I thought I'd start a new page about this since it's a popular topic. It was hard to follow in the other bog, it getting so long.
Clara thinks it's not a good idea. Alcoholics can learn from alcoholics and confusion occurs when addicts come to AA and discuss drugs.
Many addicts that want to work the 12 steps aren't fond of NA for various reasons and have tried AA. Some have either felt or been told that they weren't welcome.
Although I don't advocate any 12 step group, there was a time when I attending both. I was not an alcoholic, but attending NA anyway. One was simply that I had convinced myself by way of pressure and unworthy deep analyzing that I was an alkie. Not true. Emphatically. Another reason was that in my area addicts were generally welcome in AA as long as they kept their shares general.
Thoughts? Experiences?
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Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 10:14
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It isn't that Clara "thinks"
It isn't that Clara "thinks" it is a good or a bad idea. For 75 years, AA has taken a position on alcohol. In 1958, Bill W. addressed the issue of dual addiction. I've included his words on this forum and why dual meetings are inconsistent with AA. No denies that it exists. In our area, too, people were welcome if they kept their shares general, as I have indicated. I know a woman that attends several 12 step meetings for various addictions which she brought up when she was a guest speaker and told her story, yet when she is in her home group, she limits her conversation to the common problem with alcoholism. Works just fine!
What I do not understand, however, is while several people on the forum have made similar observations about the differences between the AA and NA populations, there only seems to be an issue with one person's pov and that is mine. Why is that?
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Pennywise
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:42
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Exactly, Clara. Saving lives
Exactly, Clara. Saving lives takes a backseat to preserving lame traditions. I think that's fucked up. But it certainly makes AA more "attackable" to know that they don't even have the best of intentions.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Jesus-is-Fraud
Mon, 04/16/2012 - 07:26
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Me thinks that most of this comes down to "Better than them"
As the authorative historian on NA, the "biggotted fucking arseholes of AA were down on the people who used other drugs" so a number of people in AA who were prone to having a wider range of drug use, formed NA, using the AA basic steps and getting their own literature.
So NA was slowly formed and it grew from there.
One of the issues about this that many AA members are fucking pigs - ignorant, arrogant cunts., and they love to play the "We're better than you because - we are respectable citizens, were are only the good people who drank a bit too much - BUT YOU - you drug fucked arseholes - your all junkies, your criminals, your BAD people, your not like US - so fuck off and don't come to OUR AA meetings, and if you do, DON'T dare talk about taking fucking DRUGS, because were all alcoholics and this is AA".
Never mind that most people in AA have done almost everything, and tend to just love the prescription drug industry.
So without getting into the issues of TOXIC SHAME, neurochemistry, and nit picking that alcohol and heroin are chemically identical in the "addictive dopamine" stage, only with smack there is a LOT more of it, and the boozers are fucking up with acetylaldehyde and all that nasty stuff....
That boozers and users are for the most part, chemically identical in take up and brain function, and ALL of this issue has to do with stigmatisation - "that we are better then you because", and feeble minds and weak arguments.
One of the interesting points a fanatical religious bigot AA member with many decades of sobriety who was in my past once noted, that "drug addicts" are a different kettle of fish to the alcoholic and he though it came down to the issue that having "drug use" declared a criminal activity from the outset, lead to a different, more ruthless and calculating persona, and the things that (sometimes) got done were quite bad.... where as the person who principally abused alcohol - well using the alcohol wasn't the issue, it was SOME of what the person did while intoxicated, that drew the negative feed back.
But are we not legend for our "I am better than you because" - which goes along in all cults, social groups, mothers clubs, and neighbourhoods....
Pennywise
Mon, 04/16/2012 - 18:48
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Awesome post. Love it.
Awesome post. Love it.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
gigi
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:15
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I for one am not arguing that
I for one am not arguing that there is a difference between the AA and NA populations. I have read everyone's posts on the subject and I understand what everyone is saying. The only reason that I've taken issue with your POV is because you come across as elitist and consistently appear to be more concerned with appearance and social status than with helping someone who really needs it. I don't believe for a second that you're really concerned with preserving AA for alcoholics only. I think that you hide behind "singleness of purpose" as a way to separate yourself from the ickiness of drugs.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Pennywise
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:42
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Good post, Gigi.
Good post, Gigi.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:56
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I disagree that our positions
I disagree that our positions are much different. I personally think it has more to do with being AA or Anti-AA.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Ironic
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 19:32
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Clara, I agree with Gigi
I don't know if you feel this way, but it is certainly how you come across, and I'm pretty sure Gigi was an alkie (and Penny as well) so it has nothing to do with it just sounding that way to any of my fellow junkies
msafrany
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:49
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The International 12 Step Church
Should grass smokers be allowed into cocaine anonymous meetings? Should clutterers be allowed into gamblers anonymous meetings? Should straight AA memebers be allowed into gay AA meetings? Should men be allowed into womens meetings?
