I have good news.
Since the only requirement alcoholics anonymous is a desire to stop drinking (and the only requirement for narcotics anonymous is a desire to stop using drugs), I've decided to do H&I service work and speak at these institutions to share my experience strength and hope as a recovering person with substantial clean time.
My first speak will be next Thursday evening :=)
There is a women's sober living home in my area and they host daily meetings AA meetings. I've been attending the open meeting for 4 weeks now, mainly to support a friend. Although she has "problems" with the program she does find some of the support helpful. She knows exactly how I feel it and it doesn't pose a problem for either in our friendship. Although I've shared only once at this meeting, I realized that I had sufficient clean time to give a lead at a nearby hospital that has a rehab program. I explained my willingness to the GSR and this got the ball rolling.
I thought that this would be the perfect time to respectively share my feelings about the 12 step model of recovery and explain in detail what works for me. My focus will not be what doesn't work (besides a brief explanation about how I wasted 5 years in XA) but other options that I have found useful.
I'm a bit nervous because I thought I'd be "lying", and I don't want to fuck with people's heads. We all know that AA/NA doesn't give a crap but I didn't find that a good reason to do it myself. I've discussed this with my sober buddy and my husband and found that as long as I speak the truth - "all will be well".
I'm just going to speak my mind and hope that if there are people listening that have the same issues with the program as I do then my speak will be helpful to them.
Comments
avogadno
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 17:38
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Ben, about courage.
TY :=) EEk, I'm nervous as heck already though. I don't like speaking in front of large groups. But this is the first time that I'll be talking openly about how I recovered from substance abuse and I actually feel as if I might be helping someone else. Before, I always felt that I had to be careful and say the "right" thing. The whole truth comes out this time.
I'll be sure to let you all know and thanks for your support!
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btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 17:42
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Nerves are a good thing
Make them work for you. The only thing you have to do is tell the truth. Be honest and your strength will grow as the talk progresses.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 17:44
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And look at you Avo...lol
Going out and talking in front of people. It's always the quiet ones you've got to watch...lol Whatever happens, enjoy it.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 14:52
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I don't mind if they know
I don't mind if they know that. If they are reading the BB, they know it already. The fact is she is duplicitious and it is wrong, regardless of what program she likes or dislikes. This isn't about program. I was all for it at first until I had a second look. It is about motive. She wouldn't have asked the GSR about it at all if it weren't AA volunteers doing service work. If it was just to go talk about alternatives, she could do that one her own by simply calling the facility, speaking to the Director and offering up her services. This is sleazy.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 14:55
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Sleazy?
You mean like paying a recently widowed woman $0.25 on the dollar for her home and then bragging and laughing about it? You mean that kind of sleazy?
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 14:57
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Aren't you the one that talks
Aren't you the one that talks about ad homs? She's just wrong, but these kinds of people and circumstances tend to take care of themselves.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:01
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Ad homs....
....aren't true. Please answer, just this once. Was the example I gave sleazy? It's not a difficult question. It's one of those yes/no ones - the ones steppers always hate...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 18:12
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I don't know anything about
I don't know anything about your example. I never have.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
causeandeffect
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:00
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How exactly is she being
How exactly is she being duplicitous? Pushing ineffective quack faith healing on sick people is what sleazy is.
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btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:02
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Isn't it amazing.....
.... how agitated the hive gets at the slightest threat to the collective?...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
becket
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:41
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I agree, btnben! The Orange
I agree, btnben! The Orange Cult gets positively lathered at any sign of disagreement!
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
JR Harris
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:01
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Will you quit talking about the Big Book like is means anything
The BB is cult propaganda Clara, it means nothing to anyone here except the AA trolls who come here to defend the failure called Alcoholics Anonymous.
It you want cult literature to quote with something new, try Dianetics. The cult of Narconon is heavily into niacin therapy, which the cult of Alcoholics Anonymous with the help of Bill Wilson was also looking in to.
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btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:03
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The BB is great
The cheap thick paper is a far superior firelighter to newspaper.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
dandammit
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:16
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Speaking of thick paper- The
Speaking of thick paper- The first Big Book printing was on thick paper to deceive people to think it was worth the money.
Sleazy.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:21
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Not only that....
Believe it or not, that is why it is called the big book. The printers called it that taking the piss. Bill W wanted to charge the equivalent of $55-60 today for it. The problem was, he ran out of Billshit to fill it up with. You look at it. The margins are wider than normal, the typeface is larger than normal. And thick paper is the cheapest as well as the bulkiest.
If you think about it, why would anyone call it the big book? Blue book, i can understand. Big book was a joke from the printers - AA was a joke from day 1...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
alkieanon
Fri, 03/09/2012 - 00:20
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The Little Red Book
No kidding, not Mao.
Clara
Fri, 03/09/2012 - 08:03
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I am glad for that as I have
I am glad for that as I have vision problems. Large print doesn't bother me.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Fri, 03/09/2012 - 08:12
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Try taking the blinkers off
It's great when you finally throw them away. You can never understand why you had them on for so long. You feel a little foolish, but, hey, you can see everything so much more clearly.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Fri, 03/09/2012 - 11:59
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I don't think so, Ben. It's
I don't think so, Ben. It's worked well for me but should it stop working, that's a thought for a different day.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
avogadno
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:03
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Thanks C&E and everyone
Thanks C&E and everyone that supports my decision :=)
You are right, I am doing this because I do care. It's one of the reasons that I blog and research and fight for other options.
I've put a lot of thought into this and have discussed it at length. I don't want to hurt anyone. These trolls think that they know exactly how, and what, and why I'm doing this. No clue really, none. I suppose it's because they love AA and the message and don't want me or anyone else "interferring" with recruits for the cult. Whatever. These are people's lives. They will hear the compassionate truth from me.
