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Murder in the Rooms of AA
One AA sponsor was falsely implicated in the slaying of a prostitute, while another was gunned down after divulging someone's top-secret "fourth step" confession. Just how protected are you when helping people who may be mentally ill—or even dangerous?

Killing the messenger

By Tony O'Neill

08/12/11
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Confessing less-than-savory acts to a trusted AA sponsor is not an unusual scenario for most people during the early days of their recovery. A “fearless moral inventory,” in fact, is one of the backbones of the 12-step program. But what would you do if someone confessed something to you in an AA meeting that went far beyond the bounds of the usual the usual tales of drug-induced bad behavior? What if they confessed to cold-blooded murder? When 20-year-old Bob Ryder came to his sponsor, Floyd Nadeau, with something on his conscience, Nadeau surely had no idea that what he was about to hear would have a lasting impact on both men’s lives.

There have been many high profile cases of murder prosecutions hinging on admissions of guilt coming to light during AA meetings. This one was among the most biizarre.

According to Nadeu, Ryder confessed that he had been getting high with a prostitute at his home in Lewiston, Maine when the prostitute started to “irritate him” by constantly complaining about her tough life. The final straw came when Ryder allegedly caught the woman rifling through his wallet. According to Nadeu, Ryder said that he grabbed the nearest thing to hand—a wooden clock—and viciously beat his victim to death with it before concealing the body in the basement of his home.

Nadeu later told authorities that at first he was highly skeptical that Ryder had murdered anyone. His sponsee, after all, had a history of mental problems, which had led to his being discharged from the marines. But to prove he was telling the truth, Ryder supposedly took Nadeu down into the basement and showed him the decomposing corpse. Still, it would be over two weeks before Nadeu went to the police; when questioned on this seemingly inexplicable delay, Nadeu claimed that he was worried about violating AA’s teachings on confidentiality.

But the sponsor had even more revelations to come. After Ryder was arrested, he claimed that he and Nadeu had been cruising for prostitutes when they picked up the victim, Danita Brown, a mother of nine children. Ryder claimed that he and Nadeu had spent two days partying with Brown before the murder, and though he killed the woman while Nadeu was out, he insists that he immediately told Nadeu about his crime as soon as he came back. Ryder added that his sponsor had advised him to use baking soda to cover the corpse’s odor. Nadeu denies all the allegations. "I had nothing to do with it," Nadeau is reported as saying, "and I've been cleared." The truth will no doubt be unraveled now that Ryder has been formally charged with Brown’s murder.

Of course, it’s really not a surprise that a program that deals exclusively with addicts—and thus people who are sometimes, by extension, leading criminal lifestyles—might involve those who have several nasty skeletons in their closets or have issues beyond substance abuse. There have been many high profile cases of murder prosecutions hinging on admissions of guilt coming to light during AA meetings. Last year in Alabama, Jamie Letson was found guilty of the 1980 murder of an 18-year-old student. The case remained unsolved until Letson confessed to her AA sponsor about it in 2002. There was also the case of Southern California resident Scott Gordon Reynolds, who was sentenced to 50 years for the murder of his AA sponsor, Uriel Noriega, in 2008. The killing, which took place in front of multiple witnesses during a meeting at St. Luke's Episcopal Church in Long Beach, California, occurred because,when Reynolds snapped after he found out that Noriega had told other members at the AA meeting that Reynolds was gay. He said the secret was known only to his mother and his sponsor. Reynolds told police he took the gun to the meeting with the intention of committing suicide in front of the group, but once he got there, he had a change of heart and decided to murder Noriega instead. If Reynolds’ version of events is to be believed, this case is an interesting inverse of Ryder’s, where an alleged disregard for AA’s principle of anonymity led to tragedy. (The prosecutor has gone on record to say that Reynolds’ claims were never fully proven in court).

Still, both of these cases bring up some interesting ethical questions, such as: what are the limits of confidentiality in AA? What should you do if you’re sponsoring someone who seems mentally ill or dangerous? And is there any kind of legal protection over what you say in a meeting or to a sponsor?

According to Michael Cohen, the executive director of Florida Lawyers Assistance and a legal expert who is in recovery himself, "Probably the best course of action would be for a sponsor to let the sponsee know in advance that if the sponsee confesses to a crime, there is always a possibility that the sponsor could be forced to disclose the information, or that the sponsor might do it voluntarily if they were really troubled by the disclosure. I would advise anyone I sponsored that if they needed to disclose this type of information, they might want to consider doing it to a therapist or clergy, in which case it would be protected by statute."

