Fight Over God Splits AA groups

This may be old news for some but I came across this the other day, two groups removed the God word from their meetings and the end result was to get delisted off the AA meeting roster.
http://www.thestar.com/news/article/1002750--does-religion-belong-at-aa-...
and http://rita66.tripod.com/m-k/buchmanism.htm.

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becket's picture

Nobody lied to me to get me to go to AA.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

btnben's picture

"You can fool some of the people all of the time,...." - that would be the really fucking stupid ones...lol Priceless, Marietta...lol

God damn it, get me a whiskey

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becket's picture

Don't know how Marietta came to attend AA, but I was not lied to about AA by anyone. I was familiar with the program for decades before I actually attended a meeting. What's more, I did not emerge from the program whining about having to be "deprogrammed". In the bush league words of your friend, btnben, those would be "the really fucking stupid ones." What a load. You pick yourself up and you move forward. AA is not Auschwitz and you were not assigned the task of the Sonderkommandos. Get over it.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
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Persephone In Exile's picture

Clara, while I see what you're saying, you can't really expect anyone here to just up and start a national support group (or even spearhead a massive growth of an already existing one). That would be impossible, just as it would probably be impossible for anyone here, or everyone put together, to start an accredited treatment center. I don't know about everyone here obviously, but many of us are working locally on this issue and trying to change the system, and we're also helping each other online to deprogram from what we've all experienced either more publicly or via phone & email, so that's not exactly "nothing" or mere "lip service". Therapists get paid thousands of dollars (tens of thousands, I'd wager) for the amount of time and support I alone have gained from these websites existing. That's not doing nothing. More obviously needs to be done, but what do you expect anyone here to do?

Clara's picture

Yes, I can expect that as isn't that what James did with SOS? Isn't SOS 27 years old? Wasn't SMART started in 1992? If you believe Orange that you just put it down and walk away, well, that one has been around since the advent of booze. So why blame AA when someone could have at least left 27 years ago? I wouldn't tell anyone what I hear here, that because it didn't work for me then it must just not work for anyone when you have people that tell you AA and its fellowship HAVE worked for them. Instead of just rolling with it, I instead get people that tell me that isn't true. I think these people are just as guilty as those they scream about for the very same thing.

I don't understand this brainwashing refrain. I was never tod if I didn't accept AA, there was nothing else for me. I was told what the book says. It's not the only way. I wasn't told that I had to go to meetings all of my life. I WAS told that I more than likely would never be able to "drink safely" and that there could be (not that there WOULD be) dire consequences for me. And I bought that because I was already experiencing ones dire enough. But I also hear enough on this board to know that some people can just be harpies. Listen to Anti's rants. "AA kills," she intones... or "AA sets up women to be RAPED!" when that isn't true. The last lie I heard from her was on Huff when I went back to read a response to a post I left. There she was with her routine of people getting kicked out of AA if they have a drug history. One post she cited one person she knew as having been told to go to NA because of her drugs. Her next post balloons that up in true Anti fashion "people are asked to leave if...." The only thing I can think of is that the person's drug use was more of an issue than her alcohol use, and it would be appropriate to tell her to go to NA. People in AA don't want to hear about your drug use in shares; hence, the name Alcoholics Anonymous. Of course, what you talk about with your sponsor is your own business. After all, your gorup only knows what you choose to share with them.

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Pennywise's picture

People in AA don't want to hear about your drug use in shares; hence, the name Alcoholics Anonymous.

Indeed. Would a Christan group invite a Jewish rabbi to speak before the church about the non-divinity of Christ?

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

becket's picture

Is there another kind of rabbi? :)

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
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Persephone In Exile's picture

That's great that you weren't told that, honestly, and great that you never got taken advantage of. Denying that it happens at all is a bit obtuse, though.