I have the solution. this entire clusterfuck should all be bundled together into a huge pile of shit called the International 12 Step Church that can cure any spiritual disease on earth. Step one should read "we admitted we were powerless over our spiritual disease and our lives had become unmanageable".
Step 12 should read "having had a spiritual awakening, we carried this message to other spiritually diseased people."
Then we could all be one happy family of cult religion enthusiasts.
Tools, Tards, Dolts, DOPES!!!
Pennywise
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:51
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AAWS is located in the
AAWS is located in the Interchuch Center...
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
teatotaler
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 13:42
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Well said, msafrany!
Plus, the ignorance of bill dubya does not change the fact that ETOH is a drug. Its gas form - ether - was previously used as general anesthesia. Some surgeons, many years ago, were ether addicts. The liquid form, obviously, is ethanol - commonly known as alcohol. Pretty strong drug! But, as msafrany pointed out, it is ludicrous to argue the finer points of the addiction-church industry's tenets as regards
ETOH addicts vs. persons addicted to other hedonic drugs (or any other destructive habits).
For anyone who'd like to exit the 12-step church of addiction, check out www.rational.org
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mfc66uk
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 11:49
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It was pretty rare for anyone
It was pretty rare for anyone in AA who had joined in the last 10 or 15 years who had not done drugs. They may not have been out and out junkies but were still using them to escape reality. I viewed it as all the same and gave up everything that was mood altering at the same time. I had not abused hard drugs for years but still had my moments.
Recovery for me was about changing the way I lived my life and taking responsibility for my actions. I am not interested in petty arguments about sharing about drugs in meetings or God crap as a solution. Cocaine generally makes people drink a lot and will bring them to harm fast. The one group idea is just another reason that AA is out of touch with the modern world. There will be a few that only drunk but often they did not have much of a problem anyway but had overreacted after getting drunk and got sucked into the AA alcoholic lifetime recovery rubbish.
Some of the real stepper types who love the shares about people shitting themselves or for whom pissing the bed was almost a badge of honour in how low they had sunk seem to look down on people who used drugs. They are the ones that can't wait to tell everyone they are an alcoholic and are proud AA members who rarely miss meetings. They generally don't do much use but just spout the big book phrases and annoy anyone who is trying to straighten out and be part of society. They are more interested in the dogma and their stupid ineffective made up little religeon than helping others recover. They retard the whole recovery process and are a waste of time. Drugs were not such a big issue in the past but now they go hand in hand with the legally available drug alcohol in ruining lives. Many AA people won't worry about that as they just want to share some rubbish in their little local meeting so they get a bit of attention. The sad little trolls that come here with their drivel are extreame versions of the narrow minded delusional inhabitant of scout huts and church basements who think they have found a solution in God for the carnage they have caused in the past. That is the easy option but it rarely works.
Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 12:58
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I think this is amazing.
I think this is amazing. There are special interest AA meetings. There is one in DC that I doubt any of us could get into because of the nature of the privacy since it is for the elected officials. I have been to gay meetings where it is in their opening statements that it is a GAY meeting and if that bothers you, please leave. Nothing elitist or image about it.
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gigi
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 13:04
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What is really amazing is
What is really amazing is that you don't see how absurd that comparison is.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 13:48
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Different needs for different
Different needs for different people and group conscience. What is absurd about it?
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gigi
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 13:58
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Do the folks at the gay
Do the folks at the gay meeting ask the straight visitors to refrain from mentioning their heterosexuality?
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 14:45
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No, just to recognize that
No, just to recognize that self acceptance had much to do with their histories and shares.
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gigi
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 13:01
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On the money, mfc.
On the money, mfc.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
avogadno
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 14:46
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Interesting Clara you said:
Interesting Clara you said:
"I have been to gay meetings where it is in their opening statements that it is a GAY meeting and if that bothers you, please leave".
There is a big difference in people leaving because they don't like the theme of the meeting (gay addicts, alcohol, sex recovery, gambling), and the group asking an individual to leave because of group conscience. They don't like the person or their addiction.
When I was commenting about my dislike for some NA meetings, it wasn’t my opinion that they shouldn’t be there. It was MY problem, not theirs. I was the one that didn’t feel comfortable and I was the one that left.