“Unlike attorney-client, doctor-patient, substance abuse treatment counselor-client, or priest-penitent relationships, there is no statutory confidentiality protection for sponsors or 12 Step group members, and they have been compelled in some cases to testify about information received,” Cohen explains. “The police could threaten to charge the sponsor with obstruction of justice if they refused to cooperate.” Under US law, while therapists and other professionals are legally obliged to disclose information to the authorities if they believe a client presents a danger to themselves or others, this statute protects them from having to testify in court.

“We’re only as sick as our secrets,” says one AA mantra. But what about a case where the secret is murder?

There are a few legal precedents here. In the case of Cox Vs Miller, a 2002 decision by the 2nd circuit court of New York struck down a previous decision by the Southern District of New York Court’s which said that a confession of murder by Cox (disclosed to several AA members) fell under the auspices of New York’s clergy privilege, the 2nd circuit court’s decision was that since the confession was not made “in order to seek spiritual guidance,” it did not qualify. However, the court did not go as far as to analyze whether or not Alcoholics Anonymous should be treated in the eyes of the law as a traditional religion for future clerical privilege analysis, therefore leaving something of a grey area for future cases.

AA is a program that doesn’t differentiate. Meetings take place everywhere from exclusive Beverly Hills neighborhoods to the bowels of maximum-security prisons. When I was in drug treatment, I felt that I could—and should—talk openly about the petty theft and fraud I’d engaged in to fund my heroin habit, as it was part of the process of “getting better.” “We’re only as sick as our secrets,” says one AA mantra. But what about a case where the secret is murder?

“Spiritual suggestions are not above the law,” said an AA spokesperson I talked to about these issues, adding that there is often confusion between the idea of anonymity and “privileged communication.”

“The tradition of anonymity does not mean that AA members enjoy privileged communication as we are not professionals,” the spokesperson told me. “However, Bill W. tells us in the Big Book that our sobriety allows us to become citizens of the world again. I think that based upon our core principles, most AA members would encourage one another to take responsibility for their actions.”

AA has long strived to protect its identity as a program without leaders, a program built upon the foundation of addict helping other addicts. But I can’t help but wonder—given some of the examples detailed here—whether or not some kind of formal training should be required before someone takes on the massive responsibility of sponsoring another addict. After all, if I were to set up an office tomorrow and advertise myself as a psychotherapist, I imagine I would be closed down in a matter of weeks unless I had the necessary qualifications. Yet AA sponsors, unpaid and untrained, are entrusted with the spiritual and mental wellbeing of fragile—and occasionally dangerous—newly sober people every single day. Surely it’s not too critical to suggest that the program as a whole should consider implementing some basic protections for sponsors and sponsees alike?

Whatever the eventual truths that emerge from the Ryder murder case however, anyone who argues that cases like this prove that the rooms of AA are dangerous is missing the point. There’s nothing more threatening happening in the meetings and fellowship than anywhere else where you may come into regular contact with your fellow human beings. (During the years I attended AA meetings, the most dangerous thing I ever encountered was the second-hand smoke wafting over from the usual huddle of chain-smoking ex-dope fiends.) For every tale of a 12-step tragedy, there are hundreds if not thousands of stories being shared about lives being saved. And sometimes, as it turns out, the rooms themselves can be a safeguard—as they were for an unlucky armed robber who was gunned down while trying to rob a particularly well-armed AA meeting in Greenville, South Carolina. How many other places are there where the guy sitting next to you—who happens to have a concealed weapons permit—is willing to risk his life in order to keep the group safe?

DannyB II's picture

"And sometimes, as it turns out, the rooms themselves can be a safeguard—as they were for an unlucky armed robber who was gunned down while trying to rob a particularly well-armed AA meeting in Greenville, South Carolina. How many other places are there where the guy sitting next to you—who happens to have a concealed weapons permit—is willing to risk his life in order to keep the group safe?"

Where is Massive and JR when ya need them.

DannyB II's picture

Absolutely, if the building where the AA meeting was being held was the actual place the crime was committed and the AA members there at the time who witnessed chose to cover it up.
I have no problem with this example. They should be prosecuted to the fullest extent.
But as we have seen from Mark and Ells over on Stinkin Thinkin and their friend Junior Harris, they include anyone remotely connected.
They don't care if the crimes were committed in Siberia real close to the Chernobyl Nuclear Accident, so long as those suckers were in AA for one bloody nano second we got em. AA is responsible.

btnben's picture

Chernobyl is in the Ukraine Banjo Boy.

