On many occasions i heard members say "It's a God job".
It heard it said in situations as varied as:
* Getting a car park when running late to a meeting
* Running into a member on the street when having a bad day
*Getting the last teaspoon of instant coffee at a meeting
and my favourite...
*meeting a newcomer in AA with the same name as a cousin with a drinking problem.
Do AA members really think that these things are an intervention of a God, who cares about the minutia of their lives?
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Pennywise
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 06:10
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Yes.
Yes.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Unhinged
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 06:46
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Pennywise....
There must be something you can do to get out of the little predicament you are in? Can you not tell the powers that be that you've had a spiritual awakening and you're all better now?
Can you not swap your 'treatment' for something like SMART? Committing yourself to a recovery program for life might not be a nice prospect for anybody but at least at SMART there is not much talk of door knobs. Ah, but then you wouldn't get to surf the net during meetings! I guess you will just have to pretend AA is an internet cafe to get by.
Clara
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 08:09
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I am sure that can work just
I am sure that can work just fine for some people. That was one reason for the geographic cure to MB. Putting it down was hard. Staying resolute was something I had never accomplished because of how I lived. Support is everything.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
alkieanon
Sat, 05/12/2012 - 10:31
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Special Requirements
Attendance at 12 Step (or any other alternative) meetings was not credible or good enough. Signed slips of paper could be forged and were considered worthless.
Compliance and verification was accomplished by random BA and UA. Periodic follow up evaluations with psychologists were also scheduled.
JR Harris
Sat, 05/12/2012 - 10:51
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The placebo effect only works on the people conned
The placebo effect only works on the people conned by those attempting it as a method of mind control in Alcoholics Anonymous. The first thing that AA does is to establish anti-reasoning and anti-logic in the prospect. Many people are too smart to fall for this ploy, hence the "there are none too dumb for the AA program but many are too smart" slogan to attempt to manipulate the prospect into compliance through shame and belittling. This ploy of the cult of Alcoholics Anonymous only works on the ones that are stupid enough (or court mandated) who follow the other slogan used to brainwash prospects,"fake until you make it."
The use of brainwashing techniques by the untrained slogan using scum of Alcoholics Anonymous is neither honest or beneficial in many cases. The forcing of brainwashing of prospect by th court system in reminiscent of the movie "Soylent Green" in 1973 and "The Island" in 2005 where the populations were herded, manipulated and used to further the growth and wealth of those manipulating them.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soylent_green
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Island_%282005_film%29
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Unhinged
Sat, 05/12/2012 - 10:59
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Well said JR Harris.
Well said.
becket
Sat, 05/12/2012 - 11:33
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"Well said JR Harris"?! JR
You think JR Harris said all that?
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
alkieanon
Sat, 05/12/2012 - 11:45
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Just because you keep saying it doesn't make it so
Just because you keep saying it doesn't make it so.
live_free_or_die
Mon, 05/14/2012 - 21:37
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wow
I mean wow. Well said alkie.
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avogadno
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 18:45
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It is not a coincidence that
It is not a coincidence that Brad P. shared exactly what I needed to hear today.
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gigi
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:07
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God moment
Many of them really do believe that the most mundane events qualify as God moments. When I run into someone from AA at the supermarket, Barnes and Noble or the diner (as often happens), I chalk it up to coincidence or attribute it to the fact that I live in a very densely populated area. I run into people I know all the time. But if I was a card carrying member of AA, I'm sure I'd find some way to say that running into this person was just what I needed at that very moment. It was a God moment. Sure.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
becket
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 12:51
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Any believer will tell you
Any believer will tell you that every single moment is a God moment. And non believers will tell you there is no such thing as a universe ordered and maintained by an entity any smarter, stronger, wiser, funnier or even sexier than themselves. It is not the degree of vulnerability or gullibility or adamant conviction here that fuels this discussion. This is actually a subset of the larger question, which is: are you a believer or a non-believer? It appears that most on this forum are non-believers, although I think there's room for minds to be changed through personal experiences (and NOT through influence or coercion). Atheism is fine. Agnosticism is fine. Belief in God is fine. Everybody gets one vote, and no one's vote should be ridiculed, even if it means people believe in coincidences, serendipity, fairies, ghosts, or the Rainbow Bridge.