I'm not an alcoholic, so I cannot understand that sort of pressure when it comes to that particular substance. Therefore, I couldn't write a program up. Well, I could, I'm sure, but I'm a pretty thorough researcher and it would take me years to come up with something for alcohol, as that's not even remotely a problem for me. But say I were to just devise something along the lines of what I did, Clara, why would it work for other people? It was rather specific to my own life. It also was a very solitary experiment, because as I'm sure you know, there IS NO HELP WHATSOEVER for people who were in my predicament. I did have to just "put it down and walk away". And carry on. And it turned out remarkably well! Considering that I had just been set up and robbed of my entire bank account by two people in AA, it actually went extremely well!

Yada, yada, yada. Your post just illustrates further how little help there is for people out here. Wow. People who get addicted to prescription drugs aren't welcome in AA? Exactly why we always kept our mouths shut about it, because NA (I've said this before) where I live is a drug infested, uneducated, homeless biker club from some depths of a hell I no longer believe exists (but that's beside the point). See, Clara? There's no help except to create your own program, namely to "put it down and walk away", considering the alternatives.

Apologies if that sounded bitter, I'm oddly only a bitter person when I think about that dreadful system of "recovery" that's all that's for sale where I live.

Clara's picture

I know I will get shot for saying this, but since that happens daily here... I'll take the risk. Yes, there are addicted people in AA that come because the environment in NA is so different. I went to one NA meeting and I was never more grateful to be an alocholic. There is just a "street" atmosphere that I was pretty unfamilair with... I wondered when Cindy McCain's story came out how she dealt with being mandated to NA as part of her plea agreement. What I would have told someone to do, if asked, would have been to go in the direction of another alcoholic/addict whose proplems were script meds. We do have them. My friend Dianne was a "retired" nurse with those issues. There are also dual addicted meetings, as Bill wrote about in 1958. Due to the singleness of purpose, however, those are not "AA groups."

But, PIE, how can people feel affronted when it IS AA? When I read that post, I just came away with the feeling that Anti would disparage AA on any level, even some that would make sense to anyone. In our groups, we tended to discuss the immediate, in the moment stuff. If you are talking about drugs, then I would take your word for it that you are being confronted with that issue. It would be appropriate to invite someone to get help where they could get it for their issue.

I wish more had been available to you, PIE. But is that really necessarily AA's fault?

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Persephone In Exile's picture

Not much time to reply until later, but I thought I'd just add this, Clara. There is nowhere to go for treatment, not so much as a hospital detox, that didn't involve almost specifically AA dogma/the steps/meetings. And a non-medical staff that consisted entirely of AA (usually almost exclusively AA, actually, regardless of whether they had drug issues or not, and believe me, they were more than happy to share) members. 30 days in a residential rehab that held meetings and had us holding hands and praying daily. And driving us to meetings off-site (which also consisted entirely of the staff, and were run by them. They ARE the AA in that town).

This is precisely the problem I was describing. Ask Avo or Ironic the same thing. Yet some AAers after the fact claim it's "not AA". Well, perhaps this is an "outside issue" that AA SHOULD get involved in, do you agree? Otherwise, AAers will have to deal with people who are very unhappy with the treatment side of the 12 step equation but couldn't avoid it. I still actually have no problems whatsoever with people choosing AA. I'm rather ambivalent on that issue. If someone really wants to head that direction, that's their life, not mine. I'm probably one of the the least strident people on this forum on that issue on the anti side.

That said, I'll be back later tonight;) Bon appetit, mes amis.

becket's picture

I'm curious about a few things: how is it that people who are otherwise fairly intelligent on so many other topics could be so vulnerable, so impressionable, so susceptible, so easily led into the mean and hideous gaping jaws of Alcoholics Anonymous? Why is there a need for "deprogramming"? Does this make them "victims"? If you are "deprogramming, Persephone In Exile, does that mean you were a victim of the program of AA, or of the people in the AA meetings, or of the system that dumped you in AA (if there was one)?

If it is obvious that more needs to be done, - if it is obvious - then why is it necessary to ask the question "what do you expect anyone here to do? If it's obvious to you, wouldn't you know??

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
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Persephone In Exile's picture

Becket, you really think that people in serious withdrawals and physical agony aren't "vulnerable"? If so, you're probably delusional. Did I say probably?