I said before, it's about choice. I will mention that those that are choosing to work the steps that I wish them luck and I hope it works for them. I'm not going to bash, lol. I agree that would be rude.
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Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:10
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Avo, i've seen this before
Avo, i've seen this before and it played out badly. Person angry with AA decides to take on ______________ with the truth. Fill in the blank with whatever you want. You sound self-serving and self rightous, all because you didn't like it and feel that AA "stole" 5 years of your life. This is just a way of acting out toward AA and you went through AA to do it. You aren't going to be honest with whatever fallout you have, so I am glad to have seen it before.
If your true motive is to be helpful in offering alternatives to others, something that you've tried and that did work for you, do it through the front door. Otherwise, that's just what it is, sleazy back door behavior.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:14
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You want sleazy backdoor behaviour.....
.... see Danny...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
causeandeffect
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:29
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Yeah and bill wilson with his
Yeah and bill wilson with his bimbo.
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causeandeffect
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:16
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You're welcome. I know of
You're welcome. I know of nobody better for the job. You are articulate and fair when you speak. There is nothing steppers fear more than the truth. It threatens them tremendously. We can so clearly see the lies. They are coming out now and showing themselves for what the program really is.
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alkieanon
Fri, 03/09/2012 - 00:29
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Care
That makes perfect sense.
becket
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 14:55
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avogadno: you should audio
avogadno: you should audio tape your presentation and bring it back here for applause and scourging.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
avogadno
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:04
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Audio
Yes, you would suggest that.
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becket
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:12
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Now wait a minute. I'd be
Now wait a minute. I'd be interested to hear an audio tape of this event. Most people here would applaud, some others would disapprove. Do you disagree? I am not inviting character assassination by stating the truth. Why do you find it appropriate to stoop to such a thing?
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
btnben
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:14
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You and truth Marietta?
Don't make me laugh.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
causeandeffect
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 14:57
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What's dishonest is pushing
What's dishonest is pushing ineffective faith healing nonsense (devised by a narcissistic, lying, cheating thief stock swindler) off on people who are vulnerable and desperately in need of real help. YOU GO GIRL! If even one person finds their way to sobriety because of you telling the truth, that will be much better odds than they have in AA.
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Trisha K.
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:08
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Yeah you go girl!!!
I am convinced you really don't care who you trample on so long as your agenda is fed.
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JR Harris
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:43
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Did you ever think she would be "saving" them from the cult?
Or are you saying the cult of Alcoholics Anonymous is the only thing that works?
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:11
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I'll be interested in knowing
I'll be interested in knowing what the Director of the facility says. Of course, Avo won't tell the truth about it.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:16
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Assumptions again
That's not the AA way Clara. Have you even read the BB of Billshit?
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 16:28
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Of course it is.
Of course it is.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
AntiDenial
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 17:21
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Unlike you Clara, I would
Unlike you Clara, I would believe AVO. You keep lying on this blog. I have not seen that with AVO.
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Clara
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 18:17
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I haven't lied at all. We
I haven't lied at all. We simply disagree. I believe that Avo has the right to say her piece and I supported that right out of the gate until I realized that it was AA service work. That is the only part of it I disagree with. All I can think of is that it must be hard as hell to get participation that a GSR would even permit a non-group member to do it. But absolutely do I support a person's right to speak her truth. I just question the way it is happening.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 18:26
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You're doing it again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Making assumptions!!!!. You're saying Avo's not a member? What are the membership criteria?
"But absolutely do I support a person's right to speak her truth. I just question the way it is happening." - Open your mouth and let the words come out is the accepted method.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
AntiDenial
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 18:30
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I think we have figured out
I think we have figured out on this blog that you dont approve. You can still stop lying.
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becket
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:15
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I'm not seeing lies. I'm
I'm not seeing lies. I'm just reading a difference of opinion. If you have a counter to these posts, and you can respond without accusations of lying, then let's read them. Otherwise you are merely calling her a liar. Where is the justification for that? Is it just in your mind because she does not share your entire viewpoint?
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
btnben
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:16
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But you are a liar Marietta
So where's the problem? All you have to do is say you are NOT Marietta and that will be it...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
becket
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:46
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Perhaps you misconstrued the
Perhaps you misconstrued the intent of my post, btnben. I was speaking about Clara. She had been unfairly termed "a liar". I haven't seen lies in her posts. A difference of opinion, yes, but no lies.
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
AntiDenial
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:31
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No it is not a difference of
No it is not a difference of opinion. It is stating lies. Marietta/Clara will make statements that you know are totally false, BECKET/CLARA/MARIETTA you are LYING.
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becket
Sat, 03/10/2012 - 13:47
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Would you be good enough to
Would you be good enough to identify some of the lies you claim Clara has dropped on the forum?
“The essence of the independent mind lies not in what it thinks, but in how it thinks.”
― Christopher Hitchens, Letters to a Young Contrarian
Pogue Mahone
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:03
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Way to go Avo!!!
Way to go Avo!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=un0s0NSsWNY&feature=related
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:09
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Great Pogue...lol
That's going to get used again...lol
Have you heard this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KDjDKwgoyUc
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Pogue Mahone
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:21
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that is a first for me Ben.
that is a first for me Ben..thanks for the link.
avogadno
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 21:04
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TY Pogue
Going to go for it!
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Pogue Mahone
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:29
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Lets the slogans roll!
Lets the slogans roll!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AyTrSXoB0J8
btnben
Thu, 03/08/2012 - 15:35
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'king brilliant
That is so funny. Where's my phone...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
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