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Maybe it could be of future use if we had somewhere to collate any reports of AA linked suicide. I thought AA Horror Stories would be the best forum topic for this.
Any stories/links, let's get them all together in one place.
Here's a good starter from Orange's letters.
msafrany
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 14:07
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Yes Marietta
So you keep saying. But we have moved on. We are now here and you are still a troll.
avogadno
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:07
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Negative
When I'm not blogging or doing anything in relation to activism I live my life free of my anger.
I don't think of it as a bad thing because it doesn't control my life and it doesn't promote unmanagability in my life.
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Clara
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:11
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But why would activism
But why would activism necessarily involve anger? You know what they say - anger is a poison that does nothing to anyone but you.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
humanspirit
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:03
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Clara says
"AAs smile and invite those to find their own path if AA doesn't work for them."
So does your AA group direct people to other groups and sources of support if it is clear that AA is not appropriate and clearly not working for any particular individiual struggling with a drink problem? If so, that's great! Or do you just smile in a patronizing way and basically tell them to fuck off and that their only alternative is to do the steps or die?
Clara
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:06
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Human, you have never heard
Human, you have never heard me communicate that why so why would you think I would do it to them? Of course not. AA takes the posture that if you want to try something different, to go on your way. What is so hard to figure out about that? It is in the BB. I don't have to do someone's homework for them. I guess I figure if they want to try something else, they at least know what it is! LOL! And they know that they can still call me, if they are in AA or not.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
avogadno
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:12
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Your lucky and so are they.
"And they know that they can still call me, if they are in AA or not."
I was told the "girls would have your back if you start going to meetings again".
"It is in the BB."
Please quote the BB Clara. Page too.
Regardless, if I remember the history correctly Dr. Bob forced a break-up between his daughter and the love of her life. He than arrange a marriage for her with a young man he counseled from AA. People learn from example too.
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humanspirit
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:20
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Clara
Just asking how you treat those who need help and don't find it in your group, Clara. I'm very glad that your smiles are not patronizing in any way, because that would not be right, would it?
I would have thought that if you regard yourself as a christian and a good person who is seriously concerned about helping alcoholics, you might try to direct people to some kind of proper source of help if AA clearly isn't working for them. So I was asking if you did this.
Please don't refer me to anything in the big book. It is a wholly mendacious and irrational piece of drivel, which does nothing to address the issue of addiction at all. As I said earlier, this is like a revolutionary socialist referring me to the works of Trotsky in order to convince me of the merit of his or her beliefs.
Clara
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:40
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Then don't ask. It seems
Then don't ask. It seems to be a ploy to tell people what they can source or not source, and that is neither fair nor appropriate, yet it happens on this blog often while I don't see it so much on other forums here. . And you are right. Nowhere in the BB do they talk of addiction because they believe the disease model. This is the same as when the poster was posting that she/he knew atheists with more knowledge of the bible than Christians. They know it so that they can dispute it with faith based people. I figure if people want to leave, they have already made a choice as to where to go. And I am available to them even if they choose something other than AA.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
Trisha K.
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:10
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I don't know if cursing is allowed, Humanspirit.
"basically tell them to fuck off"
Can we chill out on the swearing.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
humanspirit
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:25
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Trisha
Are you offended by my language, Trisha? You have obviously not seen some of the remarks made recently by a person called Trace LIn. Or the language used by someone called Marietta.They will definitely get you reaching for the smelling salts.
Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 18:19
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No we (pro's) all have said it.
Just needed to correct your statement.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
btnben
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 18:25
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Reminds me of Carmen...lol
Dan.....sorry "Trisha" is just so desperate to be taken on by ANYONE. It's horrible being friendless, isn't it Dan....sorry "Trisha"...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:29
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Uh...the 95% that it doesn't work for is a large percent
Then again you also get the ones made into a "martyr" for the AA faith when they die from faith healing. Then you get the ones that end up in jails and institutions. I'd say AA doesn't work for about 97-98% of the people.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 18:33
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.....are you referring to my statement back a ways?
The 2 million members plus 750,000 visitors. JR you are as clueless as we are regarding how many alcoholics maintain there sobriety.
One thought I have always had though. There is a super large number of people who come through AA that never needed what AA had to offer. I believe they are counted in this percentage and they should not be.