Is this the best you all have in your mission to bring down AA? Isn't there something important for you to discuss, infiltrations and secret recordings of angsty revelations at meetings? Really.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Pennywise
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 15:24
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And non believers will tell
And non believers will tell you there is no such thing as a universe ordered and maintained by an entity any smarter, stronger, wiser, funnier or even sexier than themselves.
No. That is Bill Wilson's strawman that he lambasted in "We Agnostics." I would tell you no such thing.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
becket
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 19:28
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What would you tell me, then?
What would you tell me, then? I didn't get this from Bill Wilson; I made the mistake of drawing this conclusion on my own.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Pennywise
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 03:40
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Becket, I would tell you that
Becket, I would tell you that the universe is an inconceivably huge place that we know only a little about. In the big scope of things humans are probably of little importance (except to us), and I would be surprised if we are the most intelligent beings in existence.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
msafrany
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:24
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God Shot
The last few years in the program I kept hearing the term "God-Shot". Guess it was supposed to mean a boost in moral because something "favorable" happened during the day. I hated the term.
And then the crap when someone at the meeting brags that because they survived a car wreck, it "proves" that God exists. Unfortunately the poor souls that died in car wrecks are not present to "prove" that God does not exist.
Nothing but complete nonsense and a total waste of time. Can't emphasize enough, it is so good to be free of that garbage.
BB Kate
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 20:51
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There's also those times when
There's also those times when someone "shares" that there has to be a god because they are sober
Ripping the Big Book a new one, One Day at a Time
Clara
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 15:18
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It could a sincere sentiment.
It could a sincere sentiment. We don't know where people's alcoholism and addictions take them.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Clara
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 15:18
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It could a sincere sentiment.
It could a sincere sentiment. We don't know where people's alcoholism and addictions take them.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Brett
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 06:42
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sincere 6 pak
we know where your "alcoholism" took you.
Brett
Clara
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 08:05
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It wasn't pretty, Brett, and
It wasn't pretty, Brett, and I am relieved to be out of it regardless of the route that took.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Brett
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 08:30
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Pretty ugly 6 pak
musta gotten into a horrible spiral of self abuse huh?
your views are A.A.
Brett
becket
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 12:41
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"I hated the term."
"I hated the term." Well, of course you did.
Have you considered that the deaths of the people in the car wrecks ALSO proved that God exists?
If this is "nothing but complete nonsense and a total waste of time", and you "can't emphasize it enough", and you are "free of that garbage", what, then, prompted your total immersion in the discussion?
You're not any more free than Clara is. You are just as shackled to the negatives of the program as Clara is the positives.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
causeandeffect
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 21:00
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I guess that would mean that
I guess that would mean that you're just as shackled to alcohol as the active alcoholic is then, wouldn't it now?
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becket
Wed, 05/09/2012 - 14:56
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No, darling, it would not.
No, darling, it would not.
msafrany, who is a guru in his own mind, claims to have absolute and total control over his life (even if broadsided by a Beemer). He claims to have wasted 20 years of life being indoctrinated by AA. He then experienced a sudden spiritual awakening and came to believe AA is nothing but shit, and furthermore insists that iife is good, even great, without AA. He would logically be so far removed from AA now that he would feel no compulsion to continue to wax poetic about AA's deficiencies. If divorced, wouldn't he simply move on? He's certainly not carrying a torch for SMART or Rational Recovery or Women in Recovery. He has no interest in improving the lot of drunks. Why, then, the pompous appearances at 8 & 10:30, with matinees on Sundays?
And you believe I'm "just as shackled to alcohol as the active alcoholic is then"?? Goodness. I haven't been "shackled" to booze in 32 years, sweetie. My interest here is just to try maintain a presence for those who are sober and are not bursting at the seams with harsh and ugly things to say about AA.