NA stands for narcotics anonymous. Drug addicts and alcoholics attend. Some members didn’t have a drug problem but preferred NA for whatever reason. I met gamblers that had never taken a drug there. There wasn’t any “discrimination”. Not like in AA.
One thing to remember is that AA is 20 times bigger than AA. Well, something like that. If there isn’t any in your area you are screwed. Unless of course there are compassionate AA groups around.
Clara, it’s odd to me that you say that those anti AA’s that attend meetings to speak their mind –shouldn’t, because they can’t offer anything else in place of. What for the AA’s that don’t want to mix with druggies and aren’t welcome to share at an AA meeting? Where are they to go if there is nothing else around? I’m just trying to make a point, it doesn’t mean I agree either way.
I went to different kinds of meetings and for a lot of different reasons ended up in AA. I noticed that the literature changed along the way (in some meetings), stressing to keep the shares as to how the person is affected by alcohol. Getting fucked up on substances is just that. I don’t think it matters what kind.
Another thing, NA’s are told to keep completely clean and AA’s too. No drinking or drugging for either group. Are AA’s considered sober if they do coke? Are NA’s considered clean if they drink? No for both.
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Clara
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 16:47
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No, sober means abstaining
No, sober means abstaining from everything, and i have always maintained that. Remember too that I never said anyone was asked to LEAVE. They were on occasion reminded to keep their shares to booze. If someone was sharing predominately about drugs, yes, they would be reminded that it was AA and perhaps NA might be what they needed. I don't see anything wrong with this. Bear in mind that I wasn't in a rehab where they sell the idea that chemical dependancy is all the same, and AA doesn't share that.
As for going to a meeting and speaking your mind, what is wrong with what you are doing is that you are attempted to dissuade them from something that could work for them because it didn't work for you. But unless you can point them to SMART or SOS or something like that, you really are just doing something for yourself and your deprogramming. I don't see how you are doing much for them at all, although I can see you and Massive get something out of it.
Yes, AA is many times larger than anything else out there. SMART has 300 meetings in this country. SOS has less than that and it is 27 years in the making. Still, it's size doesn't make AA the answer for everything, and that is why I think mandating does the fellowship such a disservice.
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Pennywise
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 17:14
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avogadno
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 18:38
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For the upteenth time you
For the upteenth time you made an assumption about what was done, why it was done, bypassed everything that I have said to the contrary, and then based your opinion on it. That's bullshit Clara. I'm downright sick of of nicely correcting you. There are only a couple of times that it is possible before it starts to become intentional. Sway someone. Get real.
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causeandeffect
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 19:02
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Avo, it's a lame angle she's
Avo, it's a lame angle she's trying to work with you but it's all she's got. She has to work it for all it's worth. Next she'll blame you for leaving people without alternatives even though there are numerous SMART meetings in your area. Then she'll blame you for not starting a SMART meeting yourself.
All the while, she's not going to meetings herself, and complaining that she can't go because AA in El Paso doesn't have singleness of purpose, yet she's not starting an AA meeting in El Paso herself. Insufferable. Absolutely insufferable.
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Clara
Mon, 04/16/2012 - 18:40
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That isn't true at all, Cause
That isn't true at all, Cause. It just doesn't make sense to tell people there are options out there but not really available. If you believe in those options, why AREN'T you starting meetings? How do you think other meetings get started in AA? People see a need for one and they start it. Nothing insufferable about it. And I DO go to meetings, just not in El Paso. I went to one tonight.
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avogadno
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 09:39
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C&E was right. Clara, you
C&E was right. Clara, you said it wasn't true (that you would not use that approach), but you went ahead and did it again anyway. lol.
First of all (ahhh, the repetition - I might as well get a pull string), there is no evidence that shows that people need a program. Just not doing something negative (like AA steps,if that is what a person believes) is a step (hate that word, so suggestive) in the right direction. On the flipside, It could very well be that the person wants to go somewhere where alkies gather and just talk, get support. They just don't want to do the steps. Unfortunately, AA suggests the steps as if it was oxygen.
The truth as I see it, is that you don't want anyone meddling with the precious cult religion that you believe was beneficial in your own life.
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avogadno
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 14:49
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They separated us at the
They separated us at the treatment center. Those that worked in the medical field got their private group. I thought it was silly. They might as well have put everyone with a job in one group and the unemployed in another. There is nothing special about either one.
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dorak nob
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 15:13
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i kept hearing the term real
i kept hearing the term real alcoholic as if it were something different then a real drug addict, these wise guys seem to have forgotten that booze is a drug, I was warned not to label myself an alcoholic addict, that there would be repercussions within the group. AA is so out of touch with what being a real anything is. As if 99 percent of the young people weren't cross addicted . But those old timers weren't gonna have anything to do with the young rehab kids, talk about lack of tolerance it was disgusting.
