Advice for the wives, quoted from the chapter: To The Wives, found in the Alcoholics Anonymous Text/Big Book.
It's a wonder how this still gets printed as an inspirational self-help book for anyone with the excessive chauvinistic "suggestions" that it contains. I'm amazed that any woman can read this chapter and consider it has having any value other then good fuel for a bomb fire. Furthermore, how can any editor read this and consider it appropriate as an instructional piece?
“Don't condemn your alcoholic husband no matter what he says or does”
“The first principle of success is that you should never be angry”.
“Be sure you are not critical during such a discussion”.
“Attempt instead, to put yourself in his place”.
“Cooperate, rather than complain, you will find that his excess enthusiasm will tone down.”
“You must not crowd him. Let him decide for himself”.
“But you must be on guard not to embarrass or harm your husband”
“We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with pride, self-pity, vanity, and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty”.
“Be careful not to disagree in a resentful or critical spirit”.
“Even your hatred must go. The slightest sign of fear or intolerance will lessen your husband's chance of recovery”.
“Make him feel absolutely free to come and go as he likes”.