IMO this statistic 95%-98% or whatever you want it to be so you can make your point is baseless and has no real merit. The alcoholic who saved his life (ask Penny) could give a shit less about this stupid % you have been peddling, JR. You like to play games with this statistic like it is your toy but behind these numbers are real people struggling everyday to sober up. You ask anybody in this field the success stories for addicts and alcoholics just isn't that good. I don't blame that on HAMS, St Judes, AA, SMART or any of the programs out there trying to help people. The bottom line with any of these programs the person has got to want to get clean. It comes down to what the person wants.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
AntiDenial
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 12:07
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http://nadaytona.org/suicide
http://nadaytona.org/suicide-prevention-resources/
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humanspirit
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 13:41
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suicide and depression
It wouldn’t surprise me at all that the self-defeating and doom-laden philosophy of AA could lead to increased depression and suicide, and anyone with a basic knowledge of psychology can see why. One of the worst things people are told is that they will never get better (indeed some nutters say that their ‘disease’ is getting progressively worse even after they’ve been sober for years). So instead of working to deal with the problem, congratulating themselves for overcoming it, moving on and having a great addiction-free life, people are told that they absolutely must base their whole lives around the fact that they once got addicted to a chemical substance and spend all their time obsessing about it. It is a life sentence – and pretty depressing too.
Obviously trying to cope with the mindfuck that is the 12-step programme and attempting to interpret it as some kind of solution for addiction (which it patently isn’t) is pretty bad for anyone’s mental health, unless they are seriously deluded. And being required to dwell on and list all your bad points (never your good ones), and to confess these to an unqualified stepper, is an absolutely appalling thing to tell people to do. Depression is classically a symptom of repressed anger - anger turned in against the self - and anger is the very emotion people in AA are told they cannot ‘afford’. This doesn’t stop people feeling angry, as it is a natural and sometimes very useful human emotion, but they are made to feel bad about even feeling it, let alone acknowledging or expressing it. So increased depression is almost inevitable.
But the most damaging thing is the idea of powerlessness. Take a person’s sense of free will and individual self-determination away from them, and you’re in very dodgy waters, psychologically speaking. Steppers actively preach against the idea of people being in control of their own behaviour and recognizing that they have freedom of choice (for obvious reasons), whereas these things are absolutely essential for mental health - and for successfully dealing with addictions too. The feeling of having no control over your own life is a major factor in all kinds of mental illnesses.
This is before you include all the psychological bullying, the initial love-bombing and then withdrawal of support in the case of non-conformity, backed up by dire warnings that if you don’t buy into this nonsense you will inevitably fail in your attempts to help yourself (which all too often can tragically turn into a self-fulfilling prophesy). There is all the sneering, the putdowns, the mindless repetition of thought-stopping slogans in answer to sincere doubts, etc. . . . It’s enough to derail the mental health of the sanest of people.
Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 14:29
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I am powerless over alcohol,
I am powerless over alcohol, which is why I don't pick it up. Picking it up while knowing what it leads to for me is free will. It's best for me to not even go there. And I aree with that about anger. All of our emotions are useful and can be used positively. It's when they get out of whack that they become damaging. I also believe that depression is repressed anger, something they say in Alanon. When you can get to why you are angry (and people often do not know) you can release it. Some people like to be angry, indignant an the like. It even give some people a rush. Some people are just addicted to fight, as I've seen demonstrated here. I disagree with something that I think you said in another post about alcoholic personality. I can see an chronic alcoholic mind in people.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 14:38
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Are you powerless over "Faith Healing" and brainwashing?
I see you have learned the vernacular of the voodoo Spiritual, not Religious program of Alcoholics Anonymous. You are even starting to quote Al-anon. Do you realize that if Lois Wilson followed the tenets of the program she devised, that she would have divorced her adulterous, unemployable husband, Bill Wilson?
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
causeandeffect
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:02
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It seems to me that you're
It seems to me that you're the one addicted to fighting because you're here and you keep coming back, all day, every day. If it weren't for trolls there would be no fighting here. And 50 years of research trying to find the alcoholic personality failed to find any support for the idea. Perhaps what you're seeing is people in AA who've accepted wilson's projection.
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Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:10
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Of course, I keep coming back
Of course, I keep coming back. I don't mind responding to people. I'll answer an alert when it comes. Not a problem. I am certainly not the only presence on this board. But that differs from all the other garbage that takes place here. I am sorry, but I can figure it out through their behavior. It shouldn't take any 50 years to figure that out, and I didn't need to be in AA, either. I figured that out early in life.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:18
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Why don't you answer about Bill C, Wilsons first failed exorcism
Can you really argue that Bill Wilson and his "first" experiment with an "Alcoholic" he captured and brought back to the Spiritualists (Swedenborg) home of his parents wife failed miserably and then he used his death to sell "Big Book(s)" to fund his adulterous lifestyle?