Yes, there's a system. Initially, my doctors insisted on it. Stupidly, I went along. No, I wouldn't go along with that now. Hell no. But that's rather the point, that this happens to vulnerable people, not those at the top of their game. Obviously in my normal and sane world as it is today I wouldn't even entertain the idea that I should follow some religious bullshit "steps" at the suggestion of people who claim to be even remotely educated. The idea is actually quite laughable. Rather like the idea that "hysteria" is caused by a wandering uterus. Or that slaves wanting to escape is a psychiatric disorder. Or that Rick Santorum is running for President. No, wait, see, that's why it's not entirely laughable. Because it is still happening, and Santorum is running for President.

When insanity is presented as reality, you end up rather like Melissa Harris-Perry's description of trying to stand upright in a slanted room.

becket's picture

"Stupidly, I went along." 'nuff said.

So when sanity is instead presented as reality, why would anyone insist on dragging around the insanity instead of dropping it like a hot brick and skipping off into the sunlight?

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Persephone In Exile's picture

Becket, you are such a toxic spew of bile. You don't consider anything written, you just go for cheap insults that mean nothing. Fuck you. You're not even decent enough to understand much more than that. For someone who finds it atrocious that people are mistreated for disabilities, illnesses, (and rightly so) you sure do lose every single bit of what humanity you profess to have the second someone on this forum shares anything sincerely.

Yes, stupidly I went along. With what supposed "experts" told me to do. While in massive withdrawals and suffering from a severe nerve injury. You think that's somehow funny or indicative of my intelligence otherwise? It was actually quite a bit more sensible than proclaiming some mission of endless hatred towards a bunch of people on a web forum. I sincerely doubt anyone qualified to do anything (or anyone at all) told you to waste your life harassing people on the internet.

btnben's picture

63 years old and this is her life - sitting on an internet forum spewing out hate. Not even a Grammy to show for it or bi-polar to blame it on. Or have you Marietta?...lol

God damn it, get me a whiskey

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Persephone In Exile's picture

Ben, yeah, it's really as much of an absurdity as what I was talking about back there. Well, seeking help and getting sent to a religious program. Which has honestly become completely non-debatable to me, it's just patently absurd. It's only slightly more bizarre than that thing's weird attraction to this site, really.

Clara's picture

PIE, I am sorry about your plights. It is an addicition as serious as any other. Where my confusion enters is when people go to AA and then get frustrated with a program that is designed simply to work with alcohol and that is the shared experience the members have. Of course, many have other problems as well, but I think people create some angst for themselves and inappropriately blame a prgrams that was designed for something else. I have friends that are in OA and AA. While OA is a copycat of AA and they may have AA-speak in any number of things, it really isn't the same fellowship with shared experiences. I don't understand the guy that has to eat five pizzas.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

Persephone In Exile's picture

Speaking of fellowships, this is one for people who had the common experience of rejecting 12 step dogma. That's a good thing, IMHO.

Thanks Clara, my plights are over and done, thankfully. I luckily managed to learn great things from them, though!

Ironic's picture

Is stupid. It isn't adding content. I can't see the point.

btnben's picture

As soon as Clara pipes up, that's it. The thread becomes AA vs SMART, or "that didn't happen in my meetings". I tried to make a thread for daily crap but she wouldn't have it.

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Clara's picture

For starters, START a SMART meeting if you believe it helps others. If there isn't anything available, then START it. That is how most meetings get started - to fullfil a need. That is what I expect these people on this board to do that complain about lack of options and I've said it every time a new favorite pops on the board that is so superior to AA. If you think so, then download those materials and START A MEETING. I don't care if it is SOS, SMART and anything else. BE the change you'd like to see. But what I hear especially from Massive is her visits just turn into a "why I hate AA" schpeil.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

becket's picture

Clara: "I can't see how anyone would dispute the religious roots of AA."
Persephone In Exile: "How is that you can't see that? It's religious to the core, and some people out here refuse to go to something religious in nature. It's just that simple, really, Clara."