On the BB point, Billy Redden, the guy in Deliverance, couldn't play the banjo. A guy called Mike Addis played it. Here's what one of the stars said about BB

'Jon Voight claimed Redden "was a boy who had a genetic imbalance – a product of his mother and his brother, I think. He was quite amazing, a very talkative fellow."'

Careful what you wish for Danny...lol

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

DannyB II's picture

Who told you the young boy with autism was not playing the Banjo??
Please provide real evidence.

btnben's picture

"Billy Redden (born 1956 in Rabun County, Georgia) is an American actor best known for his role as Lonnie, the banjo-playing boy, in the 1972 movie Deliverance.
Redden, then 15, earned his role in Deliverance during a casting call at Clayton Elementary School in Clayton, Georgia. To add authenticity and humor to the film, the filmmakers found Redden to fit the look of the inbred and mentally retarded banjo boy called for by the book, although Redden himself is neither. His distinctive look was enhanced using special makeup.

In his famous scene, Redden plays the instrumental "Dueling Banjos" opposite actor Ronny Cox on guitar. It is noted for foreshadowing the film's theme: exploring unknown and potentially dangerous territory. Redden could not actually play the banjo. A local musician, Mike Addis, reached around from behind Redden; this was disguised using careful camera angles."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Billy_Redden

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

JR Harris's picture

Simple answer - Yes, AA is a corporation, the Intergroup is a corporation, the AA area is a corporation and some groups are a corporation. Case closed. Name me one corporation that is not responsible if they allow unsafe practices or members to harm other members sexual, financially, mentally or physically.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Pennywise's picture

The key word is "work place." I think you'd be hard pressed to convince the court that an AA meeting qulifies as a work place, or even a place of business. I also thing you'd be hard pressed to make the case that the volunteers who perform service work such as chairing meetings are the functional equivalent of AA employees. That is one of the main reasons why I think it would be hard to hold an AA group liable for the acts of its members.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

JR Harris's picture

Tradition 8 - "Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers."

Nearly every AA Intergroup have a PAID, WORK PLACE Office Manager, who up to this point have not been challenged in making the Incorporated company liable. They are getting paid to manage all of the day to day operations of the Intergroup. The Office manager is listed by full legal name and address of the Tax Form 990.

"Office manager is a profession related to office supervisory positions.

People that hold office management positions conduct special studies and based on the results of these special studies, they develop reports. Apart from developing reports, they also provide input to management on the development of policies and procedures. Office management may also provide paralegal support, and may draft correspondence for management, schedule appointments, etc."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Office_manager

The liability of the Office Manager extends beyond the actual "workplace" to include offsite events. These people are being paid to manage the flow of information in the "corporation" and the corporation they fail can be held liable. If the corporation holds an offsite party and knowingly allows unsafe actions to take place, the Intergroup is liable, it just takes the first lawsuit.

Here are a few articles about it on various sbjects:

http://www.techrepublic.com/article/hostile-work-environment-a-managers-...

http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2011/11/16/2778637/lawsuit-alleges-sexu...

http://www.charlotteobserver.com/2011/11/15/2778097/suit-boss-made-unwan...

http://www.allbusiness.com/legal/legal-services-litigation/13349194-1.html

http://pattyinglishms.hubpages.com/hub/Bully-and-Abuse

http://www.hrwebadvisor.com/headlines/article/ethnic-slurs-mexican-origi...

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

alkieanon's picture

An office manager is just that, someone who manages an office. It would be a tough task to try to claim that an office manager is liable for actions done by someone else in a meeting far, far away. Maybe some lawyers have tried and failed. We only hear about the lawsuits that pass the first legal sticky wicket and are allowed to proceed.

Persephone In Exile's picture

Sorry, I've been trying to bite that one back, but I just had to say it.