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:26
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This post makes no sense.
I am sorry for the people who don't agree with you because you call them trolls and accuse them of being disruptive.
I think they find you to be the same way. You need to remember what Orange wrote yesterday. Opposition is welcome here but refrain from attacking another member personally.
Funny, "you keep coming back, all day, every day".
"If it weren't for trolls there would be no fighting here." Then stop trolling people you don't agree with and spend more time trying to have a conversation.
Just a suggestion.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:32
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I believe that AA is the one that says............
If you don't like the meeting or the people, just go to another meeting......
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
msafrany
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:12
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Its ok Marietta
Orange is letting the both of you troll as long as you keep it friendly. Not picking up is an action accomplished by willpower and choice. Therefore yoy are not powerless. Give up the shit aa teachngs and you will be amazed before you are halfway through.
Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:16
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You can perceive it anyone
You can perceive it anyone you want to as long as it works for you. I believe that I am powerless over acohol and I choose not to pick up that first drink. Sorry, Orange said as far as he knew, we were different people, and we are. He's also in a position to check IP addresses, so why don't you ask him? I guess the speculation is too much of a sport for you, but I can play along. It's not offensive to me.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
causeandeffect
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:36
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IP addresses are easily faked
IP addresses are easily faked. How do you think all the dannys keeps getting back in?
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msafrany
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:34
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Bat.shit.crazy
Or open an account at any library, friends house or about a thousand other options. Its cool. Good to see someone make a complete ass of themselves thinking they are so smart. We already have the ole Marietta back to aboyt 85%. It will ust be a matter of time before she goes off again. Usually when the meds run out.
Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:35
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Sure, MS. As if you could be
Sure, MS. As if you could be on as often as I am from a library or a friends house or a thousand different options... Funny.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
msafrany
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:40
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Stepper logic
You only need to register elsewhere Marietta. Two more weeks, three max Marietta. Tic toc, tic toc.... Our princess can only hold out in the shadows for so long until she craves the spotlight. Tic toc 85%already.
Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:35
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I don't know how that can be
I don't know how that can be faked as I understand IP addresses are to your router, not just a new email address and username. I could be wrong.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
btnben
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:38
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You are wrong Clara
It's a sort of given...lol. Ask Dan.....sorry "Trisha K" - he's an expert...lol
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 13:36
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That's right. An AA will
That's right. An AA will always be wrong on this board, but I asked my husband. You could use your account anywhere in the world, but the router would be different. If I took my computer from my home and used my verizon interent service, I would be using the same email name and account, but the tower could be traced. I just think you are wrong. But ask Orange to do it! I am sure that he will tel you that he has absolutely nothing to do but to prove to you that Clara is just who she says she is.
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
AntiDenial
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 13:44
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There is no proof needed that
There is no proof needed that Clara is Marietta. Marietta has already proofed she is Clara.
Trolls are Trolls are Trolls.......................
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AntiDenial
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:37
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Thats why we still have the
Thats why we still have the trolls.....
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Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:29
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I would also take your own advice.
Read Oranges post again. I don't think the pro's here will be given anymore freebie's.
Good luck and worry about yourself.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
causeandeffect
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:49
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so Trisha
When all the different dannys PM you, do they threaten to rape you, too? I understand he does this a lot.
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Trisha K.
Thu, 03/01/2012 - 17:15
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I don't recieve any PM's from a Danny.
C&E this post is unnerving and I am asking you to never involve me again with this subject. I do not know Danny. Why are you just sitting here telling me about this. If it is this important call the police or do whatever you need to do.
I am not interested in your fight with Danny, please leave me out of it.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:02
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Very well written and we apprecaite your opinion.
Since you don't have a degree in psychophysiology nor are you a doctor, scientist or a professor then we can only deduce that this is a novices opinion. I thank you for the effort you put into writing out your opinion. The AA you are describing above probably came to you in a long lost episode of "Outer Limits". The thing I found is common amongst many members here is the need to write the most dramatic experince you can. I mean you folks just load it up. Example, if you witnessed one person who happened to go to AA commit suicide then you saw many commit suicide. Everything is tragic, heart wrenching, the members are called steppers, anger (rage) is everywhere and repressed, AA is causing suicides, hurting children within 500 miles of a meeting, AA accepts, trains and harvest criminals to be organized into groups to go out and gather more steppers.