I think you have me mistaken for someone else. Ironic, perhaps? Isn't she on a geographical right this minute, in search of mind-altering, mood-altering medgrade? Maybe a little cocktail or two to go with that? Yeah, that must be it. You just forgot who you were talking to. Of course, this is not to imply that she's in the middle of a relapse. Even though the circumstances and the behaviors leading up to the flight kinda LOOK that way, it could just be her way of coping.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Persephone In Exile
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:24
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I love it. They say everyone
I love it. They say everyone who joins was nothing but ego and self-centeredness BEFORE joining, but afterwards the traits of thinking that a deity cares enough about their lives to control very patterns to affect them, the constant self-analysis, the utter lack of humility involved in sharing one's "story" constantly at meetings, these are somehow humility? I rarely see people as self-involved as ones who attend meetings regularly and hold these beliefs.
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
gigi
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:39
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Yes! Round and round we go.
Yes! Round and round we go. I drank because of my ego so I need to come here and work on my ego and get some humility so let me tell you all about myself and where my alcoholic thinking got me -oh sorry, did I interrupt you? It's my ego again and I surely need to work on that and I will as soon as I can get together with my sponsor but in the meantime I will definitely share about it tonight because I have to talk about it and work on me. It is a selfish program after all.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Persephone In Exile
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:50
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Exactly. It's a marvel of low
Exactly. It's a marvel of low-effort thinking. They're too lazy to think about anyone but themselves, I think that's why their stock answer to anyone else's problems is to tell them to read the big book/basic text. Heaven forbid they take time out of focusing on themselves to think of someone else's problems.
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
btnben
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 03:31
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"low-effort thinking"...lol
What a brilliant expression PIE...lol. Says so much with a wonderful economy of words. That's going to get used again...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
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Persephone In Exile
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 07:49
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Ben, oh, that's not one of
Ben, oh, that's not one of mine. I was trying not to bring in "outside issues". Google that phrase and you'll see plenty of news about a recent study connecting low effort to one political ideology more than to others.
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
billybudd
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:31
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If ___, then yes
If the universe incorporates "God", then yes, it's all divine, whether job or mere pastime. From insignificant dead sparrows to that inopportune and consequential butt squeak that ruined an entire life, God's keeping tabs and ultimately to blame.
billybudd
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 19:42
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In the grand scheme
is it more ridiculous to have an attitude of faith in divine intervention or to disdain those having an attitude of faith in divine intervention? Occupation or avocation ...
Clara
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 08:09
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To each's own. If you let
To each's own. If you let others live as they choose to, it matters not to you.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
humanspirit
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 20:21
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God Shot?
When I was last in the States (forget the UK for now – we’re a godless lot) I read a very interesting survey about what kind of god American people believed in. The majority of Americans believe in God, but the god ‘of their understanding’ fell into three distinct groups. The first were people who believed in some kind of overriding power that created the universe and all life, but mainly as an abstract concept. The second was a group (mainly poorer and less advantaged people, including most African Americans) who believed that God would not intervene in the here and now, but however shit their lives were on this earth, they would be rewarded for their belief in the afterlife. The last group were the people who think that God will intervene personally in their individual lives, and will make things happen for them if they pray enough, attend church, etc. And those people were confident that they would go to heaven too. This group also tended to be the ones who thought that Americans out of all nationalities were especially blessed by God.
Interestingly, the latter group were in a minority (can’t remember the exact figures). But isn’t this minority view the exact interpretation of God that the AA religion promotes? A personally-involved omniscient deity who will fix parking spaces, is interested in your individual prayers and confessions, and will personally make sure you don’t drink again – on a 24-hour conditional basis, that is, and only as long as you attend AA meetings and follow the steps? Tbh, if I were God (and I don’t want to offend anyone here), I’d tell such people to grow up, take responsibility for their own bloody problems, and stop wasting my time.