JR Harris's picture

I believe there is a legal difference difference between paid and unpaid positions in a non-profit corporation. The employees at the AA corporate offices in New York are isolated from liability by the unpaid groups beneath them where the problems of liability arise. This way everything that could possibly cause liability is at the lower Intergroup level, the only paid (usually) member of the local Intergroups are the office managers who are paid to manage the flow of information in and out of the Intergroup using the revenue generated by the non-profit, they are the guardians so to speak. If they mismanage this flow and cause an unsafe condition that they are aware of, I believe that the assets may be able to be attached to pay for the suffering this mismanagement has caused. If it is gross negligence on the part of the office manager, not only can the assets of the Intergroup be endangered, but the office manager could be criminally charged. True this hasn't been tried yet.... but this is the weakest link in the command structure of AA that I can find that could open it up to liability.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Pennywise's picture

The bigger problem is 3rd person liability. If the office manager negligently fails to keep the floor dry and someone slips and falls, that is one thing. It is another thing to hold the manager liable for the intentional bad acts of others. The law does not usually favor such liablity, except when the defendant has a special duty to protect the victim or when the person doing the bad act was under the defendant's control.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Trisha K.'s picture

There is not a AA home group recognized by AA/GSO that is a corporation. There are clubs that have formed corporations consisting of AA members but they are not AA/GSO.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

Pennywise's picture

JR, the question is who could sue who and for what. The office manager could sue if she was sexually harnessed by her superiors, and non employees could probably sue her superiors if they were sexually harassed by her while she was performing her duties. But the question is whether the office manager or the group is liable for the torts of non-employees committed against other non-employees. This is going to be a tough sell, especially considering that AA members would usually not be considered customers and are not obliged to pay anything to attend the meeting. Yeah, sometimes the group sells books. But I think the connection of any harressment at a meeting to the sale of books or other commercial activity is going to be too attenuated under most circumstances. It's possible to envision a situation where there might be liability, but such a situation would involve the most blatant forms of negligence such as the office manager directing a newcomer to the sponsorship of someone she knew was a dangerous sex offender. Even then it might be a tough sell in some states.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

JR Harris's picture

An office party is a company advertized event as a celebration for people associated with the company or corporation. It is often open to non-employee friends and families of the corporation and volunteers such as unpaid interns. The company collects or donates funds which end up in company bank accounts providing the legal link and liability. The AA Intergroup does the same thing, thereby causing its liability.

https://pihrablog.wordpress.com/2010/10/04/tips-for-throwing-company-hol...

While most of the lawsuits of this kind have to do with the dispensing of Alcoholic beverages which does not apply to AA, sexual, financial and bigotry lawsuits do happen and do show a legal precedence, it just hasn't been tried with Alcoholics Anonymous........... YET.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Pennywise's picture

The major difference is that office parties are related to employment and commercial activety. An AA meeting is more like a church gathering than it is a work related function. Can you find any data where a church has been held liable for the acts of its non-employee members at a church function or elsewhere?

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Pennywise's picture

Also, the analogy to AA here would be the non-employee guest of an employee doing the harassing, as distinguished from an employee committing the tort.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

JR Harris's picture

Churches realize that they are vulnerable to lawsuits at their gatherings by not only the Priest or Pastor,but the other non-paid non-employee members of the congregation. Why can't the Spiritual, not Religious Alcoholics Anonymous at the Interchurch Center in New York do the same thing?

NOTE: Unless you want to read the whole passages, just do a search for "lawsuit", "legal", etc... on the following links, otherwise you'll have to read all of the Spiritual and Religious stuff. What you want to read is usually near the bottom. This is just a small sampling:

FAITH BAPTIST CHURCH
http://www.myfbc.com/Constitution.htm

First Congregational Church
http://www.firstcongregationalbranford.org/safechurch.html

New Hope Baptist Church
http://newhopeforrichfield.com/WhatWeBelieve.aspx

Sitka Bible Baptist Church
http://www.sitkabiblebaptist.org/statement.html

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Pennywise's picture

Technically speaking, anyone is "vulnerable to a lawsuit." The real question is whether the plaintiff will prevail. This can vary depending on the state, and there are oftentimes special rules when dealing with CHILDREN. In essence, it often comes down to whether there is a "special relationship" between the church and the child. Some states have found this relationship, others have not. When reading cases where such a relationship is found, I think much of the reasoning would be inapplicable to an AA meeting. I think, and I could be wrong, that this would be so even if the victim at the meeting was a minor. As the Supreme Court of Maine has said in Bryan R. v. Watchtower Bible & Tract Soc., 738 A.2d 839, 1999 ME 144 (Me., 1999):

"The creation of an amorphous common law duty on the part of a church or other voluntary organization requiring it to protect its members from each other would give rise to "both unlimited liability and liability out of all proportion to culpability." Cameron v. Pepin, 610 A.2d 279, 283 (Me.1992); see also Jackson, 1999 ME 26, ¶ 8, 723 A.2d at 1221 (finding no special relationship between the American Legion and a "regular customer" except as created by the Maine Liquor Liability Act, 28-A M.R.S.A. §§ 2501-2520 (1988 & Supp. 1998)); Hughes v. Beta Upsilon Bldg. Ass'n, 619 A.2d 525, 527 (Me.1993) (finding no duty to prevent spectator from injuring himself during fraternity activities)."