Many of you gather here to compete who can write the most effective post. There is no concern for the truth just the impact. That is what you want to impact society so they help you get rid of AA. Well folks 99.99% of society doesn't live in the fanaticism that some of you live in. They want rational "garden variety" truth. Simple undramatic evidence that points them in the direction that AA is bad. Guess what that is never going to happen because AA/NA is not bad. The people who attend AA/NA can be bad or do bad things.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:06
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Do you have those credentials?
Or are you a street AA evangelist who has read the "Big Book", the "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions" and participated in the pagan spiritualist ceremonies of Alcoholics Anonymous? Please cite sources in any rebuttals.
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
causeandeffect
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:17
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JR, that's how we know that
JR, that's how we know that Trisha's just new in AA. AA members abhor any science that's not from the 1930's. The only doctors they respect are silkworth, bob and tiebott.
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live_free_or_die
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 16:18
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Bob was a proctologist..........
who can respect that?
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Trisha K.
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:52
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No I am your "garden variety" drunk.
I take a more casual approach to my relations with fellow members. I have read all the books you mentioned and found intelligent thought provoking lessons in all. Since I don't consider my self a pagan and I am not spiritualistic nor interested in the ceremonies, I find I can not help you here.
My sources are my actual experiences. I hope this covers the citation issue.
“The more I traveled the more I realized that fear makes strangers of people who should be friends.”
Shirley MacLaine
JR Harris
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 16:01
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Mine are more current and real time
"My sources are my actual experiences. I hope this covers the citation issue."
"Tradition 10 - Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never be drawn into public controversy." Please follow orders from the Interchurch Center if you are an AA member and don't comment.
AntiDenial
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 19:01
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I really get a lot out of
I really get a lot out of your posts, good writer and insight.
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btnben
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 13:49
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You got it HS
You made me think there. Dangerous...lol. The people who "get it" and stay in AA. You seemed to sum it up with "unless they are seriously deluded. ". Anyone who goes there and avoids the initial brainwashing leaves after a fairly short time. Those who are left must, logically, be forming a pool of "concentrated delusion". It's only in such an environment that so a whackjob philosophy as AA can exist, let alone thrive.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Pennywise
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:35
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I know that my victory is
"I know that my victory is none of my human doing. I know that I must keep myself worthy of Divine help. And the glorious thing is this: I am free, I am happy, and perhaps I am going to have the blessed opportunity of "passing it on." I say in all reverence-Amen." ~ "A Feminine Victory" by Florence Rankin (p. 217 in 1st edition of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous)
Sadly, Florance R. committed suicide shortly after the 1st Edition of the BB was published. One can only hope that in death she found the peace she said she had found in AA. Needless to say, her testament about feminine courage, strength, and hope was deleted from future editions of the BB.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
avogadno
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:33
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Victory
RIP
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Pennywise
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 16:14
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Now look, I'm not going to
Now look, I'm not going to pin her suicide on AA. But here is my point:
By reading her testimony in the Big Book, Florence gives the impression that AA gave her the serenity she needed to save her life. But clearly she was not OK. At all. The danger is that a prospect would read her story, accept it face value, and then wonder what she is doing wrong when "The Promises" don't come true as Florance suggested they did for her. This could cause the prospect/newcomer to think of herself as "constitutionally incapable," which could lead her to sink further into depression. The prospect/newcomer might not understand that Florance's story was nothing more than platitudes. Indeed, I suspect Florance felt an enormous amount of pressure to write the things she wrote even when inside she was not feeling it. Moreover, she might have felt a duty not to share her depression due to fear that she would be letting AA down. Of course, that's just conjecture. But there is always pressure in AA to talk about how great your life is since you started stepping, even when deep down you might be hurting badly. That's when faking it till you make it can turn deadly. It really can be dangerous to believe the dogma.
"Hokey religions and ancient weapons are no match for a good blaster at your side, kid."
btnben
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 15:57
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Nail on the head
Thanks Penny - a concise 100% spot on description of how it was and how it still is now.
God damn it, get me a whiskey
Bill W, Deathbed
http://www.youtube.com/watch?source=patrick.net&v=Sdn3O6aaMNc
Clara
Wed, 02/29/2012 - 16:00
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I don't think her story is
I don't think her story is included in the BB, at least not in my edition, so that danger isn't there. She left the fellowship, started drinking and she died. I wonder where peope get the notion that there is "pressure" to talk in AA. I have never gotten up and told my story to a group of people while I certainly have told it to my sponsor and my group of friends. I say it when it might be useful for someone to know about it. But I don't dunkalogue at meetings. I know peope that never speak but try to get them to shut up when we go to dinner afterward?!
Remember Christopher Stevens when you vote.
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