I rest my case.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

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becket's picture

You do understand, Clara, that Persephone In Exile completely trounced your statement and accused you of failing to understand the religion factor of AA, right? I don't think she reads your posts. I think she just throws them back over the net at you without considering what you're saying.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Pennywise's picture

Not necessarily. PIE said that AA is "religions to the core." Clara acknowledged that AA has "religious roots." Those two statements are not the same thing. In fact, the latter could be spun to argue against the former.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Pennywise's picture

Example --

Citizen: Mayor, you must take down the "Merry Christmas" banner on City Hall. That banner is religious to the core in violation of the First Amendment, as it is a clear endorsement of Christianity.

Mayor: Although Christmas has religious roots, the "Merry Christmas" banner is steeped in tradition and has become a part of our secular culture. Thus, the banner is not an endorsement of religion and can remain.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

becket's picture

How many religions are actually down there at the core? Is it possible that of the religions to be found at the core, Judaism is down there? How about Lutheranism? How about Methodism? (Is that like Method Acting?) How far down does one have to dig to get to all these religions at the core? Looks like we all need to "Dig Deeper."

P.S.: Is it a hard core? Should I bring the BARO-LUBE GOLD SEAL™ Drilling Fluid Lubricant?

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian

Pennywise's picture

It's deep and hard alright. You'll need plenty of lube.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

becket's picture

I'm on it, boss.

“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
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live_free_or_die's picture

deep & hard.

Are you a boy or girl judge?

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Clara's picture

One thing I love about El Paso is the religiosity. We DO have boards with messages, athough that would be illegal in Iowa. Places advertised their Lent menus, and I loved the Christmas decorations.

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Pennywise's picture

OK I'll bite:

Why would it be illegal in Iowa for a church or private business/home to have religious signs or advertise Lent menus?

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Clara's picture

All I know is my cousin owns a convenience store in Iowa, and he couldn't have Merry Christmas on his lighted signs. A church could, of course.

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live_free_or_die's picture

So would it be illegal to plant signs in a private cornfield that are anti-abortion in Iowa?

Say, on the west side of northbound I-380 between Iowa City and Cedar Rapids, Iowa.

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Pennywise's picture

I doubt she knows what she's talking about. Free Expression. If she is right about her cousin's sign, it probably has something to do with a generally applicable city ordinance that is unrelated to the content of the sign.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Pennywise's picture

Clara, that's not meant as a jab at you. I just think you are missing some info about why he supposedly could not have the sign.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Persephone In Exile's picture

Or side by side with signs for XXX stores on I-70 in between KC and Columbia in Missouri...I always love that bit of weirdness.

Pennywise's picture

Or perhaps, if true, her cousin owns some convenience store from a chain where the business agreement prohibits religious displays.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Persephone In Exile's picture

That seems far more likely, Penny.

live_free_or_die's picture

I used to drive I-70 KC to STL for continuing education every year. Lousy road. But the signs kept me awake.

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Persephone In Exile's picture

If you keep going through Illinois you eventually get to a gigantic cross. And I do mean gigantic.

avogadno's picture

AA is religious in itself, regardless of how it came to be. It derived from an evangelistic cult, the Oxford Group, and it is indisputable that there were few changes other than the name and methods used to bait members.
"Early AA got its ideas of self-examination, acknowledgement of character defects, restitution for harm done, and working with others straight from the Oxford Groups and directly from Sam Shoemaker, their former leader in America, and nowhere else." ~Bill W.

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genejoe's picture

"Morality is doing what's right regardless of what you're told. Obedience is doing what you are told regardless of what is right."

The obedience required by AA members for the AA organization is a primary reason why AA is a religious organization, irregardless of the issue of morality.

Tradition 2 of AA says: 2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority - a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.

This is simply not true. Those who govern AA are the ultimate authority.

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The Huffington Post | By Andres Jauregui Posted: 04/ 6/2012 1:21 pm Updated: 04/ 6/2012 5:52 pm

It's the kind of thing one might expect from an episode of "Portlandia," but the message is real -- and its biggest advocate says that it's rooted in scripture.