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Pennywise's picture

Here's a question:

Are there allegations of this type of harassment occurring AT THE MEETING? I'm not talking about 13th Stepping or harrassment after the meeting. What I want to know is whether people are being sexually assaulted literally right inside the meeting rooms.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

DannyB II's picture

You both are overly educated clerks who work the 11pm to 7 am shift at Walmart for christ sake, STFU!!!!
I am sick and tired of being tormented to hell.

btnben's picture

Nobody's tormenting you BB - must be the voices in your head...lol.

If you're sick and tired, stop coming here. I don't think you'll be missed somehow...lol

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Pennywise's picture

It's telling how you would disparage Walmart employees, as if there is something shameful in working an honest job there. Do you think you are above such people, Danny?

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

btnben's picture

I'm from the UK, so I may be talking rubbish. Over here we don't have court mandated AA attendance. Someone with an alcohol related case can use AA attendance as a sign to the courts that they are facing up to their problems. I do know though, that if people were being sent by the courts there would be a general call for some kind of monitoring under Health & Safety considerations.

I've no idea really about American law but, surely, if the majority of attendees at ANY kind of gathering are court mandated, some kind of monitoring system should be in place? Maybe a law is there but hasn't been applied to AA, I don't know. Monitoring would certainly put some noses out of joint...lol

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Pennywise's picture

Perhaps there is a law I'm missing. That's certainly possible. Here, groups are not monitored. Now, if a meeting takes place in a prison or some other facility where the attendees are in state custody, the state has a special duty to protect. But people attending outside meetings are not in state custody for purpose of this special relationship to protect, so I don't think the state is required to monitor anything at those meetings.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

btnben's picture

...... more along the lines of, if a court mandates someone who is considered vulnerable to AA, shouldn't there be some kind of monitoring of who the leaders and the other participants are? You wouldn't send your kids to an unregulated kindergarten, would you?.

Afterthought : If the rule was changed so that meetings where slips were signed had to be vetted, I wonder how many meetings would sign slips?

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Pennywise's picture

That's a good point. There certainly SHOULD be some type of monitoring in those cases. My guess is that AA would throw its hands up and say "not our fault. We didn't tell you to send them to us and we are not equipped to conduct such monitoring." In such a scenario, any liablity would probably fall on the coercing authority as opposed to the AA group.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

btnben's picture

.... a clever move if SMART could come up with some kind of monitored scenario to offer to the courts as an alternative to AA. Do I feel a stranglehold loosening?

God damn it, get me a whiskey

Bill W, Deathbed

http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc

Pennywise's picture

I'm not sure SMART would want to take on that task. I certainly would not want to risk any type of liablity for some of the people you see at meetings. Plus, I think SMART is more concerned with actually helping folks instead of trying to manage hoards of slip signers in hopes that they might be able to convert a few to a religion.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Trisha K.'s picture

What happens when SMART starts to get the slip signers. They will be coming that is for sure. As soon as another program takes off and becomes anywhere near the size of AA, watch out.
SMART would be better off to stay small and not promote (advertise) itself to much.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

Pennywise's picture

That's a good point, Trisha.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

live_free_or_die's picture

AA and 12 Step treatment is a failure.

Keep the alternatives to this failure a well-kept secret. Brilliant.

Maybe sexual predators and violent criminals should be put somewhere where they can be monitored. Any ideas?

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Pennywise's picture

I think the main factor is more about accessibility and less about secrecy, at least here. It's hard to get to SMART, esspecially when there is an AA meeting right down the street seven days a week, you know? Personally I don't need ANY type of meeting to stay sober, and many coercees don't want to be sober anyway. So it often boils down to convenience/logistics.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

live_free_or_die's picture

..and made my point all in one post. Sweet.

You agreed that a troll raised a good point about keeping SMART small, thus avoiding the perps.

