will make all things right,
If I surrender to Your will,
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.

Source: http://skdesigns.com/internet/articles/prose/niebuhr/serenity_prayer/

Other "supposed" unabridged copies with a few minor changes are also on the web. I wonder what the real original was? I wonder if anyone knows what obituary that Ruth Hock saw the original prayer in and if it is available?

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btnben's picture

Hence the "we" and "us". Bill W changed it to be personal, as in "me" and "I", which is what pissed off Niebuhr.

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Clara's picture

I don't know if he was necessarily pissed off about it, but he didn't like the commericialization of it onto teatowels and coffee mugs. Since he didn't believe in copywriting prayers, I am not sure that a "wrong" was commited by anyone in subtle changes to make it more personal.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

Niebuhr was pissed, cause he despised Buchman & his politics & his insanity! Niebuhr's prayer used by a Buchman spin off, AA! It's sad, like all of AA.

patti

alkieanon's picture

Really? Just finished reading a couple of articles (interview and letter to the editor) by Reinhold Niebuhr. He was very complimentary toward AA.

Orange's picture

Reinhold Niebuhr also disliked the mangling of the phrase "changing what we can". Reinhold said that we
should not go around changing things just because we can; we should only change the things that
ought to be changed.

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That's true Orange. Like fixing something that isn't broken.

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That's not what he (Reinhold Niebuhr) said.

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I give up alkie. What did he (Reinhold Niebuhr) say?

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Orange's picture

I'm not sure which side of the argument you are referring to.
My information comes from the book "The Serenity Prayer", by Elizabeth Sifton, Reinhold Niebuhr's daughter, who had a pretty good idea of what her father said about the Serenity Prayer.

Clara's picture

In 2008, Yale Book of Quotations editor Fred R. Shapiro published evidence showing that versions of the Serenity Prayer[9] were in use as early as 1936, years before the first known attribution to Niebuhr.[2] Shapiro also mentions that all early recorded usages, in its various forms of circulation and improvisation, were from women typically involved in volunteer or educational activities.[10] In 2009, however, Duke researcher Stephen Goranson found a variant attributed to Niebuhr in a 1937 Christian student publication:

"Father, give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other."

Dunno if Bill changed it or not. Perhaps what was in the obit was just what they decided to use.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

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Now, new evidence from historical newspaper databases has changed our understanding of its history. The formula of the Serenity Prayer, it is now clear, was circulating before 1936, or at least five years before Niebuhr’s family has said he composed it and used it. This evidence is by no means conclusive. It is entirely possible that Niebuhr composed the prayer much earlier than he himself later remembered. But it also appears possible, indeed plausible, that the great theologian was unconsciously inspired by an idea from elsewhere.

Then Yale claims the Grapevine account is false (what a shocker).

The Alcoholics Anonymous Grapevine of January 1950 states that the prayer "was actually written by Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr, of the Union Theological Seminary, New York City, in about 1932 as the ending to a longer prayer. In 1934 the doctor’s friend and neighbor, Dr. Howard Robbins, asked permission to use that part of the longer prayer in a compilation he was making at the time. It was published in that year in Dr. Robbins' book of prayers." A number of other sources and Niebuhr biographers over the years have put forth an (undocumented) 1934 dating for Niebuhr’s writing of the prayer.

The prayer has been credited to anonymous sources going back to the ancient Egyptians.

However, the Grapevine account, like much of the voluminous literature on the prayer’s history, falls apart when closely examined. Robbins’s only prayer book from the period, Way of Light (1933), contains nothing resembling the Serenity Prayer. Elisabeth Sifton e-mailed me that "RN and Robbins were not neighbors in 1934 (we hadn’t moved to Heath yet)

Source;http://www.yalealumnimagazine.com/issues/2008_07/serenity.html

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Bill Wilson can't leave anything alone can he.......

That sly rewording and "phrase shifting" - it's the difference between Dale Carneggie's work that Bill Wilson Stole verbatim and rewrote in the exact same fashion and MADE the AA basic Text from - that he subsequently rigged up everything to make the royalties go into his pocket after all the slaves sold it for him......