DeConstructor
Sun, 04/15/2012 - 18:24
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Ummm
Clara has stated that being sober means abstaining from everything. First of all that is a real problem when vulnerable newcomers continue to be authoritatively counseled to stop all medications including high blood pressure meds, birth control pills and insulin, as counseled by persons with NO medical training whatsoever.
Secondly, there is yet another stupid AA slogan along the line of 'a drug is a drug is a drug'
There is really little difference in the approach by AA/NA/XA towards addiction issues since they continue to promote hardcore, fundamentalist, cult religion as a cure all for each of these 'diseases' they are concocting.
I am guessing others can come up with other 'approved' slogans from the AA faith for this situation.
Clara
Mon, 04/16/2012 - 18:44
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Bogus, DeCon. No one tells
Bogus, DeCon. No one tells anyone in AA not to take blood pressure med, birth control pills or anything else that has been prescribed for you. What a stupid thing to say. Why on earth would anyone care what you take? Besides, the issue has been addressed in the literature. I've also never heard that slogan in AA.
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avogadno
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 09:50
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Again Clara, AA is NOT only
Again Clara, AA is NOT only what you experienced. The place where no one was ever stalked, abused, force fed the steps, lied to, controlled.
There have been multiple claims that fanatic AA's have told members not to take medications. Some have DIED because of it. How many people got sick or came close to death? Who is to say. What's important is to discontinue saying "No one tells anyone in AA..." not to take certain medications. You have no way of knowing this because you spent your time in one group, one city, and with the same people for years.
Stick to your fall back, that it didn't happen in your group. At least people can't confront you with your obvious denial. It's happened repeatedly in various areas where AA exists, and you might as well be saying those that came forth with these claims are lying.
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gigi
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 11:40
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Well, if it's been addressed
Well, if it's been addressed in the literature we can all call it a day!
I know it didn't happen in your group, Clara. But there are lots and lots and lots of other groups out there. It happens. I don't believe that anti-med is the predominent view or that the majority of sponsors tell their sponcees to ditch the meds, but it happens.
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causeandeffect
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 18:30
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Bullshit Clara!!!!
I was told to stop taking my new antidepressant and another medication which I had been on under a psychiatrist's care for 10 years. This person persuaded me to do this even though I warned him that when I had forgotten to take them in the past I had gotten suicidal. This person continued to press me about it, so I acquiesced. Sunlight of the spirit, he said. Dark night of the soul, he said, as if I hadn't already experienced enough of that. It was the first time in my life I actually was on a medication that was profoundly helpful. But I felt beholden to him. I took half of my meds one night and was full on suicidal the next day. I was researching online whether I needed to point my gun upwards in my mouth for the best effect. I found a site where some freckle faced kid was laughing, put a gun to his temple, pulled the trigger and blood squirted out the other side. It was on a loop and I watched as he did it over and over and over. All I could think was "stupid bastard, that's the way to make yourself a vegetable." Then I realized it doesn't make a difference because I have hollow point bullets. It took all the personal strength I had to not kill myself that day. The person who persuaded me to stop my meds still has no idea how close to suicide he brought me. I won't tell him because it would only serve to hurt him.
Then I had to fire a sponsor who tried to do the same thing. I finally had to hide the fact i was on meds. So don't you ever, EVER, try to tell me this sick shit doesn't happen!!! EVER!!!
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gigi
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 18:54
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C&E
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. I'm glad that you found the strength you needed to stay alive that night. I'm glad you're here.
"If I forget who I am, I am myself. If I remember who I am, I am you."
causeandeffect
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 19:06
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Thanks gigi. I'm glad I'm
Thanks gigi. I'm glad I'm still here too. I seriously doubt I would be had I quit taking it all together, or had I taken the smaller half of my meds that day. That medication had become a part of my brain chemistry. It was a total shock to my brain and I couldn't handle it.
It really pisses me off when these steppers deny these things. Well , especially this one thing. People die because of this ignorant nonsense. Waiting for stepper to attack me now....
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avogadno
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 19:38
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Hi c&e, I'm with you and
Hi c&e, I'm with you and agree whole heartedly.
Another aspect of the medication situation that gets to me is that there are many people that don't want to take psych meds to begin with. For whatever reason they feel they are weak, or just "shouldn't need to". Crossing over into feeling comfortable with the idea can takes time. It did for me (going back 20 years) and others that I've talked to. It's upsetting for me to realize that some of the leeriness is gotten over only for some poor people to find themselves involved with a stepper that puts them back to square one. It's like saying to them, "that's right, you are weak".