As for happy coincidences being “God jobs”, what about when seriously bad things happen? (Like your baby being part of the collateral damage in a war you have no control over or had no desire for, for example?). Good things are direct actions by God, but bad things aren’t? To think otherwise is nothing but smug, complacent, superstitious nonsense.
Meanwhile, for believers and non-believers alike, what we need to do is to kick this 12 step nonsense right out of health care and start treating the matter of addiction seriously. The issue of personal faith has absolutely nothing to do with the issue of addiction.
billybudd
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 21:04
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Panglossian
Weedy patch of fallow = low intensity cultivation (I've read this somewhere)
billybudd
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 21:35
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Lord Jim
Persephone In Exile
Sun, 05/06/2012 - 21:12
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Very well put, hs. I can't
Very well put, hs. I can't even imagine (though I've had numerous friends tell me) how messed up American religious views look from outside our borders.
Yeah, this needs to be kicked out for good. It's ridiculous. My rehab had a chapel in it, and we were all assigned a chaplain as well as a counselor. The chaplain was the person we were supposed to work steps 1-5 with. There was also something in the chapel called "The God Box". We were encouraged to write down problems we thought were too big for us to handle and put those papers in the God Box. Everyone was encouraged, whether Christian or not. Even the one Hindu patient. I'm surprised it wasn't an assignment, most things were.
You have NO idea how much more messed up that all looks from my perspective now.
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
Pennywise
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:02
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God box
At my rehab they had us make out own God Boxes. Bunch of adults playing with glue and construction paper. But whatever. I still have mine, actually.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Persephone In Exile
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:19
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Oh man...so the "God box" isn
Oh man...so the "God box" isn't unique to where I was, eh? We were supposed to paint up coffee mugs to hang on a wall in a "cup hanging ceremony", which was really fun to watch everyone trying to do with the shakes. Somehow I escaped having to do it by combining procrastination with apathy and musical ventures. Luckily, my chaplain had also fallen off the God-wagon and was much more interested in normal conversation combined with telling that I was loved and worthwhile (which in that setting was not only unique but also rather nice) and didn't even make me do the written stepwork normally required of patients. That man, seriously, was the only real positive thing about the place, and if they were aware of how little he made his patients "keep to the program", he'd've been out of there.
http://badrecovery.blogspot.com/
Pennywise
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:39
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Lol. Yeah, we were supposed
Lol. Yeah, we were supposed to write down our problems and put them in the God Box for God to take care of for us. We also did 5th Steps with clergy. All in all though I don't hold anything against my rehab. It was corny and hardly based on science and logic, but I was never mistreated.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
avogadno
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:50
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I'd of loved to do the art
I'd of loved to do the art class! I did in psych and talk about funny. Imagine a 40 year old woman getting excited over the hot-plates (using as plant stands) she made for her husband (at a costly3 grand a day)...I never made my God box but used a vase and stuffed it with kleenex that I had mostly just scribbled names on. Fred, Frank, etc. Imagine writing God down on there.
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Pennywise
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:54
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I suck at art. But I did get
I suck at art. But I did get kind of a warm fuzzy feeling seeing the stuff other people made. Rehab can be strange that way. You are with people for about a month talking about some of the most intimate details of your life, then you never see them again.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
gigi
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 18:20
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I actually really like the
I actually really like the idea behind the God box. ( Minus the God part, in my case.) Has anyone ever used worry dolls? They're the teeny tiny dolls that come in a teeny tiny yellow box. They're originated from Guatemala, I believe. The idea is to tell the dolls your problems and worries at night, lay them by your bed as you sleep and your worries will vanish in the night. I loved them as a child, my daughter has them and I made them with my students last year. There's not a bit of logic involved but the process of telling these little yarn people my worries is very comforting.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
avogadno
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 18:49
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Gigi, I actually did get
Gigi, I actually did get something out of the God "box". Not all the time, and I didn't use it much either. The exercise of writing it down and putting it away was like closing the door on it for a while. Giving it over to God could be interpreted that I suppose. I just wouldn't be the person referring to it as a God box to an atheist. Or a group of people in a supposed secular group setting.