A Portland, Oreg., Methodist church has displayed a controversial message on its community billboard that reads, "God prefers kind atheists over hateful Christians."

Tom Tate, the pastor of Rose City Park United Methodist Church in northeast Portland, told The Blaze that the sign shows his 385-member church's "radical hospitality" towards people who feel alienated from faith.

In a phone interview with The Huffington Post, Tate said the he's received reactions from people all across the country, from Massachusetts to Texas, and that people have been overwhelmingly positive about the sign's message. Tate estimates that he receives "30 to 40" positive responses for every one negative response.

"The ones that are upset think we are pitting atheism against Christianity," Pastor Tate told The Huffington Post, "We are actually pitting kindness against hatefulness."

An Internet poll of readers on The Blaze, a conservative website created in part by Glenn Beck, showed that, at time of writing, more than 69 percent of respondents agree with the statement, compared with 22 percent that disagree.

Tate said the message on the sign is exemplified in the Bible through the parable of the Good Samaritan. To the Hebrew religious establishment of the time, Samaritans were like atheists, Tate said.

The message was posted on the church's exterior billboard in late March, and has since gone viral across social networks.

The Rose City Park Methodist Church is a United Methodist Church affiliated with the Reconciling Ministries Network, an organization dedicated to the inclusion of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities.

Clarification: A previous version of this article failed to indicate that the Rose City Park Methodist Church is in the state of Oregon.

Source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/06/god-prefers-kind-atheists-over-ha...

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: )

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They do not appear to be hosting Bill Wilson chanting at their facility. The Portland Area Intergroup does appear to be doing quite well for itself pulling in $52, 868.54 in tithing from the surrounding groups in the January to September time frame of 2011. A detailed listing can be found here: http://www.pdxaa.com/LinkClick.aspx?fileticket=Dp-4Ol7rfOs%3d&tabid=112

Than there is the plea for more money:

Prudent Reserve

As suggested by General Service Office, Portland Area Intergroup adopted the principle of maintaining a "Prudent Reserve". GSO suggests that central offices have 1 to 3 months of operating funds set aside in the event of an emergency.

Portland Area Intergroup determined years ago that a 3 month reserve would be adequate. Since the 1980’s Portland Area Intergroup had been able to acheive and maintain the reserve account in the amount of approximately $36,000. This equals 3 months operating expense.

$1,000 is maintained as a bond in lieu of unemployment insurance.
$5000 is ear marked for literature replacement.
$30,000 would be allocated for 3 months explenses to keep the office open.

This money is kept separate from the operating account in either money market (savings) accounts or Certificates of Deposit (CD’s).

The current prudent reserve balance is $8100.00 (Sept 2010). This is the beginning of the re-establishment of the reserve account.

Our goal is to raise a total of $36,000 to have a fully funded prudent reserve account.

Please help by making a direct personal donation to PAI Prudent Reserve Fund.

This can be done by clicking on the "Support PAI" banner on this page. Also by mailing a check to Portland Area Intergroup, 825 NE 20th ave, Suite 200, Portland Oregon 97212 or a make a direct contribution the next time you're at Intergroup!

GROUPS: make sure you put your Group ID number on your donation if you wish us to credit your group's donation activity.

Source: http://www.pdxaa.com/AboutUs/PrudentReserve.aspx

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has a $19,000,000 prudent reserve.

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SandyB's picture

over 30K in their prudent reserve.

Unless someone's stolen it by now

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Yet they claim that they have nothing to do with the fellowship. This makes no sense whatsoever.

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It is typical that AA people who are in a position to change things are more worried about dogma than trying to help those that would not attend normally because of all the God stuff. I saw so many walk away after one or two meetings who just hated all the crazy stepper talk but who needed some proper help and support. AA has turned into a nice little quaint, cozy and religeous group in some places that is totally out of touch wig helping those that require it. So many cannot afford rehab or proper councilling but would rather do nothing than sit with a group of nuts.

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