Tally the med issue onto the "bad advice" list in 12 step therapies. Glad to hear that you got back on your feet and instead of throwing your meds out the window you got rid of the bad advice.
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becket
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 10:52
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"There have been multiple
"There have been multiple claims that fanatic AA's have told members not to take medications. Some have DIED because of it."
Where can I find a report of this having happened? Can you at least say where and when this happened? I hate to have to trudge down this road again, but a "claim" isn't a fact. Since there seem to be "multiple claims", then are they all referenced in one place, or are the sources of these alleged anecdotes spread out all over the country . . . ?
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Persephone In Exile
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 11:14
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I was even told this, Becket.
I was even told this, Becket. To be fair, that message (as given to me) was contradicted constantly depending on which group I went to (some meetings advocated being on an almost crippling amount of psych meds, some nothing at all). I didn't think much of it at the time, because it was so blatantly absurd, and I duly ignored it. I forget where I read the various other stories online or I'd link them here, but those didn't end so well for the most part.
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gigi
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 11:24
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I was told that I "didn't
I was told that I "didn't need pills anymore because you have this." The pills were antidepressants and 'this' referred to the steps. I also heard with my very own ears other people being told that they didn't need meds or therapy if they were committed to working the steps.
Of course, I also heard some other folks encourage newcomers to seek medical advice and look into medication.
It happens both ways.
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avogadno
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 11:05
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Unfortunately I'm running out
Unfortunately I'm running out the door soon for work. But I don't mind discussing this further, myself. I think it's important. I've made a mental note to come back to this thread later today when I have a chance.
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avogadno
Tue, 04/17/2012 - 17:02
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My main beef with Clara's
My main beef with Clara's comment was that she said, and has in the past has said, that members of AA don't tell others not to take certain medications. There have been claims of this happening in the past, an multiple times by different people. It does happen. Disregarding it and claiming it never happens is irresponsible. Saying, "I've never heard this" is not. Saying, "I've read claims about some people in AA being told not to take medications" is not either.
Becket, I don't know how to prove it as a fact. When does it become a fact? How does it become a fact? When AA acknowledges it?
I can say that I've read it online, on different websites where AA was being discussed.
I was never told this by my sponsor, or any counselor personally though. For example, during my first outpatient treatment 6 years ago (or 7, I'm having trouble remembering exactly), I distinctly remember him telling us "to stay close to our doctors". This indicated to me that he was suggesting that we listen to our doctors. My first sponsor also suggested that I consult with doctor about medications. I don't remember how it came up.
On the flipside, there was more than one meeting that I attended where the topic was "medications". Members shared their opinions about what medications (or not) were OK to take in terms of being considered as sober. That's highly inappropriate to me. It also indicates that there are problems within the program. Why else would this topic come up? Members and/or sponsors are butting into the doctor/patient relationship and developing guidelines as to what medications are considered "OK" to take. Like Clara said, this is stupid. It’s ridiculous.
Two specific cases that I know of come to mind. During the break of one meeting I ran into a woman that I had been in treatment with the first time. She told me that she had relapsed, gone back to treatment, and had since started taking Suboxone. She added that her sponsor didn't approve, and she was worried about telling her.
Unless you think that she was being dishonest, or you think I am being dishonest about what I was told, her is a case that validates the claim that some AA members are playing doctor and recommending to others what they should/should not be taking.
Another claim that I know of was rather scary. A friend shared with me that a loved and trusted member of AA told her that she didn't need to take her psych meds and that she should stop. At least cut back at first and eventually quit. Because of this woman's desire to work the program "right" and follow instructions given by other members that know (simply from staying sober), she took their advice. Afterwards she had a meltdown (so to speak), felt suicidal and so bad she nearly attempted to take her life. Despite the pressure of this member she resumed taken her medicine.
There are two situations that I am aware of where people butt their nose into very private, dangerous areas. Actually it kind of sounds like they were playing God.
Does these count? I guess we can't call them facts because I didn't hear the guru say this. I did hear the victim though.
I can't and won't overlooked these claims I personally heard, and when I take into consideration the topic of a few meetings I attended and heard the shares, I have no choice but to deduce that there is a problem. I'll at least never say "AA members don't do that", because even if I didn't hear it for myself I can't say that with certainty. And of course, I did hear these claims and hear the shares. I'll also continue to try and correct others when they say it isn't so.
I also know that AA org has been informed and declined to comment.
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