I actually had my pretty vase where I wrote down names of people that I was troubled with (family members or loving friends) and then I had a plain shoe box where I put the other less personal stuff.
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Persephone In Exile
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 19:08
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Honestly, I would've had much
Honestly, I would've had much trouble with the idea of the God box just existing, I didn't have much issue with the place having a chapel. Most hospitals have something similar, and the chapel services that existed weren't necessarily pushed on us that much either. It was that it encompassed the rest of the program attitude, everything else that was being taught there. Plenty of times in medical and/or psychological care one's spirituality is broached as a topic of discussion. It's just never THE topic of discussion, nor are you told that if you don't choose to put your faith in someone else to help one of your own problems that you're doing things incorrectly.
In other words, as an entire approach to care this has no place in something insurance is paying for, IMHO. But on the bright side, they did have both a volleyball court and a piano, so I kept myself occupied, and the chapel constituted the only reading material that wasn't from Hazelden, so I made decent use of it. Psalms was a fascinating re-read.
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Jesus-is-Fraud
Tue, 05/08/2012 - 04:47
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I use a genuine Zuni hunting fetish doll.
He is a demon possessed doll that comes to life when his magical talisman falls off from around his waist, and he chases me around my apartment with a sharp knife all night.
For a doll, he is certainly a worry....
Clara
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 17:27
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I felt very peaceful when
I felt very peaceful when writing things down, folding it up and putting it away. It was no different than my diary. I can go back and read things from a year ago, and I wonder why I was ever upset about something... or barely even remember it.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
gigi
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 18:09
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Agreed. There's a lot to be
Agreed. There's a lot to be said for the therapeutic value and healing power of putting pen to paper, paint to canvas or even gluing scraps of paper to an old coffee can. Creating and letting go at the same time.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
becket
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 13:18
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"But isn’t this minority view
"But isn’t this minority view the exact interpretation of God that the AA religion promotes?"
This was not my experience.
"Tbh, if I were God (and I don’t want to offend anyone here), I’d tell such people to grow up, take responsibility for their own bloody problems, and stop wasting my time."
This is precisely the kind of God many people are looking to dump when they get into AA. They've been told to fuck off, do it themselves, and that nobody gives a shit about them almost all their lives. They are seeking compassion, not derision.
Those who buy the God package must buy the complete package. They cannot buy the warranties that secure their safety, their economic viability, their continuing good health or their involvement in a happy, loving relationship with a significant other, as if these are options, and then decline the risks of stillbirths, cancer, financial ruin, divorce, paralyzing accidents, kidnappings, murders. Those who buy the God package must know that these things are all in the box when they get it home.
As for the atheists and agnostics, I would assume that they accept full responsibility for each and every good, bad and indifferent thing that comes their way. They have no partnership with a higher power, so who else is there to credit for anything?
"Good things are direct actions by God, but bad things aren’t? To think otherwise is nothing but smug, complacent, superstitious nonsense." (Don't you mean "to believe this is so" rather than "to think otherwise"?)
I don't believe everyone who accepts God into his or her life thinks the misfortunes are not part of the package. They are human. Perhaps they had been hopeful. But when they are devastated or injured or ruined, God is not absent or unaware. The fact that they so often rail against Him in times of trouble signifies that they know He is present. I don't think they are smug or complacent or superstitious, I think they are grievously disappointed or despondent because something didn't turn out they way they wanted it to. They're allowed to grieve that disastrous outcome without being considered smug, don't you think? It takes time to recover from setbacks, whether one believes in God or not.
The issue of personal faith has plenty to do with the issue of recovery. The placebo effect is a genuine phenomenon; don't discount it. And please bring to the fore your concrete ideas regarding how to treat the matter of addiction "seriously".
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Pennywise
Mon, 05/07/2012 - 18:14
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The placebo effect
I wonder, is it possible to get the placebo effect if you know it's a placebo?
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
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