PennyW said, in part, "I think the main factor is more about accessibility... No the main point is AA and the 12 Steps are flawed and don't work. My bit about secrecy was in jest.

Second point, as SMART grows, it becomes more accessible. Yes, AA is more prevalent -that needs to change.

Third, I don't need ANY meeting either, and yes, mandated attendees don't want to be at a meeting most likely. However, the point made of keeping an alternative to AA small to avoid perps was ridiculous.

I believe this perp possibility was raised by biodoc awhile ago. I belieive it was said "be careful what you wish for".

That is the wrong attitude to take, at least for me. And didn't biodoc go on to start a SMART meeting?

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Pennywise's picture

Very well said. Good points.

"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."

Yes, people need more effective help and a secular choice like SMART. True any alternatives could become more popular. In SMART's case, they are set up totally different. Part of the reason AA is so dangerous is how meetings are handled. SMART would not allow or tolerate the behaviors that occur in AA/NA meetings. Also they do not promote people to disclose their phone numbers or require sponsors.
This alone make it a safer environment. It is about having balance and a standard of care.

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Clara's picture

What I don't understand is why Ironic would fight so hard for the rights of the mandated, but then complain the people involved with crimes would be in the rooms of any help program. AA gets all these crooks, says he! Well, let SMART get its share. It already asks for free space for meeting, so how will it pay for security people? Are they supposed to contribute their services for the cause?

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

causeandeffect's picture

Clara, some meetings do pay rent. I really wish you'd quit misrepresenting. But I know you won't. It's all you have.

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Clara's picture

The faciliator manual says differently, that they cannot afford to pay but might be able to make a contribution. The arrangment of our club is 60% of basket take goes to rent, even if 60% might be 10.00. I am not misrepresenting anything, and you are right. The facilitator manual is all I have. We don't have any of these meetings here in EP. Maybe I will start one.

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causeandeffect's picture

Trying to poison the waters, Clara?

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causeandeffect's picture

We all know of another stepper who joined an alternative to AA. He's a real AA old timer. He went there as a moderator with the sole intention of getting people to relapse. He thought it was really funny. Nothing entertained him more than being toxic toward people and hoping they would fail or take his bad advice. His name is mondotuna. You could get some pointers from him.

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Trisha K.'s picture

So why would you say such a thing. You really can go on, can't ya causy.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

causeandeffect's picture

We know who he is and he admitted to everything when he got caught. It's all in writing for everyone to see. Maybe he could help you write your pornographic material about people on you resentment list.

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Trisha K.'s picture

Of course he did. i believe it was at your kitchen table as he was facedown pounding the table going, why! why! did I drink again.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

JR Harris's picture

that they even let people sit at it:

"In the kitchen, she said (Anna Perch), “Bill Wilson said that this was the very table where he and his friend Ebby sat in 1934 in Brooklyn and had that fateful discussion which eventually led to Bill having his last drink… It’s the one place left in the house that we allow people to sit. We allow them to have their picture taken, and sometimes people want to unload their story of recovery or their own story of hope… They’ve been known to cry.”

Source: http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2012/03/05/stories-from-main-street-hoping-f...

You better make your pilgrimage plans ahead of time, they may be blocking if off soon, just like the Little River Club in Miami.

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Actually I think this will happen done the pike a bit. There are some agencies that get trained in SMART Recovery to add to peoples options in recovery.

Criminals In Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous
www.nadaytona.org

Trisha K.'s picture

I think the homegroups would restrict mandated people from coming to their meeting if they had to be responsible for them.

“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine

Clara's picture

Some groups already do. I loved Roger Ebert's column on AA where he said some Chicago groups don't work with the Courts. If you don't want to be there, AA doesn't want you there, and that is true. I know groups in MB that don't sign slips, either, not even with a stamp. Then those people find groups that do.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

JR Harris's picture

Quit name dropping, it's not relevant because all cults have famous TV members. Besides that you aren't being humble. Shouldn't you be with your husband or talking to your male Sponsor about your love life?

"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.

Clara's picture

Who is name dropping? Anyone that has outed him/herself can be discussed. I think Tom Cruise has damaged the church he loves so much. I certainly wouldn't want to identify with him, and I don't think he gets that his antics are what do it. There are many famous Scientolgists that don't behavethe same way. Besides, it was the first thing I read on OP, so blame Orange for namedropping.

Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.

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