So there is Billy Wilson with a head full of acid and Helen Wynn with a cunt full of his cum, and Bill jumps up and says, "I have an idea!"....

It's Bill Wilsons style - through and through, the slight rewording, the phrase changing, the putting in some bits and taking out others....

The original authors work on one side, the thesaurus in the middle and Wilson's spiritually inspired work flowing forth from his god guided hand.

Pigs fucking arse he is............

Alkieanon,
can you please provide the links or post the articles & interviews where Niehbur was complimentary to AA? Thanks for sharing!

patti

JR Harris's picture

any direct examples for any information. He just deflects. Typical answers of the AA faithful idol worshipers of the occultist Bill Wilson.

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alkieanon's picture

Dig Deeper!

JR Harris's picture

and morally corrupt con man Bill Wilson. Pretty low and often used tactic. Try something else if you have the mental capacity, that BS is getting old.

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JR Harris says: "It was not until the mid 1950's at a time when Bill Wilson was experimenting with the mind altering drug LSD as a way to enhance Spirituality and his adulterous liaison with a young Grapevine editor named Helen Wynn, that the Serenity Prayer actually caught on and was widely adopted."

Pretty low and often used tactic. Try something else if you have the mental capacity, that BS is getting old.

JR Harris's picture

"Dig Deeper"

Use your own advice and "more will be revealed." All of those facts were true. It was at a time when Bill Wilson was experimenting with LSD and also the same time he was thinking about leaving his wife for Helen Wynn. What facts do you have?

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JR Harris asks: "What facts do you have?"
I'll show you mine if you show me yours.

JR Harris's picture

In the mid-1950s, when Bill was in his early sixties, he began an affair that was different than any he had before. The Woman's name was Helen Wynn, and she was in her early forties when Bill met her. Helen and Bill were together some fifteen years. They saw each other regularly in New York and later in Pleasantville, a town fifteen minutes south of Bedford Hills, where Helen bought a home.

Source: Francis Hartigan (Lois Wilson's Secretary). "Bill W.: A Biography of Alcoholics Anonymous Cofounder Bill Wilson" 2000. pg. 190.

Public timeline of 1956 from Silkworth.net verifying Bill's mistress Helen Wynn and his LSD use:

Aug 29, Bill W joined with Aldous Huxley and took LSD in CA under the guidance of Gerald Heard and Sidney Cohen. Others invited to experiment (and who accepted) were Nell Wing, Father Ed Dowling, Sam Shoemaker and Lois Wilson. Marty M and Helen W (Bill’s mistress) participated in NY. Bill had several experiments with LSD up to 1959 (perhaps into the 1960’s). (PIO 370-376, NG 136-137, BW-FH 9, 177-179, GTBT 81-82)

The American Medical Association stopped short of designating alcoholism as a disease but passed a resolution that recognized alcoholics as legitimate patients who were sick persons. (CB 166, LOH 190, SD 188)

Source:http://silkworth.net/aafiles/timelines_public.html

Serenity Prayer modified specially for Bill Wilson:

God grant me the serenity
to have my wife ignore my mistress that she cannot change;
courage to overlook the things I can make her do through Al-Anon;
and wisdom to know the difference tripping on LSD with my wife and my mistress

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

J.R., I know he just deflects, also I don't believe the interview or articles do exist, ever happened & so can't be linked or posted. This is the epitome of the insanity of AA, just tell a lie & they will believe. Abuse, belittle the listener, make up a lie that you can't back up & still expect it to be believed. Insult to injury.

patti

becket's picture

This is the epitome of the insanity of AA haters, just tell a lie & they will believe. Abuse, belittle the listener, make up a lie that you can't back up & still expect it to be believed. Insult to injury

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First you're kissing up to alkieanon for the source; then when he tells you to go look for it yourselves you say, "I don't believe the interview happened", as in "I knew it all along, that bastard was lying!"

You are as stealth as the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

I would be very interested in reading an article or interview by Niebuhr in which he praises AA. Please provide link/info where I would find them. Thanks in advance.

becket's picture

OMG!!! The WRONG USE of a prayer!

Bastards!

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Why not just provide the information, why not just share with us the information?

patti